The comfort zone

[Kha0s]

I was just reading a thread in the Lounge titled "Is anyone else tired of failing?" and it got me thinking.

Some people fail and end up with zero money, but others (like me) achieve a decent income (three times the national average in my case) and stop there, failing to make more. We are mentally trapped there.
They reach their comfort zone and are unable to earn more; they don't have the mindset to earn more because nobody in their family earns more. I could say they lack the millionaire mindset.

I suppose many, if not all, who come from middle or lower-class families go through this stage, when only their mindset is holding them back from earning more.

What is the secret to overcoming this?

Because honestly, deep down, I want to earn more. Some days I think about that and start working hard, but the next day I feel mentally exhausted and want to relax, and everything falls apart.
Then, after a few days, feeling guilty of procrastination, the burning desire to do more returns, I start working hard and the next day I give up again.

I hate these waves and don't know how to overcome them. I want to make the desire to have more burn, and give my best every day, without quitting.

 

[djsobuj]

Same here.

 

[Anticitizen1]

money is an aspiration for a start... Then you should transition at plaing a role in developing the industry (or the neighbouring, industry upper one level) and creating value for people. Motivations shoudl change after acquiring the money goal.

 

[Kha0s]

money is an aspiration for a start... Then you should transition at plaing a role in developing the industry (or the neighbouring, industry upper one level) and creating value for people. Motivations shoudl change after acquiring the money goal.

The thing is, I'm not where I want to be financially either.
But it seems like that's not enough to push me to do more. I think it's because I've never had a lot of money to know how that feels. Maybe when you feel the power of "a lot of money," you are motivated to do more.

What the heck do millionaires have inside them that makes them dedicated day and night to what they do? At least that's what they say, or others say about them.

 

[Anticitizen1]

The thing is, I'm not where I want to be financially either.
But it seems like that's not enough to push me to do more. I think it's because I've never had a lot of money to know how that feels.

What the heck do millionaires have inside them that makes them dedicated day and night to what they do? At least that's what they say, or others say about them.

dunno hope one day we find out.. probly they are getting used to their job after some time, and identify themselves with it... Maybe deep down you don't very much like the business you are in, so money is only goal in that area...

 

[BNB]

People have hard time to define whats real. You are not capable to earn more money.
You are not capable to scale your methods. If you were, you would do it sooner or later.
Then your comfort zone hits, where you realize that you are doing well and have enough.
One day, you could lose that too, because nothing lasts forever. Your money, your knowledge can become worthless.

Fight back, give up things that make you not working. You very well know them, just select and remove them.
I know teenagers who invested in crpyto and flip it to 1M+ while myself with all my experience couldn't do it.
They joined crypto year before biggest pump and managed to make that money with right coins.
They were hungry and there in the right time. I was wasted and not giving a fuck about crypto.

That is one example, but we are very limited and we have no clue about money streams and making huge money.
Piece of information is worth a lot, piece of right knowledge, right decision. You are keep doing your thing on repeat and getting nowhere.
Research everything and learn about money, historically. You need to know every single detail about the money to master money.
If you are not ready to master money, master sports, master something else, and you will easily become wealthy, master attention.

 

[bubble1990]

‌‌‌‌‌The famous American novelist Jack London once said, "You can't wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club." This statement applies not only to writing novels but also to any job. You can't wait until you feel passionate to start working; otherwise, you'll end up lounging on the couch. You must have discipline, force yourself to work, and the joy and meaning of work will be found in the process. However, the prerequisite is that you must sit down at your computer and start working.

 

[Kha0s]

However, the prerequisite is that you must sit down at your computer and start working.

This is what I've been trying to do lately: start with the simplest thing.
If I have something to do on the computer, I just open the computer and look at what needs to be done, nothing more. And after a few minutes of looking, I take the next small step, maybe a click, and then the next click. And this way, with small steps, when I don't want to do anything, I start to do something.
I hope it's for the long term.

 

[UnusualSubstance]

What the heck do millionaires have inside them that makes them dedicated day and night to what they do?

They build systems and then they outsource the things they hate to do.

 

[netsoft]

I had the same issue last year and the year before. What I did differently this time was to set a goal and break it down into minor milestones. Then I treat myself something decent if I achieve a major milestone. Example:

Major milestone: Having 2nd affiliate site up
Minor milestone: Complete about-us page by xxx date.
Break it down further: Task of the day: Gather photos/data.

 

[uchimatal]

The thing is, I'm not where I want to be financially either.
But it seems like that's not enough to push me to do more. I think it's because I've never had a lot of money to know how that feels. Maybe when you feel the power of "a lot of money," you are motivated to do more.

What the heck do millionaires have inside them that makes them dedicated day and night to what they do? At least that's what they say, or others say about them.

Same - I never desired physical things like nice cars or fancy clothes. I'm sacrificing years of my life building my business, work 7 days a week... why?

 

[Kha0s]

They build systems and then they outsource the things they hate to do.

Hmm, that's a good point.

I have to admit that I struggle with delegation.
I prefer to do everything on my own because, at least to me, it seems like I do a better job. I suffer from perfectionism syndrome.
Then, I accumulate too many tasks that need to be done, and it's difficult for me to tackle them.

 

[bonzo90]

I think goals are a big help when you need to overcome this block. If you set a goal of $1 $5 $10 a day then $100 by the end of the month ect it will help you stay motivated. The goal doesn't have to be purely money.

 

[Kha0s]

What I did differently this time was to set a goal and break it down into minor milestones.

That a good method also, but still doesn't motivate me to start acting when I have too many chunks to do

 

[Kha0s]

I think goals are a big help when you need to overcome this block. If you set a goal of $1 $5 $10 a day then $100 by the end of the month ect it will help you stay motivated. The goal doesn't have to be purely money.

I get your point, and it got me thinking that the absence of motivation might stem from not having a precise plan. Achieving small goals, like making a specific amount of money each day, as you mentioned, can be motivating and affirm that you're heading in the right direction.

However, I have a few failed attempts to achieve more. So maybe failure is what discourages me

 

[Mrnewbie]

I suppose many, if not all, who come from middle or lower-class families go through this stage, when only their mindset is holding them back from earning more.

What is the secret to overcoming this?

Failing is not the problem, but giving up is. I think people view failure wrong as they don't understand you learn so much from it. I could give you a laundry list of things that have never worked out, but I refuse not to try. Here is an excellent video on it as well.

 

[Kha0s]

Failing is not the problem, but giving up is. I think people view failure wrong as they don't understand you learn so much from it. I could give you a laundry list of things that have never worked out, but I refuse not to try. Here is an excellent video on it as well.

Yes, but when you fail many times, you feel like you've tried everything, and you don't know what to do next. This makes us feel lost, not knowing the next step to take.
With every comment I post in this thread, I seem to come up with a new reason for giving up, but the lack of solutions seems to be another reason to quit.

I'll watch the video a little later

 

[UnusualSubstance]

I have to admit that I struggle with delegation.
I prefer to do everything on my own because, at least to me, it seems like I do a better job. I suffer from perfectionism syndrome.
Then, I accumulate too many tasks that need to be done, and it's difficult for me to tackle them.

Yeah man I get ya, you sort of don't want to give up control.

Eventually, you'll find tasks that you absolutely hate and those tasks take up significant amount of your time.

If you are running at a 100% everything you'll reach a point where your business will stagnate & you won't grow any further.

Before delegating tasks you should obviously use automation to help with what it can.

It sort of reminds me of those entrepreneurs who fret over the design of their products packaging.. before they even have any sales.

Saw etsy sellers on Reddit saying: "What colour envelope should I use?"

Wtf. Pure insanity.

"Don't let perfect be the enemy of good"

 

[elodavid]

Nice inputs guys.

I spoke to a life coach last year about this problem and she said the solution was to change the images in your head significantly and intentionally. Of course she had a process but I didn't see it through.

Basically she said most people have an image of how they grew up in their heads so if they can do better than growing up conditions they feel they're doing OK and subconsciously relax.



I've stepped things up alot more on my own cause I was tired of the cycle.



Start comparing yourself to the very best in your industry. Start dreaming of the very top. Imagine what it ll feel like and determine to get there.



You will find the inspiration when you have more reasons to do much much better.

 

[Kha0s]

Basically she said most people have an image of how they grew up in their heads so if they can do better than growing up conditions they feel they're doing OK and subconsciously relax.

You know, this is a good point.

Start comparing yourself to the very best in your industry. Start dreaming of the very top. Imagine what it ll feel like and determine to get there.

But is there a more tangible way to get over it than just imagining?