Road to become a millionaire.

[cpa_guy]

i dont want to be a millionaire, guys......why do you need that? i'd rather like 3000$ per month, but there is one thing. i want it to be STABLE. so i dont have to worry for the next month. hope you understand.

 

[MAdriven]

Hello everyone, it's been a while since I posted..

In 3 days it'll be a year ever since I started this journey, I'll keep it as transparent as possible

I haven't been satisfied with what I've been able to accomplish, I know I could've done a lot more

However, I took a step back and looked at what I was doing before starting this journey, I didn't even realize that I doubled by income in a year

I didn't realize how much I know now that I didn't know last year, I was able to gather a lot of knowledge in the past year.. the thing is I didn't apply it as much

I faced a lot of fears, and did things I never thought I would be able to do.. the issue I'm facing is that I'm measuring my progress by how much money I make

Even thought I've never made as much money as I make now, I feel like the knowledge and experience I have are not justifying my income. I could make much more than I make now..

But what I came to realize is that something kept me from going on my own.. starting my own thing. The need of validation from other people, and this goes back to my childhood

I've been going to therapy for the past 3 - 4 months, convincing myself to go to therapy was very challenging but at the same time one of the best things I've done this year

I've been smoking pot quite a lot lately, more than ever before..

The thing is that once you have all the tools and you know exactly what you need to do and you don't do it, there's no excuse you can come up with

I've gone from jumping out of bed to work to not wanting to get out of bed for hours..

I realized that doing the things I was doing are not going to change my life, you can read and meditate for years but if you don't take action your life isn't gonna change much, you won't make lots of money just because you read books

And that made me lose motivation towards doing these things because I know that what I need to do to go to the next level is starting a business

I have everything I need, I can't be more prepared to start a business than I am now... and for whatever reason I'm not doing it

Why am I not doing it, what keeps me stuck.. I couldn't respond to these questions, is it fear of failure, anxiety, what is it... ?

I'm still not sure yet, but something tells me is neither of those, it might be the fact that there will be no one to validate me.. There'll be no one to say that I'm doing a great job, there'll be no one to keep me accountable for the things I haven't done..

However I'm confident I'll figure it out, and once I'll have it figured out it's gonna be game over

When I started this journey I was so motivated and driven that I felt like I could do anything. It's a lot harder than I expected, you'll be going through stuff, you'll go back to some old habits and you'll ask yourself if nothing has really changed.

As much as you try you'll face your old self at some point while being on this journey, and that's gonna be tough, but as long as you don't quit you can't lose

If there's something I'm gonna do regardless of how hard it'll get is to never quit..

One the other hand here's a list of things that have changed for me in the past year:

- I am more confident than ever, especially in social interactions
- I am not as anxious as I used to be
- I learned a lot about the business world, I also had the opportunity to be in a leadership position which completely changed my mindset
- I understand my feelings a lot better
- I became wiser

Here's 10 lessons I've learned:

- Don't judge your mistakes, feeling sad or guilty for a mistake I've already made isn't gonna change anything so why putting your energy towards it

- Don't try to predict things in a negative way, just because you did something repeatedly and it went bad doesn't mean the next time you do it it'll be bad, you can't predict the future, so stop assuming how things will go

- Don't compare yourself to anyone, just because someone is smarter it doesn't mean you can't be better than them at whatever it is that you're doing, you don't know what's going on in their life that had them stuck to the level their at.

- Actually listen to what someone has to say, don't just wait for your turn to speak

- Be an observer of everything, people, your thoughts, your emotions, body language .. etc

- Don't make promises / don't claim to do things when you're excited

- Don't make it all about yourself when around other people

- Don't be afraid to be vulnerable but only with people you trust, vulnerability means maturity, not weakness

- Be honest, as honest as you can be

- Don't agree to things just because that way you avoid conflict, be a man and deal with it, say what you have to say

 

[Drake89]

write less english. no one has time to read your words.

I feel just the opposite, the op had great things to say, he has great self discipline and every word he said was worth the read. Great info op this will help inspire us all.

 

[blogmen]

When I started this journey I was so motivated and driven that I felt like I could do anything. It's a lot harder than I expected, you'll be going through stuff, you'll go back to some old habits and you'll ask yourself if nothing has really changed.

I think you felt excitement rather than motivation. Real motivation is when you realize you have no other choice.

Does therapy and smoking weed help you to push forward or they just make you feel better and not care as much about becoming a millionaire?

 

[MAdriven]

I was motivated to the bone, I was so tired of living a miserable life, like you said, I realized I had no other choice, excitement goes away very fast.. you can't be excited for months, you also can't be excited to not use your phone, take cold showers and so on.. you just can't, it's exactly the opposite

Therapy helps with understanding my behavior and what I truly want to pursue, I said I'm gonna become a millionaire but in reality what I want is to live a life I'm proud of.. a fulfilled life, money will come as a bonus for what I'm becoming

Therapy also taught me that you have to dig very deep when it comes to goal settings and things you want in general, what you think you want is not actually what you want. My goals have changed over time and they will keep change until I'm crystal clear about why I want to pursue them.

I've been using weed more as an escape, to not be bored and to not face my demons, sometimes weed can also give you a reality check because you become sceptic about everything you're doing.

 

[MAdriven]

Hello everyone

I'm writing this to let everyone know that a lot of things have changed for me in a good way in the past two weeks

I figured out why I was no longer motivated

I figured out what I really want to do going forward

I figured out how to optimize my environment for maximum productivity

I figured out how to stay motivated and consistent

I figured out what I was doing wrong

I recorded a video that covers all of that

I'm gonna share it with you guys very soon, I'm sure you'll enjoy it, stay tuned!!

Until then, you can follow me on medium where I post blogs every once in a while.

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[MAdriven]

I figured it out!!!

You will find happiness and everything you want in life once you accept that you can't make a conscious effort to obtain them.

You can't kill the ego if your purpose is to become a better version of the self that can control it.

You will kill the ego when you understand and accept that you can't kill it.

In a nutshell, you control your feelings by understanding and accepting that they can't be controlled.

Well, if you have control over your feelings why do you want to get rich, doesn't that mean you should be happy with what you have?

True, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't get rich, that doesn't mean you should stop pursuing whatever you want to pursue.

It's only once you understand that with or without these things you are the same self.

The best way I can explain it:

It's like climbing a mountain whose peak is infinite, and even though you know that you keep climbing it without expecting anything in exchange.

 

[blue4ocean]

You're on the right path. Good luck