At the risk of my own dignity, I’ll transparently say I don’t have many friends these days.
I probably have 2-3 genuine friends - the rest have gone onto college or married. Most of my social circle has sort or deteriorated after high school. And I don’t think that’s abnormal - I’m not some sort of freak recluse, it’s just that most of my friends have done their own thing.
My girlfriend went on a family vacation this week, and I realized something… Most of my current friends are directly from her social circle. Makes me feel like a bit of a mooch.
Since she wasn’t around, I decided to go to a bar completely alone.
Might not sound like much, but I read in a book before that the best skill a man can master is the ability to be content alone. This was probably 2-3 years ago - I’ve never mustered the courage to actually do it. It just petrified me for some reason.
Tonight I did it.
It was a fucking blast. Didn’t go in with any expectations - just wanted to prove to myself I could do it. I had a few shots beforehand, and ended up shooting the shit with some random dude about stocks, marketing, and the politics. Had a girl hit on me, but I quickly shut her down and kept conversating with a newly made friend.
I was worried I’d look like some kind of weirdo - but it was quite the opposite. I don’t even know why I’m posting this, but I highly recommend trying it.
It’s very fulfilling.
) - ). So, yeah: Highly recommended this kind of experience.
