rauza
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- Mar 13, 2014
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So I was diagnosed as ADHD a little while ago which honestly didn't shock me because I knew I was always different in my thought patterns than others.
I was more passionate with things that clicked with me and had stranger angles and perspectives on ideas that would always leave others perplexed. This allowed me to be creative as well as a go-getter for humanitarian aid. It wasn't the worst thing but it made paying bills and other trivial day-to-day things annoying and almost unbearable to do. I also had issues regulating my emotions and hyperfocusing too much on non-productive tasks just as much as productive tasks. I was barely ever able to focus on things that I had no interest in while excelling in the things that I did. I also feel that's why I do much better with Internet Marketing than when I was going to university for classes I could care less about. I am able to give it 150% compared to the mere 25% I can give to tasks that bore me.
I think the reason people stay away from this topic is that people still think ADHD or some disorder they may have is an excuse and not real. I almost always never mention it when doing business in real life because I feel as if others will think I use it as an excuse. So I always just suck it up and do my best to make everybody happy.
Anyways, it wasn't until I acknowledged what I had and understanding how my brain worked that I was able to almost 5x my lifestyle, income and happiness. For the areas I kept failing, I understood why I kept failing. I allowed the environment around me to adjust to the way my brain worked. It's been good, and it's also good having friend groups and a family that understand me and don't ridicule me for it. But not everybody has this.
I've seen cases of people with ADHD and other disorders who killed themselves because people would press down on them the idea that they were just lazy and just had to try harder. It was sad because having a differently wired brain means that even trying your hardest won't give nearly the same outcome as somebody who is neurotypical. This would eventually feed in to depression and would become a perpetuating cycle of hell for most people that could lead to self-harm.
The reason I feel people think this way is because so many symptoms of any sort of mental illness or disorder can have overlapping symptoms of people that are neurotypical. So you could get insensitive comments from people who don't understand that it is not a one-trick pony yet a consistent, and persistent storm of symptoms that are inevitable on the biological level.
Anyways, I just wanted to make this thread so if you have a mental illness you feel that you need to conceal or hide, that I'm always here to talk to and that you're not alone. You may also potentially be un-diagnosed but suspect you may have something.
You don't have to reply in the thread because some people may feel ashamed about it but my PMs are open if you ever want to talk - ADHD or not if you feel like you're struggling.
And just to end it off, some people may find the idea of calling what they have as Mental "illness" is offensive which I agree. ADHD is me and is part of who I am and my personality, I don't consider it an illness. It is who I am. Same as anybody who may have bipolar, autism, etc. I am just using the term that most people would use to identify the people who deviate from neurotypical norms.
I was more passionate with things that clicked with me and had stranger angles and perspectives on ideas that would always leave others perplexed. This allowed me to be creative as well as a go-getter for humanitarian aid. It wasn't the worst thing but it made paying bills and other trivial day-to-day things annoying and almost unbearable to do. I also had issues regulating my emotions and hyperfocusing too much on non-productive tasks just as much as productive tasks. I was barely ever able to focus on things that I had no interest in while excelling in the things that I did. I also feel that's why I do much better with Internet Marketing than when I was going to university for classes I could care less about. I am able to give it 150% compared to the mere 25% I can give to tasks that bore me.
I think the reason people stay away from this topic is that people still think ADHD or some disorder they may have is an excuse and not real. I almost always never mention it when doing business in real life because I feel as if others will think I use it as an excuse. So I always just suck it up and do my best to make everybody happy.
Anyways, it wasn't until I acknowledged what I had and understanding how my brain worked that I was able to almost 5x my lifestyle, income and happiness. For the areas I kept failing, I understood why I kept failing. I allowed the environment around me to adjust to the way my brain worked. It's been good, and it's also good having friend groups and a family that understand me and don't ridicule me for it. But not everybody has this.
I've seen cases of people with ADHD and other disorders who killed themselves because people would press down on them the idea that they were just lazy and just had to try harder. It was sad because having a differently wired brain means that even trying your hardest won't give nearly the same outcome as somebody who is neurotypical. This would eventually feed in to depression and would become a perpetuating cycle of hell for most people that could lead to self-harm.
The reason I feel people think this way is because so many symptoms of any sort of mental illness or disorder can have overlapping symptoms of people that are neurotypical. So you could get insensitive comments from people who don't understand that it is not a one-trick pony yet a consistent, and persistent storm of symptoms that are inevitable on the biological level.
Anyways, I just wanted to make this thread so if you have a mental illness you feel that you need to conceal or hide, that I'm always here to talk to and that you're not alone. You may also potentially be un-diagnosed but suspect you may have something.
You don't have to reply in the thread because some people may feel ashamed about it but my PMs are open if you ever want to talk - ADHD or not if you feel like you're struggling.
And just to end it off, some people may find the idea of calling what they have as Mental "illness" is offensive which I agree. ADHD is me and is part of who I am and my personality, I don't consider it an illness. It is who I am. Same as anybody who may have bipolar, autism, etc. I am just using the term that most people would use to identify the people who deviate from neurotypical norms.
