How to be happy in Life

[hypermk]

Hello bhw,
I'm 21years old from Macedonia.
I have some Question, How to be happy in life?

What is helping you to live?
The time is passing years is going but you are in same position not going forward.
When your whole life is mess up you don't know what to do in life you are stuck you don't know what to do everything that you try not working everything, i have tried a lot of things in my life but non of them working no money to live my parents not giving me money i live my own life just staying in my parents house but i can't anymore a lot of negative energy stress and everything bad nothing good.
From when i was young 14years i was very nervous and from to much nervous i started to not getting nervous because that is waste of time and your mind is blocking you can't think what to do. meditation etc that can help you to not be stressed that is no problem i live only with my mind so I'm happy with my mind but my situation is fucked up i can't move i can't do nothing I'm young big ideas smart i know a lot of things but only i know i can't to nothing for me. I know how to world is going i can reconize people in 3secounds are they are good are they are bad how they think because i have been in a lot of situations.
I know a lot i can help everyone but i can't help myself.......

 

[santerou]

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[HiPurple]

The "mind chatter" that you speak of when sitting to meditate is a commonplace thing. Our minds are not wanting to be still, and the inner tug-of-war, while wanting to quiet your mind, is fear-based (more specifically, fear of a lack of control, such as the "road rage" that many people experience when driving).

The good news is that with a commitment, and with practice, the "skill" of meditation will come into essence, just as with any skill. If you will stick with it long enough (and it helps to do it in the same place at the same time every day), you will find yourself relaxing past the mind chatter.

In the interim, I suggest that when you sit to meditate, you have a small notepad and a pencil in your hand. When a chatter thought comes in, just take a second to write it down, so your mind will know that it's been heard, and then continue with your meditation.

If meditation isn't then your cup of tea, then engage in an activity which is distracting from the anxiety, such as a good comedy, a walk in nature, a comic book.

Momentum is a powerful thing, and if you take the moments to appreciate the "small things", they will grow in number while the other things begin to dissipate.

You are not alone.

 

[MisterF]

Happiniess in life is different for everyone. Some want just the basics such as heat, warmth and a roof over their heads.
Others want a Lambo, a 12 bedroom villa and private jet.

Set your expectations and goals realistically, work hard and keep focused and don't we swayed by others. If you feel confident you can succeed in doing something, then give it a shot.

You are young enough to recover from any mistakes, but in 40 years time do you want to be sat asking yourself; ' why did I not do X,Y or Z when I was in my 20s?'

 

[Mediawiz]

12 bedroom villa and private jet.

I want these both as well but those goals aren't attached to feeling happy (for me).I think that's an mistake too many people make.

If you ask me being happy is a choice and may never depend on external things, situations or other people.

 

[hypermk]

Happiniess in life is different for everyone. Some want just the basics such as heat, warmth and a roof over their heads.
20s?'

Yes that is the problem i have big goals (not big in my contry montly payment is 250-300$ my big goals is 500-1000$ a month that is not a big goal) but i don't have just big goals i know how to make but i don't have that i need the first thing that i need is money, money makes money but i have 0.

 

[Bigdadddy]

Yes that is the problem i have big goals (not big in my contry montly payment is 250-300$ my big goals is 500-1000$ a month that is not a big goal) but i don't have just big goals i know how to make but i don't have that i need the first thing that i need is money, money makes money but i have 0.

Solve this money problems all the happiness will come sprinting towards you.

 

[MisterF]

Yes that is the problem i have big goals (not big in my contry montly payment is 250-300$ my big goals is 500-1000$ a month that is not a big goal) but i don't have just big goals i know how to make but i don't have that i need the first thing that i need is money, money makes money but i have 0.

Money makes money, so get out there and earn money.

If you really are needing money, go work in a bar, go do veg prep or pan bash in a kitchen, wash cars, labour on a building site, go clean toilets, go pick crops in a field....

 

[maslryu]

You can check the book I shared in Freebies section. It should help you.

 

[hypermk]

Money makes money, so get out there and earn money.

If you really are needing money, go work in a bar, go do veg prep or pan bash in a kitchen, wash cars, labour on a building site, go clean toilets, go pick crops in a field....

8hours a day for 7$? 8 hours a day on IM $$$? after 8hours of work i need to go out i must go out everyday and if i go to work i have to buy cigarete 2$ something to eat 1$ after work coffe 2-3$ and for what i work? how to make money to invest in IM?

 

[hypermk]

I can do a lot of things that other can't in real life and i don't want to Quit my dream i can Quit my dream and go to work 8h a day montly payment 250$ and sit at home all the time and doing nothing, no i don't want that

 

[deal with it]

its happening within you, no cost.

 

[imbveej]

its happening within you, no cost.

This is so true. It seems like your biggest issue is your perspective of how things are and should be. I would highly suggest you to choose 1 skill, learn everything about it and start doing the WORK.

Once you get skills you can offer value to yourself or others.

 

[dabz5]

You are probably making ZERO money, that's why you write this buthurt post. Get a job and work, you can't expect to make 500-1000$ from day 1.

 

[hypermk]

This is so true. It seems like your biggest issue is your perspective of how things are and should be. I would highly suggest you to choose 1 skill, learn everything about it and start doing the WORK.

Once you get skills you can offer value to yourself or others.

I need skill that can bring me money as i said my parents not giving me money so i can't learn i need to make money when i have money i will focus on one

You are probably making ZERO money, that's why you write this buthurt post. Get a job and work, you can't expect to make 500-1000$ from day 1.

Yes i make 0

 

[deal with it]

This is so true. It seems like your biggest issue is your perspective of how things are and should be. I would highly suggest you to choose 1 skill, learn everything about it and start doing the WORK.

Once you get skills you can offer value to yourself or others.

are you talking to me ?
my issue ?

 

[maslryu]

I would suggest you start from bh CPA , it will give you quick money which then you can reinvest .

 

[hypermk]

I would suggest you start from bh CPA , it will give you quick money which then you can reinvest .

I'm trying but i have -1000 luck in my life

 

[Wivic]

Get a job first, only then thinking about everything else. Even for sympathy, you have to earn it. Wait... cigarette and coffee cost almost half of your daily pay? And you have to?? Lol, you are really something. But I know, you must be know better, right? Typical. SMH.

 

[hypermk]

Get a job first, only then thinking about everything else. Even for sympathy, you have to earn it. Wait... cigarette and coffee cost almost half of your daily pay? And you have to?? Lol, you are really something. But I know, you must be know better, right? Typical. SMH.

The problem in my country of going to work is that your montly payment you spend i 1 maximum 2weeks for normal life and you working 1month and when you will make money to buy car, house go to vacation? you can't make that from normal job in my country