Stop calling me "Dear".

[Metatrons Cube]

@Toz agreed.. sounds really, really weird.

It's ironic that it's meant as a sign of respect, while at the same time being something that as a native English-speaking man actually feels like a borderline insult or in some way demeaning. Clearly that's not the intention, it's just the way it sounds intuitively.

Anyone confused by OP's thread, here... what's a word in hindi/chinese/your native language you would normally call your girlfriend/wife/mother etc? (What about प्रिय in Hindi or 爱人 in Chinese)

Imagine as two men, every time I spoke to you about business I called you that name, and no-one else in your country you deal with for business EVER used it. Weird huh.

That's all OP's pointing out, and it's fair enough tbh.

 

[Gogol]

What about प्रिय in Hindi

Nopes.. Not in informal conversation atleast.

 

[Metatrons Cube]

Nopes.. Not in informal conversation atleast.

Quick Google Translate copy-paste, just meant to represent the point being made.

 

[bladeds]

@https://www.blackhatworld.com/members/metatrons-cube.1240898/

Yes its a cultural thing, I get it always from people from other back grounds. I find it little irritating though.

 

[Gogol]

Quick Google Translate copy-paste, just meant to represent the point being made.

Totally understandable. I am just stating the fact that "Priya"/ प्रिय is neither used in my mother tongue (Bengali), nor in Hindi for starting an informal conversation. I think it's just a preference.
In-fact, I hate it when people call me Sir. I am not their boss/teacher or something lol. That's a preference some people have, which makes me mad.

 

[Rikabu]

The "dear" thing is common in CHINA, when u contact a seller in aliexpress, they always start a conversation with dear or sir.

 

[shivacharm]

Why are all these guys calling me "Dear"? It happens on BHW, Fiverr, etc. I am not your sweetheart, so stop it. Does this bother anyone else?

its always by bangladeshi and indian..

 

[Faceless Men]

don't call me your dear, call me your daddy!

 

[RobertRay]

Just take it easy. Not only Indian, but Chinese people also like to say dear all the time. I was confused at first, so I understand your feelings.

 

[IamNRE]

It used to annoy me, but now I go around calling people dear... especially if I think they're from Asia LOL

I add people on skype like "Hello dear, how are you?"

 

[peachseo]

bro or mate that's better

 

[Seoking77]

Ok dear

 

[Backlinked]

I fucking love this post, honestly.

 

[Deleted member 977120]

Ever tried to sleep with an Indian? Oh, dear!!

 

[Maverick1111]

Why don't you go to jungle and live there, like a tarzan.

 

[Deleted member 977120]

By the way, my kind of people tend to abuse the shit out of it to sound professional. I know how irritating it could get, speaking from first-hand experience.

 

[Toz]

For several years I had a few guys from Dhaka, BD working for me on a full time basis and they called me sir.

In my family there are no sirs, no Mr. BTBs, not formalities like that at all.

I got to know these guys on a personal basis and asked them to call me by my given first name and neither one felt comfortable doing that as that was not how things worked in their culture despite our personal relationship.

I deferred to their cultural proclivities as that was a sign of respect to them from me.

I'm not saying everyone should do that but I can't for the life of me not see why one would not return the respect being shown to them by accepting how things go in their world.

You completely misunderstood the entirety of what has been said.

 

[barmer]

Love this thread

For me it's mostly people with basic English skills calling me "dear" right from the start.

I don't mind thb, they just want to be polite

 

[Salamouna]

Ok boss

 

[Vk316]

I knew before clicking this thread was going to be fun