Working hard for Success and ISOLATION?

[FredoSatana]

-It's gonna be long but please read it, I'm a newbie and have a question-

Couple of months ago I was broke and in a state of desperation and posted a thread asking for ways to invest with only 150$. What a dumb question..

I have been studying internet marketing and how it works for about 2 years but never applied anything.
Until right after I posted that thread!
I read books, watched courses and started applying some of my knowledge.
I quickly realized It's not easy as all the titles of my google results made it seem to be.
"How to make money online" "How this guys makes six figures with Drop Shipping" etc

I started selling beats online (hip hop instrumentals) and re-focused on a little blog I opened in my mother tongue Italian to share some knowledge in marketing and generate an income through affiliate programs and adsense.

The launch of the blog was terrible, I didn't get a single view in the first week but after a while someone saw one of my articles and reposted it in a relatively big Facebook Group and It got me more readers and emails than I ever expected and a nice steady growth.
I took it more seriously as I made a little money through my aff. programs and started really busting my a** to find new ways to monetize and attract more people.

My days are programmed like this:

- 5 am wake up and do yoga and meditation
- 6 am read/study and work on my projects
- 8 am go to work (I got hired as junior digital marketer in a big travel agency that never had people working in the digital field..)
- 1 pm I have lunch, read/ study and work on my projects
- 3 pm I got back to work until 6 pm
- 6 pm I read/ study and work on my projects
- 8.30 pm dinner
- 9 to 10 pm news/entertainment and sleep.

I almost never see my friends and girls. Even in the weekends.
Some of my friends started making fun of me and majority of them disappeared.

I come from what is considered to be the poorest city in Italy, nobody ever makes shit.
My father left years ago and my mother can't work cause she has rheumatoid arthritis which is super expensive to cure too plus I have a little sister.

It's hard for people around me to understand why I try to work so hard, schedule my days to make time to work harder etc. But still I don't feel like I'm working enough.

I'm so focused, I wanna get out of here but for the first time of my life I'm scared to be lonely (don't start with Dua Lipa's references..).
I'm scared that one day I will hopefully reach what I define as success but I will find my self alone.

I feel lonely and isolated and people around me make me feel weird and sad telling me I'm too young to do this and my goals are too big etc etc..

Have you ever felt like this?

Does trying to reach your goals means isolating yourself from people that don't have the same big goals?

 

[loldrops]

There just aren't enough hours in the day for pleasure, work, travel, education, leisure etc. I've come to the point where I hang with some of my friends and all I can think of is going home to work on projects, it's all I can think of. I go to work my M-F, 9-5 and all I can think is creating a list of things in my head of the things I need to do when I get home. It's totally unhealthy but I'm obsessed like a drug addict, it's not enough I just need more time, more resources, more & more and I need it done now. I wouldn't trade isolating myself for anything it creates such a high for me when I finish a tiny goal and I get to check it off my list.

 

[Heiko]

I almost never see my friends and girls. Even in the weekends.
Some of my friends started making fun of me and majority of them disappeared.

Wow, that are some high quality friends. It's better to let them go instead of running after them. Sure, you have neglected them but a true friend always stays with you no matter what you are going through. Tell 'em to kiss your ass and move on because they ain't worth it. Hold onto those friends that are keeping in touch with you. Make time for them, even if it means that you are not going to get that much money because of that. Humans have to socialize in order to not get ill and have a good life.

I'm so focused, I wanna get out of here but for the first time of my life I'm scared to be lonely (don't start with Dua Lipa's references..).
I'm scared that one day I will hopefully reach what I define as success but I will find my self alone.

If you continue doing what you are doing right now, that will happen. Trust me. It's nice that you are working hard and all but you have to find a balance between working and having fun/socializing/going out/etc. - Otherwise you will find yourself in a depression someday, and i am not joking about this. This is some serious shit. I suggest you go out to some events, with your friends or alone and socialize a little bit. Just talk to random people, do not give a flying fuck what they think about you. What interests you? Golf, Football, whatever? Just go to a event that you like and do something for yourself. You will fear getting rejected or fear of being made fun of. But you have to go through that in order to get to where you want to be.

I feel lonely and isolated and people around me make me feel weird and sad telling me I'm too young to do this and my goals are too big etc etc..

Listen, 300 years from now no one will care what you did, what i did, what anybody else did. What matters is now. You don't care about people that tell you that you can't do something.
When you are letting these people influence you in your thinking you are becoming their prisoner. You let them sabotage you, and you should never do that. You do what makes you happy and you let no one diminish you or tell you what to do. If people treat you like you want to be treated then you give them the best gift you can give anybody which is the gift of your time. But if someone talks shit on you and tries to talk you down you give them the gift of missing you, because they haven't deserved to spent time with you.

Does trying to reach your goals means isolating yourself from people that don't have the same big goals?

No, but you have to find a balance. Otherwise you will get burn't out and land in a depression.

 

[awesomewebsites]

You have your mother and sister, spend time with them. There should be balance between work and life as well. I wish you good luck for future.

 

[FredoSatana]

Wow, that are some high quality friends. It's better to let them go instead of running after them. Sure, you have neglected them but a true friend always stays with you no matter what you are going through. Tell 'em to kiss your ass and move on because they ain't worth it. Hold onto those friends that are keeping in touch with you. Make time for them, even if it means that you are not going to get that much money because of that. Humans have to socialize in order to not get ill and have a good life.


If you continue doing what you are doing right now, that will happen. Trust me. It's nice that you are working hard and all but you have to find a balance between working and having fun/socializing/going out/etc. - Otherwise you will find yourself in a depression someday, and i am not joking about this. This is some serious shit. I suggest you go out to some events, with your friends or alone and socialize a little bit. Just talk to random people, do not give a flying fuck what they think about you. What interests you? Golf, Football, whatever? Just go to a event that you like and do something for yourself. You will fear getting rejected or fear of being made fun of. But you have to go through that in order to get to where you want to be.


Listen, 300 years from now no one will care what you did, what i did, what anybody else did. What matters is now. You don't care about people that tell you that you can't do something.
When you are letting these people influence you in your thinking you are becoming their prisoner. You let them sabotage you, and you should never do that. You do what makes you happy and you let no one diminish you or tell you what to do. If people treat you like you want to be treated then you give them the best gift you can give anybody which is the gift of your time. But if someone talks shit on you and tries to talk you down you give them the gift of missing you, because they haven't deserved to spent time with you.


No, but you have to find a balance. Otherwise you will get burn't out and land in a depression.

Thanks a lot for the incredible advice.

That's what I am scared of the most, being alone.

People around here don't do shit, they don't see a way out and just spend time doing drugs and alcohol.

Nobody has goals and works because there aren't really jobs here, not even a floor shit cleaning job.

I'm the only one I know that does something productive.

Imma try go out more tho, thanks a lot again man!

 

[FredoSatana]

You have your mother and sister, spend time with them. There should be balance between work and life as well. I wish you good luck for future.

Thanks a lot!

 

[Deleted member 689749]

I used to work (got up at 6am), then go to uni and then work in my projects everyday from 0 to 2 am.
During the weekends I studied and worked in my projects too.
I did it to make progress and have free time.
Now I live of my websites and I only have to work like 1 hour a day.
If you want to get something you have to give something.
No one made progress by staying in a pub drinking while joking with friends.

 

[Akieasendo]

For every single problem there is a solution.
If you're scared to be lonely then just remove the less profitable activities in your days and replace them with hanging out with your friends... by the way, I don't know how old are you but at certain point you will lose your friends anyway.

 

[theRevolt]

-It's gonna be long but please read it, I'm a newbie and have a question-

Couple of months ago I was broke and in a state of desperation and posted a thread asking for ways to invest with only 150$. What a dumb question..

I have been studying internet marketing and how it works for about 2 years but never applied anything.
Until right after I posted that thread!
I read books, watched courses and started applying some of my knowledge.
I quickly realized It's not easy as all the titles of my google results made it seem to be.
"How to make money online" "How this guys makes six figures with Drop Shipping" etc

I started selling beats online (hip hop instrumentals) and re-focused on a little blog I opened in my mother tongue Italian to share some knowledge in marketing and generate an income through affiliate programs and adsense.

The launch of the blog was terrible, I didn't get a single view in the first week but after a while someone saw one of my articles and reposted it in a relatively big Facebook Group and It got me more readers and emails than I ever expected and a nice steady growth.
I took it more seriously as I made a little money through my aff. programs and started really busting my a** to find new ways to monetize and attract more people.

My days are programmed like this:

- 5 am wake up and do yoga and meditation
- 6 am read/study and work on my projects
- 8 am go to work (I got hired as junior digital marketer in a big travel agency that never had people working in the digital field..)
- 1 pm I have lunch, read/ study and work on my projects
- 3 pm I got back to work until 6 pm
- 6 pm I read/ study and work on my projects
- 8.30 pm dinner
- 9 to 10 pm news/entertainment and sleep.

I almost never see my friends and girls. Even in the weekends.
Some of my friends started making fun of me and majority of them disappeared.

I come from what is considered to be the poorest city in Italy, nobody ever makes shit.
My father left years ago and my mother can't work cause she has rheumatoid arthritis which is super expensive to cure too plus I have a little sister.

It's hard for people around me to understand why I try to work so hard, schedule my days to make time to work harder etc. But still I don't feel like I'm working enough.

I'm so focused, I wanna get out of here but for the first time of my life I'm scared to be lonely (don't start with Dua Lipa's references..).
I'm scared that one day I will hopefully reach what I define as success but I will find my self alone.

I feel lonely and isolated and people around me make me feel weird and sad telling me I'm too young to do this and my goals are too big etc etc..

Have you ever felt like this?

Does trying to reach your goals means isolating yourself from people that don't have the same big goals?

Well, consider it a good test who are the true friends and the ones who are not. More often than not you will realize they are not real friends. Ask yourself what do people want from you :
- Money
- Time spent with you as you are fun, come up with fun stuff to do etc..

You have to realize that maybe 10% are true friends the others want something from you and you will just waste your time with them.
Realize that caring about what others think will likely get you nowhere. Do they pay your rent? Food? Travel? etc... No? then who cares (unless they are family). Literally, all the self-made people did not care what others thought their idea sucks/will not work. Sure they were lonely at times but look at them now. Money does not buy you happiness, but sure as hell if you are generally happy money makes all the difference.

Anyway, great for you if you want to work hard. Great to have a regular job to pay your bills while working on growing your own projects. Most people feel the urge to quit all that to live the dream only to make barely make enough working more hours than a 9-5 (without benefits).

People that say you are wasting your time all the time and trying to bring you down, yes I'd say you are way better off without them. Do you want them to like you more than you want to be successful?

Good luck sure you will make it with persistence !

 

[Esiyow]

How about spending weekend with your friends? you can work/study all day from monday to friday then at saturday sunday to make relationship, dating, socialize, etc beside working

 

[FredoSatana]

I used to work (got up at 6am), then go to uni and then work in my projects everyday from 0 to 2 am.
During the weekends I studied and worked in my projects too.
I did it to make progress and have free time.
Now I live of my websites and I only have to work like 1 hour a day.
If you want to get something you have to give something.
No one made progress by staying in a pub drinking while joking with friends.

1 hour? Damn!

May I ask what you do,man? haha

 

[FredoSatana]

Well, consider it a good test who are the true friends and the ones who are not. More often than not you will realize they are not real friends. Ask yourself what do people want from you :
- Money
- Time spent with you as you are fun, come up with fun stuff to do etc..

You have to realize that maybe 10% are true friends the others want something from you and you will just waste your time with them.
Realize that caring about what others think will likely get you nowhere. Do they pay your rent? Food? Travel? etc... No? then who cares (unless they are family). Literally, all the self-made people did not care what others thought their idea sucks/will not work. Sure they were lonely at times but look at them now. Money does not buy you happiness, but sure as hell if you are generally happy money makes all the difference.

Anyway, great for you if you want to work hard. Great to have a regular job to pay your bills while working on growing your own projects. Most people feel the urge to quit all that to live the dream only to make barely make enough working more hours than a 9-5 (without benefits).

People that say you are wasting your time all the time and trying to bring you down, yes I'd say you are way better off without them. Do you want them to like you more than you want to be successful?

Good luck sure you will make it with persistence !

Hell no!
I don't care at all what they think!

I'm just scared to be lonely.

There is nobody thinking about change here, I'm literally the only one that I know that has goals, an open mind and ambition.

I don't wanna end up at 25 delivering pizzas at night or sell drugs..

Thanks for the support man, good luck for everything to you too.

 

[FredoSatana]

How about spending weekend with your friends? you can work/study all day from monday to friday then at saturday sunday to make relationship, dating, socialize, etc beside working

I used to do it but I come from the bottom of the pyramid or not even inside it.
This place is terrible. I feel like that's for people that already feel comfortable where they are

 

[rpkrocks]

Get/Grab/Borrow a girlfriend. That will surely make you happy.

 

[FredoSatana]

Get/Grab/Borrow a girlfriend. That will surely make you happy.

Not interested in a relationship.

I have a girl that I can call whenever I want, but I'm just not making time for it.

You also gotta understand the mentality here it's totally different..

If she's never seen someone working hard and having a schedule like this how is she gonna understand somebody with these type of needs and beliefs? It would be difficult to support, at least I think so.

 

[redbandit]

put in simple words...you find success, everything else will follow!

 

[MAG WEB DESIGNS]

IM =

sometimes

 

[Paneiknt]

OP , you should work , but please find time for relationships with people cause its very important for healthy life and without that you will feel bad..Isolation is really bad I feel it sometimes too but right now I try to get out every day , meet new people and break this habit!

 

[Froz3nz]

-It's gonna be long but please read it, I'm a newbie and have a question-

Couple of months ago I was broke and in a state of desperation and posted a thread asking for ways to invest with only 150$. What a dumb question..

I have been studying internet marketing and how it works for about 2 years but never applied anything.
Until right after I posted that thread!
I read books, watched courses and started applying some of my knowledge.
I quickly realized It's not easy as all the titles of my google results made it seem to be.
"How to make money online" "How this guys makes six figures with Drop Shipping" etc

I started selling beats online (hip hop instrumentals) and re-focused on a little blog I opened in my mother tongue Italian to share some knowledge in marketing and generate an income through affiliate programs and adsense.

The launch of the blog was terrible, I didn't get a single view in the first week but after a while someone saw one of my articles and reposted it in a relatively big Facebook Group and It got me more readers and emails than I ever expected and a nice steady growth.
I took it more seriously as I made a little money through my aff. programs and started really busting my a** to find new ways to monetize and attract more people.

My days are programmed like this:

- 5 am wake up and do yoga and meditation
- 6 am read/study and work on my projects
- 8 am go to work (I got hired as junior digital marketer in a big travel agency that never had people working in the digital field..)
- 1 pm I have lunch, read/ study and work on my projects
- 3 pm I got back to work until 6 pm
- 6 pm I read/ study and work on my projects
- 8.30 pm dinner
- 9 to 10 pm news/entertainment and sleep.

I almost never see my friends and girls. Even in the weekends.
Some of my friends started making fun of me and majority of them disappeared.

I come from what is considered to be the poorest city in Italy, nobody ever makes shit.
My father left years ago and my mother can't work cause she has rheumatoid arthritis which is super expensive to cure too plus I have a little sister.

It's hard for people around me to understand why I try to work so hard, schedule my days to make time to work harder etc. But still I don't feel like I'm working enough.

I'm so focused, I wanna get out of here but for the first time of my life I'm scared to be lonely (don't start with Dua Lipa's references..).
I'm scared that one day I will hopefully reach what I define as success but I will find my self alone.

I feel lonely and isolated and people around me make me feel weird and sad telling me I'm too young to do this and my goals are too big etc etc..

Have you ever felt like this?

Does trying to reach your goals means isolating yourself from people that don't have the same big goals?

Hello from another Italian fellow! I totally understand you and have a similar situation.
I have only a few friends that sometimes forget about me and I don't have much social interaction because I hate people there.

It's sad being lonely but when nobody understands you and nobody believes in you, you have to be a lone wolf and work the way to success. That's what I'm trying to do, I want to have success and start a new life with new friends, new experiences and be financially free.

So I think that the best thing to do when nobody understands you is just to work alone and prove them they are wrong.
Never give up and I hope you succeed, good luck man.

Thanks a lot for the incredible advice.

That's what I am scared of the most, being alone.

People around here don't do shit, they don't see a way out and just spend time doing drugs and alcohol.

Nobody has goals and works because there aren't really jobs here, not even a floor shit cleaning job.

I'm the only one I know that does something productive.

Imma try go out more tho, thanks a lot again man!

I can totally quote this, (most of) people here are ignorant and spend time doing drugs or robbing instead of working for a low paying job.
Of course not everyone is a lazy ass shit but I hope you get the point..

 

[Heiko]

I'm just scared to be lonely.

The way to the top is often lonely and hard. You need to learn to let go off people that don't serve you well and are talking against you. Send them love and let them go by their choice. If they care about you, they will come back. If not, then these were not your friends. Either way, you have to be okay with both outcomes.

There is nobody thinking about change here, I'm literally the only one that I know that has goals, an open mind and ambition.

Be a positive influence for them. You see all these people in the streets taking drugs/selling drugs etc. - But hey, think about it. You can't do anything about that situation. The best thing you can do is to accept your faith and the situation you are currently in right now.

If it's really that bad i suggest you move to a different city and meet new people there. If you can't afford it at the moment, do just like i said. Go to social events, meet new people. Im sure it's pretty fucked up, like you described but i am also sure that not ALL OF THEM are like that. You just have to keep searching

All the best to you