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Working hard, is this it ?!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by xrumering, Mar 9, 2013.

  1. xrumering

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    Hey guys, I've not been here for a while, hope you are all doing OK.

    I've got a question, pretty confusing one :

    First of all, I've been trying to make some cash about a year ago, than I decided to quit like a loser.

    For now, I'm working hard, started all again, but I got a few problems, which are :

    When I'm working and getting tired, I don't feel any motivated, is it normal ?! I hope the conclusion "If I don't work in high spirits all the time, I'm not gonna make my way to success", I'm sure it sounds pretty confusing, I think that if I don't feel motivated even when I'm overtired, I'm not gonna reach my goals, is it ok to feel tired when you're "tired" ? or do I have to be full of energy all the time ?! It's individual, yea, but I want to get rid of this strange feeling, it makes me feel that my actions are useless when I don't feel like "I'm DEFINITELY GONNA MAKE IT".

    Of course I'm always willing to work, but sometimes I'm like "Naah, it's not easy, it'll be super hard".

    Many motivational speakers say you must have a burning desire to achieve what you want, I have, but, when I get tired, my mind just can't think of it. Damn it.

    I have one more problem, I can't stick to several things at a time, for example, right now I'm focusing on my Youtube channel (Adsense), but it'll take long to make a good cash, I tried to start something different, like fiverr, but I'm thinking that if I do fiverr too, Youtube channel will go down, that's a big problem of focusing or what kind of hell is it ? Maybe you can tell me more.

    And one more, biggest one... Once I've not reached anything big in IM, I think that all the actions I'm taking will have no results, or at least the smallest ones... I think it's because I'm new to things like $100/day :)

    - How to convince myself that I can do it ?! I have doubts all the time.


    I've been studying law of attraction lately and it says "you become what you think about", I know it's effective since I know some persons that had good results with it, also, I wanna know how to use correctly ?! Simply thinking "I'm talanted, I can do anything" won't get me anywhere I think.


    I can say now that I lack self-confidence, I think it's the starting point of all kinds of problems.

    - Can I gain self-confidence while achieving my goals / something big ?

    Can you give me some useful words ?


    Thanks, xrumering.
     
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  2. alexglo

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    Doubts are just thoughts. Don't let your negative thoughts control you.

    Take control of your behaviour. Split things down to the last details, write a diary and stick to it. Throw yourself into things even when you don't want to or you have nagging thoughts telling you otherwise.

    It's not easy, it's retraining part of your brain. But stick to it and believe me one day you will look back on yourself now and think "I can't believe I didn't think I could do this".

    You have taught yourself this behaviour by doubting yourself, now teach yourself a new behaviour by proving to yourself you can do whatever you want to do.

    This doesn't come overnight, it's like learning to ride a bike. You will have days when you feel like you can't get anything done and it's all too much, but by working hard ON THESE DAYS to succeed you are correcting your negative behaviour, and you will go to bed thinking "I can't believe I felt like shit, had all these doubts and still got all that done."
     
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  3. Duffers5000

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    Law of attraction is not about just giving yourself a pep talk. Its about visualizing exactly what you are going to acheive and being able to taste it.

    Most people fail in IM because they are jumping from method to method and chasing where they think the money is. You say you are doing some youtube at the moment but you are probably aware its just something that you feel you should be doing rather than something that you know you must do. I would sit down and work out exactly what sort of site or channel that you want and then work out exactly what you need to do to make that happen. When you actually believe in your project and know how great its going to be when you get it set up the right way, you will be suprised at how much motivation you will have.
     
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  4. alexglo

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    Oh and regarding the law of attraction stuff, it's not for everyone. One of my friends loves that stuff, wakes up every morning and thinks of all the stuff she is thankful of and stuff like that, pure positive thinking.

    I find living in the moment, making a list and getting shit done no matter how tired or non-motivated you feel is a much more effective way to start your journey into more natural positivity.
     
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    ?When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.? ~Honore de Balzac

    Self-doubt is normal but you cannot let it run the show. Remember, no journey is a straight path, including the road to success, so you better learn to enjoy the journey not just the end result.
     
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  6. HoNeYBiRD

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  7. xrumering

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    Thank you, all of you :)

    I've been reading "Think and grow rich" lately, it's same here, reading never lets me work and working never lets me read, I couldn't focus on both things at the same time.

    Now, I feel more motivated, when I wake up, feeling horrible, I'll just put myself through a hard work to feel alive, at least I'll get some inspiration from the results, it's the best as I know.
     
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    For the professionals, IM is like driving car.

    As a learner, you find it difficult and appreciate drivers.

    But as a professional, you can wake up and start driving without causing any accident and do many other things while driving, why because it's already in your system.

    The business of IM is all about rinse and repeat once you get to the end.

    Yeah, i might be moody or lazy but still do what am suppose to do because i already know and master them.
     
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  9. xrumering

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    Highly appreciated.
     
  10. roger.turner19

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    OP, first you need to consider your goals.

    1. Is what you're doing worth it for a better life?
    2. If yes, are you willing to put in the effort?

    As they say, jogging is 90% effort and only 10% strength. It's normal to feel tired and unmotivated. Think about it. If we were all good at doing what we wanted, what fun would there be? Sometimes when you're feeling down, do what I do. Take a day off. Literally a day off. Shut down your phone, computer, and isolate yourself from the world. Go to a park and bring a book or something. Think about stuff. You can do this OP. There isn't a way to convince yourself to do it. Athletes can't be strong without motivation, and neither can you. It takes conditioning.

    If you have a mate, think about them. You want them to have a better life. Set a goal for yourself. You live in an apartment? Aim for a house. You drive a 1996 Toyota Camry? Shoot for a Nissan GTR. Really it all depends on you in the end to have the motivation to keep pulling through. You can do this. Just give it some time and you'll get there.
     
  11. xrumering

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    @ roger.turner19

    Are you a psychic ? :O I'm not driving a car yet but my aim/dream car is exactly GT-R :D

    Thanks for you advice, I appreciate it.
     
  12. unclemike

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    Life is like a bunch of steps and floors.

    1. Your in the basement and feel a huge push to climb to the second floor.
    2. You work your way to the 1st floor and realize "Shit I have a long way to go"

    Truth is sometimes in life we are waiting for time to catch up to us. Everyday is not going to be a motivational day of
    great success. Trick is to be happy with all of the bullshit in between those days.

    All the best,
    Unclemike
     
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  13. cryptopsy

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    I have this problem too. Sometimes I just feel that all I am doing is pointless.
    Thanks for all the good advice in this thread. I guess I should learn how to stay more focused on my goal.:)
     
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    True story, thx for the reply.

    +rep from me.
     
  15. TwistedSEO

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    Motivation only comes in short bursts and will power is a limited resource that needs to be replenished over time.

    Best thing to do when you're feeling motivated is to write down your exact plan and what you need to do day-to-day, and then follow your plan, even when you're not feeling motivated.

    Don't make decisions or change plans when you're not feeling motivated. You won't make the wisest choices.
     
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    xrumering BANNED BANNED

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    That is what I was looking forward to hear, in fact, I knew it, but my mind couldn't agree with that. I suppose it's the way I'm programmed, I can't explain it that simply but anyways, thank you :) +rep
     
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    As long as you focus more on making a buck than doing basic web marketing, you will most likely not succeed in making money.
     
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    I'm well aware of that, just trying to get some stable income for a BIG business plan.
     
  19. Qokaine

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    Well, you shouldn't be working as hard if you have everything planned. I find myself just chillin and playing games more than actually working, since if you are just living off your google rankings it's just a matter of knowing which are worth putting your time/money into.
     
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    Work is work and play is play. I don't want to have to work everyday but we all have to, Drink coffee or something and move on. Don't be lazy, work hard and get it done and over with. In order to play hard you must first work hard. I am not motivated by the work that I do! I am motivated buy the results that I get for that hard work.
     
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