Why do Indian people always..

tell them to call you Boss....haha

Tell them that the proper greeting is either "dear supreme overlord" or "your excellency". But really, why don't you just ask them to please not do it? They are only people and they are being polite. We Americans probably sound like ass holes when we talk to foreigners.

Ifanafi said:

Can you think 'clashing cultuers'?!

If planet earth had a sphincter it would occupy entirely the country of India.

Want proof? Visit Kolkatā (angliciszed to 'Calcutta').

I have and it is a god-foresaken sinkhole.

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xcuse me??

Longover said:

Tell them that the proper greeting is either "dear supreme overlord" or "your excellency". But really, why don't you just ask them to please not do it? They are only people and they are being polite. We Americans probably sound like ass holes when we talk to foreigners.

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I dont mean to offend but true. I speak to American on daily basis (I am a Network Engineer in a TAC) and initially had a feeling that their speech lack curtsy. But later learnt that they have their own way of expressing it. I do call them Sir many times and surprisingly many call me SIR during their first address.

But yea.. initially I felt they are not curtious or respectful but learnt their way and now I see their way of saying "I appreciate". In fact they say that word a lot which we do not.

Its fun learning different traditions especially when you speak over a phone than just over emails or chat. I come across people from US, UK, Asia Pacific and Latin America especially.

BTW, I just learnt today that Jose is pronounced as Hosey. I called an engineer Jose and may be he is used to it so he accepted. But you know its cool.. ITS COMPLETELY Alien to us here.

Sorry if I Spit too much But I AM DRUNK:drinking2

gutterleech said:

Indians use Dear word because its part of our letter writing education.

In HINDI we start a letter with the salutation PRIYA MITRA (DEAR FRIEND), So, people who arent aware of the current english communication trends tends to use the word DEAR.

- I dont know about the current trend in schools, but in 90,s years of my primary school, we were taught to use the word Dear while writing letter to some one. Dear Sir, Dear Ma'am etc.

- If you have worked in a Non-voice call center in India then you know that its part of the email writing training. Dear Customer or Dear XXX (customers name).

Further, as many people said above, we use this word to show respect to the clients.

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I think what gutterleech mentioned is the reason behind lot of "dear" and "sir". Indians are tought in school to start a formal letter with,
"Dear Sir,"

LOL!

I remember the first time i experienced that as well, I was like DEAR???? WTF?? (and it wasn't a chick???...)

It's obviously a term of endearment. We here in "The West" (and all ppl of the world for that matter...)need to look beyond our own customs sometimes and focus on the intentions.

I remember the 1st time I went to Brazil. I had asked some locals for some directions or something. After they helped me out, the obvious and natural thing to do was to thank them.
I responded by saying "Obrigado" (thank you in Portuguese) and the Californian side in me thru up the "A-Ok" sign

LOL! Well... soon found out QUICKLY from several different locals that this symbolic gesture which I had known all my life to mean: Thanks,fine, gotcha, ok, etc. Actually was equivalent to flipping off some one in their culture! LOL! Funny as hell.

That was one of those eye-opening experiences for me as a youngster in his early twenties.

Hell, at 17 I got a taste of the same right here in my own state (Cali) and country (USA) as folks from the L.A. area are DEFINITELY from a diffferent planet with respect to their thinking from us Bay Area cats (No offense )


Bottomline= step outside of the filters and limitations of your own mind & customs sometimes and watch your world be increased instantly

Cheers!

....dear LOL!

SpellZ said:

say 'Dear' to me? I swear, every Indian freelancer I get... They call me dear.. ? Is that like an appropriate thing to do?

I.E. "We wil finish it on time dear", "thank you dear"

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I've already given an explanation about the usage of the word "Dear" in the salutation. Now, from the Indian perspective, I will try to explain why people around this region use "dear" when ending a sentence/letter...

In India, it is customary to say some respectful word at the end of a sentence or conversation... for example, we usually say, "ji bhai-saheb" (Hindi for brother -- related or unrelated, or to any elderly person), "behen-ji" (sister...), "ji" or "haan-ji" (a suffix which denotes 'respect', or which also denotes that "it'll be done" / OK, "understood", "will do", etc). There are plenty of such terms in all Indian languages which are used to show respect to each other in any conversation and these words are used in offices, schools, esp. over telephonic conversations, over the "virtual" conversations where both parties do not see facial expressions and rely on written/spoken words alone to understand more (intent + meaning); and anywhere else without being interpreted as grammatically wrong.

It is in that context these words are routinely used by Indians when they chat/mail/talk/etc. The "dear" or "Sir" at the end of a sentence or a letter as mentioned above, or it can simply be understood/interpreted like the word "OK" / dude / "thanks", etc. to end the session with some kind of sincere/earnest/polite pleasantry/remark.

HTH.

It is also something similar to (not entirely) putting a smiley (or "lol", etc.) at the end of a written sentence to denote that (e.g.): "... my intention was not to hurt anybody's feelings here though the words used were a bit acidic..."


So the next time someone writes a email ending with "dear", do not see / visualize a future session in bed with him/her . j/k

Dear
used in front of someone's name at the beginning of a letter to them

Dear Diana, I hope you're feeling better now.
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loved or liked very much
a dear friend:

She is a very dear friend of mine.
dear to someone:

You are both very dear to me.
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3
[not usually before noun] expensive

Their products are good quality, but a bit dear.
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British old-fashioned used for speaking to someone in a friendly way or in a way that shows that you think you are better or more important than them

I'm afraid you're wrong, dear boy.
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nice. People who use this word usually do not sound sincere
dear little/sweet/old etc:

Raymond is a dear sweet man!
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phrases

be dear to someone's heart
formal
if something is dear to someone's heart, they are very interested in it and care a lot about it

Education is a subject that is very dear to the Prime Minister's heart.
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dear God
spoken
used for expressing strong emotion, especially anger or shock

Dear God, what is the matter now?
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Dear Sir/Sirs/Madam
used at the beginning of a very formal letter, for example to a company or to someone you have never met

Dear Sirs, I am writing to complain about your telephone helpline.
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for dear life
informal
using all your strength, speed, or determination in order to avoid danger or serious trouble

He clung on to the edge of the cliff for dear life.
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And of-course the dear Mr. President

Dear Mr. President,
Come take a walk with me.
Let's pretend we're just two people and
You're not better than me.
I'd like to ask you some questions if we can speak honestly.

What do you feel when you see all the homeless on the street?
Who do you pray for at night before you go to sleep?
What do you feel when you look in the mirror?
Are you proud?

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry?
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye?
How do you walk with your head held high?
Can you even look me in the eye
And tell me why?

Dear Mr. President,
Were you a lonely boy?
Are you a lonely boy?
Are you a lonely boy?
How can you say
No child is left behind?
We're not dumb and we're not blind.
They're all sitting in your cells
While you pave the road to hell.

What kind of father would take his own daughter's rights away?
And what kind of father might hate his own daughter if she were gay?
I can only imagine what the first lady has to say
You've come a long way from whiskey and cocaine.

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry?
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye?
How do you walk with your head held high?
Can you even look me in the eye?

Let me tell you 'bout hard work
Minimum wage with a baby on the way
Let me tell you 'bout hard work
Rebuilding your house after the bombs took them away
Let me tell you 'bout hard work
Building a bed out of a cardboard box
Let me tell you 'bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
You don't know nothing 'bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
Oh

How do you sleep at night?
How do you walk with your head held high?
Dear Mr. President,
You'd never take a walk with me.
Would you?

What is DEAR?

DEAR is "Drop Everything And Read"


Other terms relating to 'dear':
FMDIDGAD
Frankly My Dear , I Don't Give A Damn
ODG
Oh Dear God
ODL
Oh Dear Lord


Other terms relating to 'drop':
DDG
Drop Dead Gorgeous
DMAL
Drop Me A Line
DRO
HyDROponically grown marijuana
DZ
Drop Zone
HYDRO
Hydroponically grown marijuana
ODST
Orbital Drop Shock Trooper (Gaming)

Other terms relating to 'everything':
ACME
A Company that Makes Everything
EWBA
Everything Will Be Alright
GNE
Good Night and Everything

Other terms relating to 'read':
/THREAD
End of a thread on a forum
ABD
Already Been Done
ABP
Already Been Posted
BNB
Bad News Bears
Bed 'N' Breakfast
Bread 'N' Butter
BREAD
Money
BROWN BREAD
Dead
BURMA
Be Upstairs Ready My Angel
DIT
Details In Thread
EOT
End Of Thread (i.e. end of discussion)
FITTIN TO
About to, getting ready to
FIXIN TO
About to, getting ready to
GTR
Getting Ready
GTRM
Going To Read Mail
IMYA
I Miss You Already
INB4
In Before (already mentioned)
ITT
In This Thread
L2R
Learn to Read
LART
Luser Attitude Readjustment Tool
LURK
Read a forum but never post
MEME
An idea that spreads like a virus by word of mouth, email, blogs etc
MRE
Meal, Ready to Eat
ROM
Read-Only Memory
RTD
Ready To Drink
RTFAQ
Read The FAQ
RTFI
Read The Flipping Instructions
RTFM
Read The Flipping Manual
RTG
Ready To Go
RTM
Read The Manual
RTW
Ready To Wear
Round The World
RYN
Read Your Note
Regarding Your Note
SIAP
Sorry If Already Posted
TLDNR
Too Long; Did Not Read
TLDR
Too Long; Didn't Read
TTIWWP
This Thread Is Worthless Without Pictures
UARK
You Already Know
WAEFRD
When All Else Fails, Read Directions
WIR
When It's Ready
YAK
You Already Know

Thank you, dear one!


BTW, on a lighter note here, "Hug" actually means "(doing) sh1t" in my mother-tongue... but when some "dear" one writes to me and ends with "hugs to you!", esp on FB, I don't take the meaning as "many loads of 'shit' to you!" literally! I interpret it as it should rightly be...

Interesting ....

Simply ignore those dear freelancer... They are trying to get hold of you emotionally

gr8divas said:

Interesting ....

Simply ignore those dear freelancer... They are trying to get hold of you emotionally

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... and find a (lot more expensive) robot!


Anyway, if the 'emotional' person is a good/great worker nonetheless, you're lucky... you've also found a polite (business) partner as a bonus.

I'm indian and using internet since 1997. I never said "dear" to anyone. Even i get annoyed when any other indian says dear to me. I feel that expression like "sarcasm bomb". To be honest, those who are using "dear" too much are brainwashed with some sort of "corporate ethics or presentation stuff" due to their involvement in IT training or call center training. This "dear" stuff annoy me so much that i rarely hang out with people who call by adding that word. seriously, it is freaking annoying, especially if anyone is oldie internet user who can spot this wanna-be cool or polite or corporate stuff.

I think you got one desperate freelancer, who is so desperate for girls attention
Asshole makes indians look bad :/

LOl..Its just to attract the people..

It doesn't bother me if its an Indian chick, they're hot


She could call me dear anytime... just don't let my girlfriend know

maybe, they just love you..

oh, dear.. is it annoying for you...?? LOL

I think those indians just want to be polite. When I visited india, I heard people saying sir and dear all the time.
Btw I have a lot respect for indian people, they seem very well educated.

they never say "dear" to me... they always call me Sir Felix

I dont get the "dear" too often.
Instead its "bro"!
Your not my bro..bro....