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Where can I find a mentor?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by -Jordan-, Sep 18, 2012.

  1. -Jordan-

    -Jordan- Registered Member

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    I have been at a standstill in my life for a few weeks now. Although many of my bad habits have been eradicated, I am still far away from the success I desire. I decided that a mentor could greatly assist me in my endeavours.

    The question that I cannot answer is "how do I go about finding a mentor?" Do I directly approach someone or do I have to be friends with them prior to initiating a mentoring program? Are successful people even open to mentoring?

    It shall be of great use if you could respond to my queries.

    Thank you.
     
  2. JimmyWong

    JimmyWong Registered Member

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    Dirty cash. (Money talks).

    I'd expect you'd have to serious dollar to buy the time of a pro. Unless of course, you can offer something good in return.

    Think of yourself as an ROI. Whoever is going to spend their time on you is going to want something in return, whether that be out in the open, or part of a plan.
     
  3. Blakk01

    Blakk01 Newbie

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    Find an ideal candidate, then focus on what you can offer them in return for their expertise.
     
  4. Zapdos

    Zapdos Power Member

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    Most people will not help/mentor you for free. You need to have something in return for the amount of time it will take to teach you. This can be in the form of money (expect atleast $30/hr) or services (you working for them, similar to an apprenticeship/intern.) For the first you can find many people, money is always good. The second one you may need to be on good terms with them beforehand. Being trustworthy is everything and you likely won't be so if you just met the person.

    As for where to find mentors, you can find them almost anywhere. Just depends on what you want. If you want a mentor for web development, go to a forum or chat that is for web developers. If you want a mentor for SEO, go to a forum or chat that is for SEO.
     
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  5. -Jordan-

    -Jordan- Registered Member

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    Thank you for the advice. I shall work on it.
     
  6. Cash1t

    Cash1t Registered Member

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    The Op brings up a valid issue. All these replies stress that these "mentors" want to get paid. Not really a bad thing. BUT. When you see a "newbie" (someone young in the game) and see his potential to do well, AND after you have made large amounts of cash (and continue to) why not give back a little something. GRANTED this cannot be done lightly or haphazardly. BUT it can be done. Adde parvum parvo magnus acervus erit.
     
  7. DoorKnocker

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    yeah its expensive to get a great mentor, this is my advice for you just stay on bhw and interact with other people on your niche there are a lot of good people here on bhw who are willing to help you for free.
     
  8. ronegraT

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    If you donĀ“t want to ask strangers for help you are never going to succed, if its whit earning money on internet just send PM to people, i tend to do that to and ask if i could use them as a mentor or to do brainstorming whit

    But of course this requires you to have ideas and to do something to, not just saying "what shall i do now"
     
  9. Zapdos

    Zapdos Power Member

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    Do you want to teach someone for hundreds of hours with your undivided attention, for free?
     
  10. Cash1t

    Cash1t Registered Member

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    No Zapdos. That is not what I meant. But many who know much contributing a little bit each of what they know is more my point. I wouldn't do it, nor would I expect anyone else to just donate "hundreds of hours" of undivided attention. Any potential protege who would expect that is asking too much. But when I see someone ask something that I know I offer my help. Sometimes there are those who obviously don't put forth any effort in finding answers for themselves so the answer is not "the answer" but guiding them to find their own answers. Just a little give-back, that's all. Not all your time or all your effort. Just a little something. Furthermore a "mentor" is defined as an influential senior sponsor or supporter. A sponsor/supporter not a paid teacher. If he said he was looking for a "tutor" that would be more in line of a paid teacher.
     
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  11. pulsey

    pulsey Newbie

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    There are an unlimited amount of resources available within the net. Why not use that? The best way to learn is to rely on yourself and ask around if you're stuck on something.
     
  12. macdonjo3

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    If you were smart, you'd PM someone who is succeeding in your area of interest and offer them $50 to do 30 minutes of consulting on Skype. For the people that make a decent living, you'd have to offer several hundred.
     
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    Good mentors are taking 10% from refferal links and nothing more
     
  14. Zapdos

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    Because alot of them give bad advice. BHW is a good example of alot of wannabes providing horrible advice that will not help or hurt in the long run.

    Fair enough. I generally group mentor and tutor together because many are looking for more indepth help than just an hour or two. It's also alot more beneficial to have a tutor that can provide hundreds of hours of undivided help when you don't know anything, as you'd still be lost learning it yourself from the start (most likely.) I think mentors are great, you just have to have the foundation already down.
     
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  15. Cash1t

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    Well said Zapdos.