What after?

In March 2013 i started trying to make money online. By the end of the year i had my first $800/month, which allowed me to move back to my home country.

The next year i earned $3400 and the year after that $4400. All went on rent, bills, food, dentist a little bit. So #NoLife.

The next year i earned $8500, then $15,000 and then $17,000, and this year ill probably make somewhere around $20k at most.

Nothing changed other than i went to a better dentist lol. And the reason nothing changed is because i saved Every Cent.

Now i saved over $40k, and will buy my own apartment. But due to some Paypal complications i have to wait 3 more months to get $12k back, and so i'm hoping to buy the apartment about 6 months from now, just a little after my 30th birthday.

Thats all nice and good. But in these past 6 years i have had no life. I grew up in a completely different country, so no childhood friends here. My social skills are suspect after these 6 years, my physical condition is bad (very skinny, not a fat fuck ), and i really have no hobbies or interests other than making money online. And even that, for the Full 6 years i put in i shouldve made more. Then again, i saved $40k in less than 3 years, so im not really that bad at it.

Anyway, the past 6 years have taken their toll, but i have to push it until the end, get my apartment. No more rent, no more landlord, no more moving around, get peace of mind and get that fucking chip off my shoulder. If all goes well i will have it in about 6 months, buddha god jesus allah zeus willing.

But when i get it, i dont know what to do. I feel like getting a mate would be a bitch of a task. I look good, okay. Facial features good. But skinny, lack of social skills and... social patience. And most importantly i feel like there is a stigma attached to me now, because who the hell spends his 20ties in a room alone, has no hobbies or interests or friends. Girls dont like that, thats not acceptable. I mean, fuck em if they do, but you know what im saying.

But what to do after? Im thinking meetup.com maybe, meet some people that way.

Anyway, im kinda lonely actually. Not really in the mood for anything right now. Yeah

Buy a set of dumbbells, preferably high-quality adjustable dumbbells (insert Amazon affiliate link here ), and some protein powder. Drink 3 protein shakes a day and start lifting weights for 30-minute sessions 3-4 times a day, starting very very low, and increasing every couple of days at first, then every week later. You will get jacked and your confidence level should increase with it, and your social skills along with those.

SocialManager said:

Buy a set of dumbbells, preferably high-quality adjustable dumbbells (insert Amazon affiliate link here ), and some protein powder. Drink 3 protein shakes a day and start lifting weights for 30-minute sessions 3-4 times a day, starting very very low, and increasing every couple of days at first, then every week later. You will get jacked and your confidence level should increase with it, and your social skills along with those.

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Yeah, may be a good idea to put on some weight, some muscle. Become a muscle asshole

You seem to have something that many people don't - the ability to set goals, focus, and achieve. That's the mark of a winner in my book. Any smart woman would be damn lucky to have you. Take SocialManager's advice about the exercise, and get out there and meet some people. You may be surprised to find it's easier to meet people (and women) than you fear. Keep going!

DrIgor said:

You seem to have something that many people don't - the ability to set goals, focus, and achieve. That's the mark of a winner in my book. Any smart woman would be damn lucky to have you. Take SocialManager's advice about the exercise, and get out there and meet some people. You may be surprised to find it's easier to meet people (and women) than you fear. Keep going!

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Yeah, actually, its not that easy.

Everybody is very hostile and dismissive. And im no diplomat either.

I mean, when youre out with people pretty much the only thing youre allowed to talk about is stupid fucking jokes.

Religion? No
Politics? No
Money, salaries, taxes, work? No

And any other topic you can talk about but you cant go crazy with it. You must have one of the acceptable views, and you must express them in one of the acceptable ways. Otherwise No.

And the stupid fucking jokes which is the one acceptable topic, even that, you cant go too far out with it. Racial jokes, religious jokes, black humor, rules and regulations, rules and regulations.

Its like you have to put your brain in a box and fine tune it for social interaction to work. But i want to fly freeeee... you pricks

How is meetup.com? Anyone ever used it?

In March 2013 i started trying to make money online. By the end of the year i had my first $800/month, which allowed me to move back to my home country.
The next year i earned $3400 and the year after that $4400. All went on rent, bills, food, dentist a little bit. So #NoLife.

The next year i earned $8500, then $15,000 and then $17,000, and this year ill probably make somewhere around $20k at most.

Nothing changed other than i went to a better dentist lol. And the reason nothing changed is because i saved Every Cent.

Now i saved over $40k, and will buy my own apartment. But due to some Paypal complications i have to wait 3 more months to get $12k back, and so i'm hoping to buy the apartment about 6 months from now, just a little after my 30th birthday.

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You should put this on Tinder profile

I grew up in a completely different country, so no childhood friends here.

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You've never told me that.

Facial features good.

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Very humble as always

no hobbies or interests

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And Farscape and eating pizza in the bathroom???

Girls dont like that, thats not acceptable.

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Oh please! you have more luck than average BHW member I could even add, more luck than average guy

my physical condition is bad (very skinny, not a fat fuck )

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You eat only pizza and smoke tons of cigarettes and you still look very healthy! Don't piss me off!
Kid, please!

Ninah said:

You should put this on your Tinder profile



You've never told me that.



Very humble as always



And Farscape and eating pizza in the bathroom???



Oh please! you have more luck than average BHW member I could even add, more luck than average guy



You eat only pizza and smoke tons of cigarettes and you still look very healthy! Don't piss me off!
Kid, please!

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dear you're my mother

This is exactly what is going on in my mind. For about 2 years all that I've been thinking about is money. But now I'm not sure what to do after i get it. I even stopped talking to most of my friends because money clouded my mind 24/7. And i can't hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes. I don't think things would be same even if i tried my best because most of them seem to have moved on and make other buddies. Well what can i say, I either win or i learn. Will keep this in mind for the future. And if you want to do something about the conversation skills, maybe you can try reading a book or two about it, i haven't tried any but i think books help everyone

which country are you in?

Yeah hit the gym and the protein powder. The exercise will improve your mood and the attention from women will improve your confidence.

don't go posting how much you've made or even that you own your own home on dating sites trust me it attracts the totally wrong type of woman!

Ninah said:

You should put this on Tinder profile



You've never told me that.



Very humble as always



And Farscape and eating pizza in the bathroom???



Oh please! you have more luck than average BHW member I could even add, more luck than average guy



You eat only pizza and smoke tons of cigarettes and you still look very healthy! Don't piss me off!
Kid, please!

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Lets see here... one by one...

Nah i always fuck myself on Tinder. For the longest time i had a line on there saying "im not very outgoing." Cryptonite for women, keep many of them away.

The other day i changed it, removed it, got a few matches. Then i put "No English No Game." But i dont live in an English speaking country, so again im fucking myself with my own description.

But i cant lie. I dont wanna lie. It is what it is. Fucking Tinder its all ugly chicks and fake profiles, and most girls on there have their heads so far up their asses its coming out of their mouths

I never got to tell you. You bailed.

Humble is the new rich

Farscape, theres not 1 in 100 million people that even knows it. Pizza yeah. I guess i have a few interests then okay

I have a little luck. It just requires a lot of money and effort and monkeying around to socialize and chase women. I like my money saved and im not a monkey.. well... um... okay never mind i am a monkey

Anyway. Im on phone. Cant be writing these long ass messages. Other people need my time too

I'm very skinny myself, I weigh 63kg for 1m83. I never let it get to my head and if you think gaining musclez is going to do all the work, you are mistaken.

Ask yourself this question instead: Do you want someone who appreciates you for who you are or someone who is into meatheads?

I have never had issues finding beautiful and intelligent girls, just dress according to you figure, don't be an asshole and you'll be fine.

Here's a suggestion for you: try taking latin dance classes, it will greatly help you with your confidence and social skills, and you will meet plenty of single women.

Vk316 said:

This is exactly what is going on in my mind. For about 2 years all that I've been thinking about is money. But now I'm not sure what to do after i get it. I even stopped talking to most of my friends because money clouded my mind 24/7. And i can't hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes. I don't think things would be same even if i tried my best because most of them seem to have moved on and make other buddies. Well what can i say, I either win or i learn. Will keep this in mind for the future. And if you want to do something about the conversation skills, maybe you can try reading a book or two about it, i haven't tried any but i think books help everyone

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Yeah, i feel you on that.

Nah, i dont like reading books. It bores the life out of me

social engineer said:

which country are you in?

Yeah hit the gym and the protein powder. The exercise will improve your mood and the attention from women will improve your confidence.

don't go posting how much you've made or even that you own your own home on dating sites trust me it attracts the totally wrong type of woman!

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I am in a... Balkan country.

Theyre all wrong type of women hahaha

TravelingPizza said:

I'm very skinny myself, I weigh 63kg for 1m83. I never let it get to my head and if you think gaining musclez is going to do all the work, you are mistaken.

Ask yourself this question instead: Do you want someone who appreciates you for who you are or someone who is into meatheads?

I have never had issues finding beautiful and intelligent girls, just dress according to you figure, don't be an asshole and you'll be fine.

Here's a suggestion for you: try taking latin dance classes, it will greatly help you with your confidence and social skills, and you will meet plenty of single women.

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You sound young.

But i am an asshole

Dancing is stupid. God save me from men that dance and do yoga. Okay i know, you want to be around women, you want to do as they do, you like them. But what happened to your balls man?

Cryptonite for women, keep many of them away.

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Because you don't have time for that, working so hard. You look very good.... if you only have more time for dating...just don't be so hard on yourself you will be fine you just have a worse day...tomorrow will be better

Scorpion Ghost said:

You sound young.

But i am an asshole

Dancing is stupid. God save me from men that dance and do yoga. Okay i know, you want to be around women, you want to do as they do, you like them. But happened to your balls man?

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I'm 31, in a commited relationship and dance is not a means for me to meet women, it simply is a passion.

Just trying to help but apparently you will also have to overcome being ignorant on top of being skinny. I guess it's okay, hookers are cheap in the Balkans anyway

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Because you don't have time for that, working so hard. You look very good.... if you only have more time for dating...just don't be so hard on yourself you will be fine you just have a worse day...tomorrow will be better

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Thats true. Tomorrow will be better

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I'm 31, in a commited relationship and dance is not a means for me to meet women, it simply is a passion.

Just trying to help but apparently you will also have to overcome being ignorant on top of being skinny. I guess it's okay, hookers are cheap in the Balkans anyway

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At least i still have my balls

Come on, dont be butthurt that i called men that dance men without testicles. I used to dance when i was a kid. I used to break dance. See even as a kid i had a healthy set of balls, unlike the guys that do latin dance and yoga

Hahahha come ooon im only playing. I mean, you know.. you know..

I wouldnt know about hookers. Never been to one. But you seem to have knowledge on the topic

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dear you're my mother

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Actually, I would be very proud to have a son like you and now, let's be serious...did you brush your teeth before sleep? If not, no sweets for the whole weekend!

Man, i think for first you need to find a friends. Always should be somebody next to you if you dont want go crazy. Maybe you can go to special intersting meetings? Speak with people?
P.s. can offer to you one more option. I invite you to Russia. We will teach you how to drink vodka, play on balalayka and walk the polar bear And of course you will find here friends
P.s.2 im seriously. Adventure - good thing for easy start of changing.

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Man, i think for first you need to find a friends. Always should be somebody next to you if you dont want go crazy. Maybe you can go to special intersting meetings? Speak with people?
P.s. can offer to you one more option. I invite you to Russia. We will teach you how to drink vodka, play on balalayka and walk the polar bear And of course you will find here friends
P.s.2 im seriously. Adventure - good thing for easy start of changing.

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Damn thanks man, that's nice of you.

But who has the money to come to Russia? I'm broke baby

Try joining various communities/societies according to your interests. If you are brave enough, you can try toastmasters - being active there will definitely get you up to speed on your social skills. Try to get out of your house as much as possible in either case.