So I'm telling this young thing all about "How Things Are", supremely aware of my YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, as well as her 1) age and 2) her gender.
She says, politely, "Well, couldn't it be like this?" and then starts giving me a very detailed and reasoned theory for how things could be different. Different than I just told her.
Well. Mr. Experience isn't having any of that.
So, with as little patronizing as I could possibly manage, I patiently re-explained everything that I had said the first time, making certain to avoid mentioning those areas where her theory directly contradicted mine. I thought I was being polite. And sensitive too. As well as experienced.
And so, eventually she evaporated away, into her little home-office, probably to sit down for a nice game of "Bejeweled" or "Angry Birds" or some other girlie video game that doesn't involve cutting off someone's head and then jamming a longsword 2 ft. down into their windpipe (+7 damage, ka-CHING!). And then I got busy, doing it the right way, just like I explained.
She comes out about 5 minutes later, holding a crisply-printed piece of 8 1/2 x 11 computer paper, with a bunch of black stuff on it, and some pitchers. She shows me the paper. Funny thing is, it has the manufacturer's name on it. And from there, it talks about "How Things Are" from the point of view from the people that actually MADE it, and not from the experienced and worldly man that thought he knew all about it. And the more that I read, the more I realized that her opinion sounded pretty much exactly the same as the manufacturer, and the only odd guy out was me.
And it was pretty obvious that I was wrong.
I keep this story around in my back pocket for several reasons. They are:
1) A reminder of the danger in underestimating women, just because they are women.
2) Also the danger of of underestimating young people, just because they are young.
3) The danger in failing to appreciate the profound impact the internet has made on our society. Information that was only held inside the minds of delusional old men can now be easily found by children with access to the internet.
4) The embarrassment that follows when you've made all three of the previous mistakes, and then you have to maintain a good working relationship with that person (vs. slinking off into the dark and empty city streets, never to be seen or heard from again.)
It's a good motivator, that lesson. Teaches a healthy dose of humility, as well as facilitating the utterance of 3 of the most important words in the English language, which are "I don't know". Those are good words to practice. I have a LOT of experience with saying them.