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The Time Has Finally Come!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Jeffdeaf, Feb 6, 2013.

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What would you do?

  1. Live and let live.

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  2. Destroy, then move on.

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  1. Jeffdeaf

    Jeffdeaf Newbie

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    This is a bit of a story so please bear with me ;) we are going to have some fun at the end...

    Anyhows;

    I am what they call a 'nice person'. I make friends easily and I never harm a fly. I try to think with people, if you know what I mean by that.


    Someone has been knowingly, willingly and consistentlytrying to (and in some cases succesfully) discredit me with family members, friends and even my parents for the past 15 years or so and it does not matter what I say, she just has to oppose it with agression. She has also been mimicking my hobbies and interests for all my life and that's what actually satisfies her, (trying to) be better than me. ALWAYS, PERIOD.

    I have turned the tide by just being successful, not only in Online Marketing, but also in newly acquired social skills, which I would have never had gotten without the BlackHat community. Thank you all for that. Slowly but surely I am gaining ground on the war that has been played out, and I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    My family is now actually asking about what I do with my business as they are beginning to get a glimpse of what I know and want, and they are seeing now what nonsense has been sprayed out all those years. I am beginning to get a reasonable relationship with my parents and we actually have conversations sometimes now =O

    Why did I let all this happen? Well before I guess I was what they call 'a wimp'. I had just no social skills to do so.

    Case closed?

    Think again.

    The b*tch has adapted and adjusted her tactics, apparently.

    I have been coping with severe fybromyalgia for the past 5 years due to hypermobility syndrome, which is the reason I decided to start working for myself. With great succes. I never have to beg for money again.

    Now, 2 years later, she is using that same exact condition, that she doesn't have, as an excuse to remain on welfare! Shes leaching about $1000 every month out of the system.

    Now I hear you thinking, this isn't really a direct attack on your persona. But then I think; I've gone through hell and back, became job-less, figured out online marketing ( without spending a dime ;P ) and regained my trust in myself to live my life as I see fit.

    Am I going to let this person (and this is the good part) get away with this?


    It was the final straw. War is on the horizon :) with a smile!


    Fun Facts:

    1) She lives illegally in a newly build house which isn't classified as a house yet for about 2 years..

    2) She is receiving well-fare illegally.

    3) Her boyfriend visits every week.

    4) She has no job..

    5) She is my sister.




    I really am a nice person for not doing this waaaaaaay earlier...

    What would you do?
     
  2. jameshilton105

    jameshilton105 BANNED BANNED

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    The best thing you should do is treat her like your sister... in return, she will treat you like her brother (I assumed because Jeff is your ID)... Love unconditionally...
     
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  3. Jeffdeaf

    Jeffdeaf Newbie

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    That's not happenin' :)

    I can love unconditionally, she can't.
     
  4. accelerator_dd

    accelerator_dd Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    That is not an attack on your persona if you can "live and let live", because she would never choose that. If you choose your other option, you are not a nice person. She is your sister, and she will always be, be there for her, maybe she's not sick (maybe she really is?), but show her that you'd be there for her because you are a good person and a good person would do just that. If she follows your footsteps there, you have made your sister a better person, and you certainly have that influence on her to be able to do so. Don't avoid doing it because she wouldn't do it for you, that doesn't matter.
     
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  5. Jeffdeaf

    Jeffdeaf Newbie

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    I've tried that for a very long time, but I think there comes a time that you have to draw a line. She takes what she wants.

    There is also a certain degree of social engineering involved in her tactics and that makes it harder for me to dismiss it all.

    She fucking hates my gut but when she needs something from me, she knows my number. Ya get my drift? Isn't that fucking pathetic?

    Someone that gets under your nails constantly, deliberately, and then expects you to carry her 5 miles down the road.
     
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