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The Brother Needs to GO!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by MoonWatcher, Aug 29, 2012.

  1. MoonWatcher

    MoonWatcher Newbie

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    Note: Venting going on here.

    So, I'm with this lady (she really is awesome and we love each other very much) who is supporting me for the most part so I don't really have to work and I can focus on my IM and SEO game, right? I always hand over like 75% of any money I make doing temp jobs around town and I clean up all the time and do yard work. She sees my diligent work that I'm doing for learning this field and both her and I know I've made some progress.

    Anyway, her half brother lives here as well. He is overall described as an asshole. He is lazy, makes messes, he does nothing around here but move some sprinkler heads every now and then. He makes snot rags and leaves his snot rags by the keyboard. Freaking gross. The trash can is literally outside the front door but he puts all his trash on the kitchen counter by the front door. Apparently spending a split second to open the door to throw trash out takes too much of his time.

    He is regularly asks for money, never pays back. I suspect the loser even got into my house (when I was living on my own) and stole a Rug Doctor steam cleaner. Funny how it disappeared after making the mistake of inviting him in one day. I have seen this loser go straight from check cashing to one of the casinos here in town. I was with him and I waited outside while he pissed money away that was supposed to be paid back to his sister i.e. the lady I'm with.

    He's been here forever and has made no effort to change his life. It's even suspected that he does hard drugs on the property.

    So, I told my lady friend I want to marry her but I'm not going to ask until my income is substantial and consistent. I told her that once we are married and I'm making enough money that I will finally have enough authority to impose rules on him. She does not impose rules on him since she admits she is not confrontational by any stretch of the imagination. But we both and all the kids want him gone. Everyone wants him gone.

    So now I'm working about 8-10 hours a day researching and learning and working on a website to do practice SEO on. And so far so good. I'm relatively pleased with my results so far.

    But man I can not wait till the day where I can say, "Hey, dude. I help pay all the bills around here. The mortgage that's due everyone month, I help pay for. The same house you spend most of your days doing nothing but playing FB poker on. The leeching and having free run ends now. If you want to stay here, you need to clean daily (like I do) and be actively looking for a job and / or maybe think about starting a business of your own, so you can pitch in and pay your way."

    Something along those lines. But as of right now I'm more of just a house guest rather than a authority around here which is why none of this happens. So I'm in a dead heat/sprint to start making money.

    I mean she wants to feel like she has a normal life again and it's hard to with him here. I despise him. I almost one night went off on him because he was yelling at a dog that was afraid of him. I almost...I could feel myself losing control of my temper so I had to leave or else I could of ruined my stay here by doing something stupid.

    Anyway, I really needed to vent. I feel better. Thanks guys and BHW FTW!:D
     
  2. Seankearns

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    That was a weird fifth post. Best of luck!
     
  3. Thub15

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    dude, thats a tough spot you're in. Keep up your hard work though, and it will pay off. good luck!
     
  4. silentthunder

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    Definitely tweaked for a 5th post Dude. You don't get to rant and shit about non-IM matters until
    at least you 39th post. :p :(

    Wait til your girl is not around and beat her brother silly with a phonebook from a Big City. It doesn't
    leave bruises. Or at least thats what the cops say in the movie. Besides that, suck it up until you're
    income is bigger and steadier. Then tell Bro to GTFO! :bubblegum

    phonebook thing is a joke...or is it?
     
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  5. phatzilla

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    to tell you the truth you're sounding like a woman. Your lady is the man of the house here.

    You need to stop fucking around and start making some money, then you can support the lady and yourself, and kick the shitty brother out. That's what a real man would do, not complain on BHW.
     
  6. B. Friendly

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    QFT. And, your real problem isn't the half-brother, it's you. The fact that you are better than the "asshole" does not make you "good", it just makes you better than an asshole. A very low standard you set for yourself.

    IM is not a "game" it's a profession. And professions generate INCOME. You could work all day, and learn IM at night, like I do. The fact that you are a student does not excuse you from your duty to work and carry your share of the load. Fuck that brother. That's the insignificant thing you pay attention to instead of paying attention to yourself. He probably has a list of complaints too, and can't wait until the day comes when his sister gets rid of you.

    Allowing a woman to take care of you is a dishonorable way to live. The fact that she lets both of you live there says something about her. She probably looks at the two of you and thinks she's good in comparison. She would be wrong. Usually people surround themselves by losers in order to make themselves feel like a winner. If she wanted a real man, she wouldn't have either of you around, as a real man wouldn't tolerate either of you, or her, in his presence for any length of time.

    Keep that in mind if you/as you consider changing. The more you should become a real man, the less that twat is going to want you.

    And, in case you might be tempted to pigeon-hole me in some way into the role of "the guy that doesn't get it", or whatever, I more than just know you, I've BEEN you before, surrounded by people that reinforced acceptance of the weakest, least honorable parts of me and suppressed that which was noble and true. The longer you delay making the decision to stop this shit and start acting like a man, the more likely you are to spend the rest of your life as a diseased turd, dependent on a woman and her drug-addict brother.
     
  7. Lithin

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    Soak the phonebook first. Will do more dmg still without bruises. Be aware of marks left by the ink.

    Or just start by making some money and kick him out the real way :)
     
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  8. JimmyWong

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    Make some money and take control of the situation. Doesn't sound like you have much of a SEO or IM game if you can't support yourself.

    Get a grip, and a job. Or accept the situation you're in (a nobody).
     
  9. Aegroeg

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    Wow dude this sucks. My partner is in the same situation with my flatmates!! I moved my best mate and boyfriend in here and he despises the lack of bill paying, cleaning and the way I'm treated. ( I clean 100% everything and do about 90% of the laundry. I literally clean at 6am for 2 hours then when I come home at 4pm for an hour every day and they make no effort whatsoever to make my job easier. They leave the same shit lying around day after day )

    They dont contribute, but for some reason me and her are still close. And its a tough situation. Im sure ( just like me ) she wants some normality, real financial independance and for him to leave and be happy on his own.

    He sounds like a user and a waster !! ( dont mean to be hyprocitical here, I am well aware of my own parallel situation ) since there are children involved I would try my best to have another serious conversation with her. Maybe away from the home? In a neutral environment. Lets say, a restaurant. Ask her if shes truly happy with her living situation. Does he really contribute enough money / chores for him living there to be worth it? Doesn't she want the kids to be part of a normal family unit?

    It would be utterly LIFE CHANGING if he left, honestly. I have lived with friends all my life and the peace and quiet is unimaginable once they're gone. Yes its weird, and at first guilt can overcome and its hard. But for everyone in your family to be happy, you need to try again and see if its something you could both achieve together - to be a normal unit without this scrubber!!

    The bin on the kitchen counter? Dont get me started. Our outside bin is in the same place ( sorry, trash can haha ) and they lift out the trash liner and leave it wide open on the kitchen floor. They never replace the liner in the trash can, and dont close the old bin ( so its wide open in my kitchen )and then the DOGS eat out of it and my house smells vile. They also do this when they clean their room. A big black open bin liner sits outside their door. Nothing is put away. So as the bin gets bigger they put the remaining mess on the counters. Like open packets of raw chicken thats went off, etc. Knowing I'll be home from work in a few hours to clean it like always.


    I clean everything instantly as soon as its put in front of me as I cant stand mess. But out of curiosity I wanted to see how long the massive suitcases would be sitting at the bottom of the stairs when they returned from holiday. 2 days. 2.whole.days of obstruction and they never cared.

    Im in your situation, but luckily my partner is just too laid back and he knows that we really do need the extra cash and aside from their flaws, when we spend time together like normal friends hanging out, there are so many excellent times.

    I hope this comes to a good conclusion...and soon. Go make your moneys!!! :D
     
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  10. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    In the end, it 's simple. Get more efficient at what you do -> earn enough money -> kick everyone 's ass. Till then, stick to the first step.
     
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  11. twister360

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    your post failed the moment you said you want to marry her !!! why do you want to be forced to live with one women and her stupid brother for the rest of your life when you can have many more women and no brother?
     
  12. MoonWatcher

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    The post failed? Failed at what? There was no real objective to it.

    B. Friendly is a great username by the way. I like how it fits right in with how friendly you are. =)

    I'm sorry but I just can not take any offense to anything that was said. I do not feel embarrassed for making it and nobody made me feel an idiot.

    At any rate I've gotsta get my "game" on. It is a "game." It's a straight up hustle! Pushin' keywords, pimpin' out my bots, Yo!
     
  13. ch8878

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    Kick his ass out then place a restraining order against him :eek:
     
  14. WanQuiSheR246

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    i would kick him right away,how much are u earning?
     
  15. senior

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    Internet marketing is still a job. If you can't make money at it you should get a different job until you're better at it. I think you will be amazed at what a day/night job can do for your self confidence. Even if it sucks balls you will have more appreciation of your time and it will make you work that much harder in IM.

    Until you are paying the bills in the house, you really don't have any room to talk about anyone else in it. BTW, Family will never be kicked out in a healthy one at least. They shouldn't either. Real friends and family look out for each other. If one is abusing that generosity they need to be talked to and told to pull their own weight. By postponing that even a little you are letting the user think they are ok in what they are doing and every bit of enabling you do from there is your fault.

    Then to just kick someone out after months or years of enabling and saying nothing or why they are not wanted until the very last minute is seriously twisted. If you are going to tell them it's the last straw, make sure you have been reminding them regularly what the problem is and how you are willing to help them with the solution.
     
  16. procam

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    Damn Fucking Dude! You Doctor Phil or some shit now?

    Lets focus more on IM and not trying to be a Talk Show host brother!

     
  17. jmcs23

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    Use all that anger and frustration as motivation to keep working hard at IM. Realize that if you work hard enough you will someday be able to support your woman and kick that guy out.

    Since you don't really contribute too much financially, I would say that she has the final say when it comes to her brother staying or not. Once you can contribute more, or if it was your house, then I feel you can decide who lives there and who doesn't.


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