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Stress and Mentally Drained

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by whitewire, Jun 25, 2015.

  1. whitewire

    whitewire Junior Member

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    Soo I have a job in sales, the hours are typical and I keep my weekends. Part of me getting hired was my tech savviness and that's where I discovered BHW and been learning ever since, with my job I had the perfect platform to learn the basics methods of IM as I am in front of a computer 8 hours at work, and 4-6 more hours before and after work working on personal IM research projects.. I invest my paychecks into tools and packages on BHW and bills leaving me with very little money left to actually go out and do stuff like normal people my age.

    The past few weeks it's been slow and a few people are lashing out at me for various reasons that I cant control and letting a few things slip that I can control like a constant fog that enables me to make poor choices. It has accelerated after I got in an accident (rear ended by a distracted driver going 55+ MPH while I was at a complete stop) Dealing with the accident shenanigans personal IM, company IM and a partnership IM (partnered with someone with a very basic url, SEO and money will be a breeze) and add 45+hours a week staring at a computer. Now It takes all my willpower to do anything IM related things and find myself diverting to talking to anything but this.

    I have 1 week vacation saved up but nothing to spend. I burned a lot of money before I became discovered the most effective path to IM and currently waiting on the packages I bought to pay off, but stress is starting to get to me, any tips?
     
  2. nam6641

    nam6641 Supreme Member

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    Pick one thing in IM and focus on that. Trying to do multiple projects when you are already feeling drained will wind up with multiple incomplete projects.

    When you pick your one project make a list of steps, but when making the list start at the end and work backwards. Meaning create your goal first, then the final step before the goal, then the step before that, etc... This will create a list of steps that is more focused then if you start at the beginning when you are creating the steps.

    Put together a realistic timeline to complete each step.

    Stay away from forums/reddit/other distractions.

    When you have energy do your IM project, don't watch TV and say you'll do IM later because later you'll be tired.
     
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  3. Hawkster

    Hawkster Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    You don't need money to de-stress yourself, this is actually something that pisses me off - people with the mindset that they need money to take a break and re-charge the batteries.

    Get yourself a cheap fishing rod and find a local pond, even if its the shittiest pond in the world - you dont need to catch anything your just chilling and forgetting about 'everything'

    Go to a local park and take a seat on a bench for an hour feeding the birds some seeds/bread.

    Go to a local museum (usually free or cheap to enter) and lose yourself in the wonders inside.


    You get my point, anyone that spends a heap of money to 'relax' is a dick.
     
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  4. archon10

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    OP, I think anyone who does sales either for themselves or for business goes through this. Last year, I was doing fine making $8k/month and I was happy, BAM the company dropped their team for content and I was one of them. This was June. So, picked myself back up in July and started going again, and then some personal issues + 3 disputes hit me in Aug/September. Was so depressed and stressed that I didn't even work those months. I totally understand what it's like to go through shitty times.

    Working for yourself is a roller coaster. Sales for other people is the same, really. You have no hard, distinct future so you're always stressed.

    I'm coming from a freelancer standpoint where things are good, bad, ugly, then good, maybe OK. It never ends. I've actually kinda gotten used to it. I'm spontaneous, so I move with the changes. Last year, I decided to take a 3-month onsite contract to get out of the house and de-stress and work with people to cheer me up. Best decision I did last year.

    I always alllwayssss have plan b in my head, so I think that's how I stopped stressing all the time. I work out in the mornings and feel amazing like I can conquer the world, I try to take Sundays off. I try to always keep personal projects for myself but I don't overwork myself.

    Sometimes, you're your own worst manager and you have to scale back. People on here say "work harder" but if you're already giving it what you got, you need to give yourself a break. Your work can suffer. Your mind needs time off too. It's completely unhealthy to sit in front of a screen all day. Go to the beach, go work out, take a walk/run, spend time with family, etc. I plop myself on my Sack Daddy and play video games all day. That's my fun for a day off.
     
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  5. LyonsHere

    LyonsHere Newbie

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    As far as stress go's it sounds cheezy and definitely over-stated, but eat raw veggies, exercise, quit smoking ( if you do ). The more you take care of your body the more it will take care of you. I highly recommend reading the 4-hour work week, automate your responsibilities. Be more stingy with your money too, alot of tools, wso's, guides, books; all over-hype.
     
  6. FilipMKD

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    Right now...

    I have 10 projects going on...

    Half of them are really big f*cking projects that are on their way to get me $1K daily each.

    The other half aren't that big but they want brainstorming and work too...

    I work 15-17 hours a day for two-three days then i take a day off exercising, playing video games or spending time with friends and my mom.

    But its not fucking working... Before I start I drink a 2 Kilos of coffee to get started, and during the work 3 more to keep me focused.

    I can't get things off my mind, while I'm working, while I'm resting, while I'm sleeping... I f*cking think about all those projects and how are they going to end up.

    Am I on the right foot... Or I'm getting of my mind?
     
  7. MrE

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    +1 nam6641, make a short list of the most critical items for #1 priority project to immediately be running/generating income and execute those steps - get some cash flowing even if the site/setup looks and acts like shit and then focus on fine tuning and improving things once you're running. You don't need a professional site, blah blah for many projects and it can cause you to put off the essential core work in favour of busy work that has little to no impact on your ability to make money. (ego masturbation)

    TLDR; take money & sell immediately, deliver on your promises and fine tune as you go. Focus on 1 top priority project that can generate cash quick, build you confidence & momentum and straight line the work to bring in revenue ASAP.