Actually it was indexed, but thanks for replying.
Here is something interesting, though, thoughts appreciated. So selfactivities was de-indexed after a nice initial boost in Google (again, not penalized, but de-indexed). Nothing black hat going on at all. I followed the advice here and begin building links again, including Digg submission. Nothing yet, but we'll see.
Here's an interesting one though. So I have another site that is completely useless with no data no links no nothing that got indexed somehow and has been for some time hxxp:gasmileagecomparison[.]net - now this site remains indexed, obviously its not drawing much traffic, but how does it get by, why does G00g bother keeping it indexed? Because no one is going there? Probably because there is no oddsense on the page?