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Should I move out?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Straight284, Nov 16, 2016.

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  1. Straight284

    Straight284 Newbie

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    From my parents house?

    I'm not happy. Feels low everyday, no energy. Unhappy, depressed, lonely, bored. I want to move out, should I? Age 25+

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    AceWallGromit Regular Member

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    Your parents feel the same. Do them a favor and go get a life of your own.
     
  3. Motherdex

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    Do you have the resources to move out? Do you feel that the issues you stated are solely because you live at home or are other things going on?
     
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    Yes, I have the resources. I once read that I got to change my environment, I think moving out might help, I'm not sure though, that's why I haven't done it till now.

    @https://www.blackhatworld.com/members/acewallgromit.986844/ You are right.
     
  5. Motherdex

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    Good enough then.. go for it if you think it would help. Maybe take a vacation or a small trip to try the change of environment thing out. You don't want to go thru the time and expense of moving out just to find out the root cause of the issue was something else.
    Just my $0.02 :)
     
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    Try to move out bro, 'necessity is the mother of invention' might work.
    Good luck.
     
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    If you can support yourself, then by all means move out. Ask permission from your parents first.

    It doesn't make sense to move out and still ask your parents for rent or grocery money.
     
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    I went for a trip out of country 2 days ago, it was refreshing, as I reach home, I felt depressing waves into my mind as I enter the house. I think moving out is going to be better, somehow I don't know why, why I'm reluctant to go.
     
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    Move out. You can always visit your parents when you miss them.
     
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    25 and still living at home?

    It might be time to cut the cord and move out.

    It'll be uncomfortable at first, but you will grow immensely from it and finally become your own person.
     
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    Moving out, right now.
     
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    Move out if you have to. Taking action that makes you feel better can help. However, the void you feel cannot completely be cured by just moving out. You want to find yourself a purpose in life, something to work towards. Or a passion you've been wanting to pursue but haven't done for whatever reasons. Doing something you like doing can fill a void much better.

    Also don't think that asking for professional help is wrong, can be helpful.
     
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    I moved out at 28 it was awesome- you simply must try it!! Freedom and formation of self
     
  15. rowebil

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    You and I both. However, I'm 23.
    My Uncles on each side of my family live with their Mothers.
    I couldn't...
    I can't imagine myself living here for another few months.

    I have the same issues you do.
    There are a lot of family issues with mine -- dog eat dog competition I call it.
    My Dad has a problem, too...
    I can't figure it out why he does and says the things he does.
    He acts like a child and then in turn I act silly and stupid and get in trouble for it like at a job.

    So if you have the resources then do it!
    I wish I would have done it when I was working.
    Now I left that job. I took the summer off and now looking again.
    I had a plan to move in to a small little home with a girlfriend, but the job I had made me terribly miserable and she decided the relationship wasn't for her.

    Now I'm still seeking to move out, even though my Mom wants me to live here like my Uncles.
    If I lived here any longer, I'd go insane.
    I'd die at a VERY early age regretting my entire life.
    It's that bad.

    It holds me back.

    I have nothing negative towards those who still live at home. I very high percentage of people live at home today.
    I just couldn't do it myself.
    So when I say 'Yes, get out of your Parent's house', I don't mean it as anything negative.
    I am simply pushing you to do it.
    I wish I had that supportive push because it's what I need, too.

    Nonetheless, if you want to PM me, do it!
    I'd love to compare living situations and find someone who thinks like me.
    We already think a like and feel a like.
    I'd love to get to know your situation through PM if you'd like.

    Other than that, try it out.
    Take a vacation like everyone is saying.
    Stay at a hotel for a week.
    For me, I'd have to do it under the radar.
    I just feel awkward leaving my family.
    My Mom always tells everyone I'm going to live with her. Hell, the two guys at her work still lives with their parents and their 40+ years old.
    So what I'd do in my case is get an apartment for a month to just go to during the day and night and come home like everything is fine (I do that now, but I just drive around during the day and night).
    I even thought about getting a hotel for a weekly price of like $250. It's a VERY decent hotel... Several floors.
    OR, recently, I thought about renting an office space for $400-$600.
    A year ago I was looking into like a large business building renting small offices...
    I even wanted to get an apartment and just stay there secretly.
    Then I have my own little place to stay and go to when I don't want to deal with people here.

    I just have no reason to move out so I don't even know how to start such a conversation with my parents, even though we don't really have conversations.
    If I had that girlfriend then i'd have a reason to move out.
    I'd REALLY like to move far away to another State and start over completely.
    The idea sounds amazing, but the process is the hard part.
    I just have no reason, even though I know this family is very negative and detrimental to my health.
    It's so hard to explain how I feel.
    I avoid awkward conversations or hurt feelings...
     
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    Move to another city not just get out
     
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    You should take a short term lease like 3-6 months and see how you like it. Keep in mind living on your own costs a lot of money.
     
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    If you're feeling sad and lonely whilst living with your folks, how are you going to feel all alone in your own place? Me, I was on cloud 9. JO city, with a woman here and there. As I detest people the solitude was never, and still isn't, an issue.

    At least get away from the computer and get some fresh air for a while
     
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    Let's do it, Go and chase your dreams!
     
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