She cheated.

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Be happy and feel relieved that a bitch is out of your life. For a while do not get into another relationship, but instead start enjoying life more in general, like go out make some new general friends, watch nice movies, go for a trek, enjoy fresh air outdoor, if it rains, wear a raincoat and go for a short walk in the rain, etc. And ofcourse also focus on your internet marketing things as well. What I mean is tweak your lifestyle or routine to enjoy some good positive things you've never enjoyed till now.
 
It's a good thing you found out earlier. Imagine if that happened when you were already married?

Consequences, Bad Choices?, it is really petty we only find out when it's too late.

Good things will come to you. I'm pretty sure of it.
 
xShot said:
I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense becaliuse she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.
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xShot said:
I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense because she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.
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Take this as blessing. At least you didn't marry her. I'm not sure how old you are or your dating history is.. but you will eventually get over this. Mark my words... One day you will look back on this and be in disbelief you even cared about this girl.
 
xShot said:
I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense because she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.
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Lomg distance relationships are not worth it most times. I assume you both leave in different cities.

But she's a college/university chick. You know what university chicks. There are hot guys around so..


Sorry, that's all I can say.

Give yourself some break.
 
Just take care of yourself, don't let this affect you, it's even better since you've known from the early stage than having kids with her and later finding out she is cheating.
 
She just wanted to be pumped, from anothet guy, may be she like both of you the same, let her explain
 
Well, if it makes you feel better I know a guy that forgived thing like this.

At least you didnt betrayed your testicles :D
 
I'm sorry for you, but see the good part: At least, you haven't married her, and discovered this later. Head up and live your life.
 
Sorry to hear that, man. I've been there too, have had similar horror stories in my 20s. The upside is you become better at vetting for people who are right for you over time, and experiences like these contribute significantly to ones emotional maturity. Just remember to not become pathologically bitter over it. Consider it a learning experience and keep your chin up.

On a lighter note, a title like "She Cheated." is internet marketing gold, clickthrough rates on an article with that title are amazing in the dating niche. The only better alternative I can think of is "She Cheated Again" :)
 
Sorry for your loss
Hope you will get someone better
 
I dont seem to see anyone here say this and i dont mean to play the devil's advocate here, but you know if you love here you can still forgive her.

If she makes you happy and you love her, talk to her
She could learn from her mistake and turn out to be the one for you.

Some say its better you found out now to dismiss her , but finding out now could give you both the understanding to make it never happen again.

Unless you want to completely go the monk way,

What's to say the your next relationship that will proceed into marriage won't make the mistake in the middle of it.

Not wishing that for you but trying to put things Into perspective for you to really have a complete picture to look at.
 
I am not gonna lie, but it will start to hurt like hell in the first few months, but you will be fine. Now it's time for you to go and have some fun with friends, gym and travelling. Hang in there mate.
 
xShot said:
I'm absolutely gutted.

My first long-term GF slept with another man. I had this eerie feeling in the back of my mind, but always assumed it was my own paranoia.

Me and my GF track each other. It's mostly for logistical purposes - I come up to her college campus once a week roughly and it helps for her to know exactly where I am. Eventually we decided that leaving "Find my iPhone" on was a good choice.

I noticed she was out during ungodly hours (sometimes until 3AM). She doesn't have a car, so this adds insult to injury. This is percisely what made me call her out first, and when she tried to lie to me (saying she was only smoking with a friend), after pressure she came clean.

She came clean about "cuddling" with another guy. Eventually she admitted to preforming sexual acts on him. Right away, I knew it was done. But it makes no fucking sense because she frequently talked about marriage. Was ALWAYS wrapped around my finger, eager to please, etc.

I don't even know why I'm posting this - it probably poses no relevance to your personal situation right now but this is the worst I've felt in years. Obviously she's gone - I can't forgive her for that, but my future has been changed in a way I cannot articulate. I thought this woman was going to have my kids. I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.
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Dodge a bullet there OP, be glad it happened, people who do it once will do it again, better for it to happen now than after you're married with kids.

DO NOT FORGIVE HER. If you do so you will regret it
 
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