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She broke up with me and It fu*kin hurts

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by wriper, Aug 13, 2016.

  1. wriper

    wriper Senior Member

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    Hi guys,

    I am really desperate . My first relationship ended after 1,5 year .

    Altough i read all these advice and i apply them it hurts. She was my first and she came to my life when i was 20 . First love first sex everything . Hormones and oxytocin exploding and i was in heaven . But few days ago she told me that its end . And she was in my hometown with my parents day before i feel horrible beacuse i was again negative on her because she was cold on me. We wanted to live together and she realized that she cant live with someone like me . But again there is that feeling where i ask myself why i wasnt better man why i didnt hugh her strong and asked her and told her that i love her even when she is cold .
    I understand why and somehow my logic is telling me that it was right decision and she did the last best thing for me.

    Problem was that i stopped working on myself and she and my work was everything . When i had some problems in bussines i came to her and told her she was always here for me . But i didnt know that there is limit that you cant go with every problem to someone you love and you need to solve problems also by yourself you need to work on yourself .

    But it really hurt we travelled world together so many nice memories . Now i cant eat sleep and work. I tought that it is good i felt really positive yesterday but then again so many emotions. Everything in my house remind me the love i had . I cant even watch tv shows because we watched them togheter , she loved my dog and animals and now i cant take my dog for a walk , i took her to all important places for me and now i cant to go there myself.

    I realize that i will find someone better and most important i will become someone better . Sorry for BS post but this place gave me big part of my life - my bussines and i feel that i need to tell someone
     
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  2. Peter Ngo

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    That is very sad, sorry to hear, dont really know what to say but move on is the only advice i can give.

    On the side note though, posting this here is a big mistake base on my experience. :-s
     
  3. Aty

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    Get a grip and either try to get her back or move on. Simple as that.
     
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    Dry your eyes mate, I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up. / There's plenty more fish in the sea. / Dry your eyes mate, I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts, but you've got to walk away now, its ove

     
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    It hurts .. and it's not going to go away anytime soon. But time will numb the pain. Try to move on buddy ... Because life is short and there is no point in living in the past.
     
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    Ohh dude for fucks sake , man up . Thing is that most relationships will come to an end sooner or later , it's not the end of the world , I know it hurts but you gotta move on . If she really loved you she was supposed to let you know about something that might have been wrong with your relationship and if you wouldn't really care about such stuff she would then have all the rights and privileges to come to such a conclusion , anyway , things get better with time , it's tough I know but you gotta move on .
     
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    You will forget her in 1 month, time heals everything. Meanwhile work on yourself..
     
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    I know how you feel bro. I was with my GF for 2 years and she cheated on me. Even though I loved her(Yes even after she cheated on me) and I told her that I forgive her not was ever the same. She cheated on me again and I had to break up with her even though I still loved her when she cheated on me for the second time. I still miss her and I really don't know why. Ii can't get over her and I blame myself because she cheated on me. Yes it fucking hurts. But time will heal everything. I am working on myself to become better so she can see what she lost :D Never give up! Because of her I even started working out 5 times a week and I am now training kickboxing and Jiu Jitsu. So yeah I'm thankful because I had her.
     
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    Did she go offish when your business struggled a bit by any chance?
     
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    It happens ok, don't feel bad.
    I had many much longer than 1.5 years, things don't work out just move on.
    As abov, there's plenty of fish in the sea, and never ever let let your feelings get the better of you.
    Find something you like? Balance the negativity!
     
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    Dude. It happens I am 23 now and I was in relationship from my 8 standard. We grew,learnt,rome,eat,...most of the things together. When I was in 1st semester Iin college, I met with an accident and I lost 1 complete year in recovery..she was still with me..and now she completed her graduation and got a job in CS. A reputed firm of US. I am still in college.
    Now she don't have time to talk and we fight on every now and then issue. And separated from April. I am still waiting but can't help to get that attitude working again for us.
    Moral:
    Time passes everything, everyone changes. You can't say anything about anyone.
    Just enjoy bro, keep yourself busy in stuff, drive long ways in bike, go for nearby getaways.
    Don't drink and smoke too muh. It will again lead to anxiety and sadness.
    Good luck for you.
     
  16. wriper

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    Big thanks for fast support guys. I know i realize that i am fresh 22 YO but this relationship was so adult she is 25 she taught me everything about love and how to be with someone . She didnt leave me because of struggle in my bussines, day, before breakup i was telling her that i am happy because earnings going up and how i improved my bussines.

    But this is nothing new . She loved this on me but she didnt love that i cant move myself in my personal life that i cant solve my problems with meeting new people , that i am negative all the time , she told me few times how is it possible that i am progressive in bussines but i cant move with my life .

    She took paper and pen and wrote down things i need to improve to feel more positive but i didnt . And again when i was negative i came to her and told her everything . Of course she absorbs and i full understand her descision .

    And probably this is only impulse that was necessary . I was afraid of driving car because of car accident. Next week i am going to drive my mercedes and i am really happy that i wont use public transport anymore . I am going to work out again and most important i am going to have social life again because i dont want to live in this dark anymore.

    But again i gave her second chance because i wanted to date her year before she started with me . And i cant stop thinking that i deserve that second chance .

    I believe in working on things . I dont sell my websites i dont sell my projects if they struggle .


    This writing really helps . Big thanks guys
     
  17. Aluminium

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    This post should have been on Reddit.

    Most us are just here trying to make some cash!

    In any case.. there are plenty of fish in the sea - don't limit yourself.
     
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    Improve yourself! Take it as a challenge. Achieve your fucking goals, so when she's going to look back at you in a few years, she will regret leaving you.

    That's how you take revenge!

    Best Regards,
    Jaymien.
     
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    What a pussy
    I mean...Yeah,everything will be ok,you cool,you'll find a new one and e.t.c
     
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  20. Aty

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    Dude you are young, right now you should be out there looking for hot chicks not crying on a forum.
     
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