Scammed from my own cousin, not sure what to do, help!

So this is how the story goes...
I wanted to buy over this facebook page and I agreed with the seller on a price of $850 but this seller only accepts PayPal and I don't have a PayPal. So I withdrew $850 from my bank and passed it to my cousin because he has a PayPal account and he offered to help me with this deal. We sent the money to the seller but it turns out that the seller is a scammer as he didn't give me any facebook page. Of course, I panicked thinking that's it, I am going to lose this case because it's intangible items. I chargebacked the seller, requesting for a refund of my money back and I phoned up PayPal and explained everything to them. PayPal told me that the dispute will take at least 30 days or so. Thank god, I won the case because the seller didn't even respond to the case at all. PayPal ruled the case in my favor and return me the money, that is, returning my $850 to my cousin. So this is where it gets the whole story going...

PayPal has already returned my $850 to my cousin but now my cousin claimed he has never received any money from PayPal and not a single email. I know for a fact that he is lying because when I phoned up PayPal, they told me they already did and they sent me this email:

Thanks for contacting PayPal. My name is Tracy and I am happy to assist you
with your issue regarding your.

After checking your case, I found that the case was closed in your favor
due to no seller's response. We have sent the email to you. Please check
the following email notification.

"We have concluded our investigation into your case and have decided in
your favour.

We were able to recover $850.00 USD, and this amount has been credited to
your card xxxx-xxxx-xxxx-3849. Please allow five working days for this adjustment to be posted.

If you are due any additional funds, we will make our best effort to
recover the balance from the seller.


If the seller's account has insufficient funds to complete the refund owed
to you, please be assured that we will take appropriate action against the
seller's account, which may include limitation of the seller's account
privileges.

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Phoned up PayPal subsequently many times and they told me that the money has already been credited back to my cousin's account but he claims he didn't receive any money or any emails from PayPal. I asked to meet up with him to go down his bank to verify because the truth will be known if the money was sent to him but he always comes up with excuses saying he isn't free blah blah.

What should I do? He is my cousin and I don't actually want to blow this matter up. I just want my money back but he isn't responding to me at all. I have already given him more than enough time and my tolerance and patience is running out. This took place all in February and now it's already June, he keeps delaying and kept avoiding me. I am trying to solve this in an amicable manner but he isn't cooperative. Everytime we agreed on a date and time, he would refuse to answer my call and texts and then I need to text him several times 'So what happened to us meeting at your bank this morning?' and he would say 'Sorry I am outside with my friends, sorry I am working'. I am seriously so sick and tired of his nonsense. I cannot believe this. Someone who is so close and RELATED to me will cheat me over $850! I'm just shocked.

Is there any advice any of you can give me? That would be greatly appreciated. I've thought of going down to the police to make a report but my mum told me it's useless because it's personal issues and I don't actually have any evidence against him because everything is under his name. I'm in a wreck now. Please help!

You should tell your mommy to get your money back from your cousin. Dude a lot of members here are going to laugh at you, call you out on putting your own family member on the shit list. The mods really have a short temper now over the last few shitlist thread that resulted in a lot of intermediate work , I don't think they deserve another shitlist thread soon and especially not this ridiculous, but who knows maybe you put a smile on their face for a while thinking how fucking stupid the OP must be to post a thread like this. You never know you might just get ridicule a lil bit and then banned lol

cool0403 said:

You should tell your mommy to get your money back from your cousin. Dude a lot of members here are going to laugh at you, call you out on putting your own family member on the shit list. The mods really have a short temper now over the last few shitlist thread that resulted in a lot of intermediate work , I don't think they deserve another shitlist thread soon and especially not this ridiculous, but who knows maybe you put a smile on their face for a while thinking how fucking stupid the OP must be to post a thread like this. You never know you might just get ridicule a lil bit and then banned lol

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I knew I am going to get laughed and flamed for this but I really have no idea what to do. Can this thread be moved elsewhere if possible?

He could have already spent it and is embarrassed.

Maybe you and your boys can go round and since you are cousins you can beat him up.

Inquisitive said:

I knew I am going to get laughed and flamed for this but I really have no idea what to do. Can this thread be moved elsewhere if possible?

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Dude this is an international forum, we don't take domestic calls. You should call the local police for that, not bhw.

do you want bleemz to call your mom's phone or your cousin and convince him to give you your money back. Get out of here!

Sorry to hear that bro.
If that happen to me i'll definitely go to his house and unleash the unlimited bullets

cool0403 said:

Dude this is an international forum, we don't take domestic calls. You should call the local police for that, not bhw.

do you want bleemz to call your mom's phone or your cousin and convince him to give you your money back. Get out of here!

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What can this crime be classified under then? I've also thought of going down to the local police but it's actually quite embarrassing.

Xyz01 said:

He could have already spent it and is embarrassed.

Maybe you and your boys can go round and since you are cousins you can beat him up.

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That's what I was thinking too and I don't think violence is the way to solve this or it might just backfire on me.

cool0403 said:

Dude this is an international forum, we don't take domestic calls. You should call the local police for that, not bhw.

do you want bleemz to call your mom's phone or your cousin and convince him to give you your money back. Get out of here!

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Geez dude, chill out. OP is out $850 and seems clueless on what to do to get it back. May be dumb, and definitely being too much of a pushover because it is his cousin, but there is nothing wrong with posting on a message board asking for advice on the situation. Should have posted in the lounge though.

OP: Stop calling him. Go visit him and tell him to cut the BS and get the money back to you. Refuse to leave until he does. If he threatens with the cops, tell him you'll have him charged with theft (even if it isn't possible, he may not call that bluff). Most importantly, have balls and stop letting him BS you. Even get family members involved if need be. You aren't blowing it up, he is by stealing from you.

Man up or be a bitch all your life.
You let people you know take money off you and laugh in your face?
How does it feel to know your own cousin thinks you're a pussy?
I guess you got the wrong side of the gene pool.

Now that should motivate you to go and do something about it.

I would have reservations about calling the cops on your own family.

How old is your cousin? If he is youngish (still lives at home etc) get his family involved- show them the paypal evidence etc.

This situation does not need to escalate in to violence, i'm sure it can be resolved without creating a family feud.

How long has it been since he was supposedly refunded? If it were me, and some may not agree with me on this, but whateva...Feel free to let him know before you do it, but I'd just walk my happy ass to the courthouse and file a small claims against him if he's so fine with keeping your money. Family Schmamily, if he can steal from you with a clear conscious, you should find the same comfort in bringing in the law. *shrug*

he wants war, so you give him war, play stupid,stay low - you are obviously no-one to him so act the same, hack his paypal account and wait....

Gather some of your good friends or give some money to some nice people beat him,drag him to your computer,ask him to login to his paypal transfer the 850 to your account and order some beer's online from his paypal drink with him and you are all set

I agree with the above poster. Since you tried talking to him already, and now have confirmation in writing that he was refunded...so you have done your bit. Put a claim on him at small claims court. Wipe the smirk of his face.

Ask for the last few months transactions he had on paypal and then ask your mom to get this matter solved. It doesn't matter if his your cousin or someone else, it's your money and you have full rights to get that back.

Agree with Marusia, Small claims court his ass. Let him explain to a judge where the money went. It will cost you about $50 and you have a very good chance of winning.

Catch him when he's available at home. Pay him a surprise visit. Go to his room and ask him to log into his pp account. Tell him you are 100% sure that he is making a mistake and the money is in his pp. Ask him to show you the transaction history. It's fine that you don't want any violence, afterall he is family. At least be persuasive and persistant.

If he is so busy as he says. tell him to seat near the pc, call u on skype, you have a share screen option , ask him to show u his paypal logs, u don't need to arrange any time for that, its a quick 5 minutes job.

If he refuses, go to his house and take is f*cking pc, till he send u the money back

There's no bullshit here, if paypal said they refunded the money it should be there within a day or 2 max.

Your cousin should not be dragging u this way.

I'm working with my cousin regularly on IM, I would never do such a thing to him (hell I won't do it to anyone).

So this is very simple use skype share screen call or u can try team-viewer, or VNC or remote shared connection - u name it, its VERY easy.

Otherwise a baseball bat would come in handy.

Shame, usually when we have issues like this, most of us have a crazy cousin we can call on to beat someone up for us...