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Need help with procrastination

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by skshogun, Aug 8, 2014.

  1. skshogun

    skshogun Newbie

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    Hello BHW,

    I think the procrastination is ruining my life. For example, I thought about writing this thread on BHW for about a week, but I kicked myself to do it just now.

    Next thing is working out. I love lifting weights, but many times when I should go to the gym I just won't stop sitting in front of PC and checking memes, videos etc. I procrastinate even on internet - I open some page that interested me on the new card, but I spend another 15 minutes looking on current page.

    Have any tips or methods to kill the procrastination?

    Thnanks!
     
  2. f0rest00

    f0rest00 Regular Member

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    i would suggest to either start to get goals and deadlines in your day to day and punish yourself to do them, or get someone to motivate you and get you setting goals and helping you
     
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  5. Ghoast

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    You're too comfortable.. Take another look at your life and see why you need to work for what you 'want'..

    The reason you're not doing anything is because you're comfortable..

    Re think it
     
  6. groxi

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    im on the same road as you , i am making very slow progress with anything with which im not satisfied, i complain a lot about my life(to myself) i want to make change, but i could do it much faster but i tend to stuck on stupid things,
    working out is same thing i skip often and i had a 3 month pause
     
  7. albaniax

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    I know that, I've been through that myself and wasted lot's of time.

    My believe is, you're missing your goal.

    Go and try this:
    - Sit on a table with either a pen and paper, or your laptop and only notepad (in full-screen). Now relax, drink a tea or something.

    - Next, prepare yourself for 2-3 minutes regarding what your are going to write down now.
    Think about:
    What do you want to achieve?
    Why do you want to achieve that?
    What do you have to change?
    Where you see yourself afterwards?
    What's your ultimate goal?
    How will be your free-time spent?
    What are you going to actually do with that money?
    etc.

    Questions like this, but don't overthink it - keep it simple. These are some example questions you might want to ask yourself.

    - Now just start writing and don't look up. Just write and write and write. You should get at least 1 page full, more like 2-3 pages with pen and paper.

    That's it, the next 1-2 days after this you know why you do, what you need to do. You'll have now your reason to focus on your projects, keep on it!
     
  8. BreaknBrix

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    EVERYONE PROCRASTINATES.

    It just makes you human. And it's just a matter of degree. When I was young, I use to procrastinate all the time. Doing certain drugs can also exaggerate it like anti-anxiety meds (xanax, valium, etc) and pot. You know what helped me a lot? Ironically, a 1st degree felony and 19 months in prison. I guarantee, if someone locked you in a room for 19 months, told you when to eat, when to wake up, when to go to bed, when to shit, when to shower, when to go out, you'd stop procrastinating for at least a few years after you got out. Same thing with the military. My brother use to be a lazy ass, when he came out of the citadel he was a completely different man. He wound up working so hard he made himself the vice president of our local smith barney brokerage firm. And I doubt he'd be in the position he's in today if it wasn't for the citadel.

    But ultimately, no matter what any of us write, you know damn well it's not gonna stop you from procrastinating. If you don't have the will to stop on your own, or do something about it, there's very little we can do to help you. And I think the nature of this thread itself is a form of you procrastinating.

    However, I can still write a list of things that might help -

    1) Start reading books by Sam Harris. He doesn't talk about procrastinating. He talks about death and some really deep topics from a scientific standpoint. His books are like yoga for me. Even though I hate yoga. They just have this way of grounding me to life and making me realize that life is short, I'm gonna die 1 day, and they usually help me focus and stop fucking around.

    2) Get books about procrastinating. It doesn't even matter what book. But if you commit to read 10-20 pages a day, it will keep you AWARE of your problem and on top of it. It will also get you the hell away from the internet. I can't tell you man, although I like reading online, there is something about sitting down and cracking open a book... there's something almost spiritual about it. Like it brings me back to the times when there was no tv, no internet, no distraction.... when things were SIMPLE. So I try to make "book time" at least an hour or 2 a day. It's a cathartic experience that gets me away from technology and has a way of making me appreciate life.

    3) When you work out, don't bring you g/damn phone. I workout 5 days a week, I ALWAYS turn my phone OFF or leave it in the car. This is so simple to do. Just bring an ipod or mp3 player for music, and a bottle of water, NOT your phone.

    4) Think about volunteering once a week at an animal shelter or cancer ward. Most people won't do this. But I use to volunteer at the SPCA and seeing all the abused animals, dying animals etc just had a way of making my life feel more meaningful, and thus I'd procrastinate less.

    5) Deeply consider the fact that you may have an addiction to the internet. This is a very serious, overlooked and common problem especially amongst IMers and younger people in general. One thing I use to do, when I noticed I was consuming more content than I was producing, I'd walk outside at night before going to bed and disconnect the internet. So when I woke up, I'd be too tired and lazy to plug it back in. That would force me to get all my important chores out of the way rather than get in obsessive email loops with random people from the minute I woke up. And it was very hard, but for 1 week straight I only allowed myself access to the internet 2 hours / day. I'd get most my "online work" done on my pc, without any connection at all. Now this may seem stupid, but man will it make YOU feel in control. And a couple days a week, if you can, you should just leave the internet off all day long. I really can't tell how much "simpler" life will become if you can get in the habit of doing this. Just have "non-internet days". It will force you to realize that there is a completely different world outside of the web. And it will force you to respect your time. Because your time in this world is not "virtual", it's REAL, and it WILL come to an end.

    6) Delete your favorite bookmarks. This was another thing I did like 6 months ago. I'd bookmark all my favorite YT channels, movies I wanted to watch, documentaries, etc. And ironically, when I'd go online to work, I'd just scan to my favorite bookmarks, telling myself "I just wanna see if such and such uploaded anything new", then I'd wind up wasting hours watching videos or reading useless bullshit. So make it HARDER for you to access things that you KNOW are gonna lead to you wasting time.

    7) Try very hard to avoid using sites like BHW for socializing. Like my first few months here I NEVER visited the lounge. On WF, I haven't made 1 post in the off topic section for the entire 3 years I've been there (true story, their off topic section BLOWS). But BHW is a bit different. The people on here are a little "too entertaining" sometimes. Like yesterday, I wasted **4** hours reading the infamous CEO SAM thread: http://www.blackhatworld.com/blackh...real-gf-material-wam-baam-thank-you-maam.html . And it was f##king hilarious. I was laughing so hard at 1 point I was crying. But there was NO NEED to waste 4 hours reading the whole fucking thing in 1 day. And that's what I mean man. You always gotta be on top of yourself and what you're doing.

    I'm gonna end off on that topic. Which is the concept of "parenting yourself". It sounds pathetic to say, but I'm 32, and sometimes I still wish I had my "mommy" to tell me to GTFO the internet and get to work. Or to stop posting on forums and get to work. But in this field, you don't have your mommy, you don't have a boss, all you have is you. And what it REALLY comes down to is good old fashioned discipline and responsibility.

    There's no secret to it, you just need to learn how to discipline YOURSELF.

    Like guys in the military, they KNOW damn well how to discipline themselves. When you have "bad days" punish yourself. When you have good days, where you don't procrastinate and get a lot done, REWARD YOURSELF. Some people are just born hustlers. Others are just born losers. Then the other 90% fall in somewhere in between.

    For most people, they don't just grow up 1 day. It's something you have to work on your entire life. And I'm not religious at all, but I really believe our hedonistic desires are some of the most self destructive desires that exist. Hedonism is a drug. It's a virus. The need for instant pleasure and gratification. To eat pizza now and worry about burning off the calories later. To waste time on forums now and worry about bills later. You need to avoid it like the plague. Which is exactly what I'm doing right now. :)

    -BB
     
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  9. Theodore

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    your procrastinating now by making this thread... I bet you keep looking at this thread for replies don't you?

    My honest opinion is that no one can help you, its on you to work hard and no one else. Like Ghoast said its probably because your to comfortable and have everything you need. Try and work towards a goal, not to big at first just something that is easily reachable for you at this moment in time. This should hopefully get you going down the right path :)
     
  10. rangerrick

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    I honestly believe if you really want to do something, you would do it. If you wanted to go the gym or write a post, there would be no reason not to unless it wasn't a priority for you. Anything in life worth having/doing will not come easy. This is a very important life lesson. The reality is people work very hard to reach their goals and realize their dreams. Another reality is that we can all accomplish this. It all depends on how much we are willing to work at it.