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Need Help| Have everything, In USA still not happy

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by xender, Nov 26, 2011.

  1. xender

    xender Newbie

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    Hello Friends,
    I have money i own two businesses both are beauty salons one in virginia one in Pa, both are doing good i make $2000/month/salon total $4000/month, i dont work and i dont know anything about beauty salons, my gf introduced it to me(will talk abt her later here), i just bought house for $160k with 20% down payment, own honda cbr motorcycle, play basket ball, have golds gym membership for 3 years paid in advance (have not used gym for 30days in 2years),
    my gf she is very very caring and nice and very good, but she is very uneducated and blank she dont know nothing about anything, she got pregnant accidently now we have very handsome boy he is 2 years old now, my parents dont know abt it she is american, i am indian and dont want to tell them i dont know i just dont want to break their heart, i feel depressed all the time because, i dont want to leave her and my son, cos i cant do it i am very kind, i just cant do it, but i really dont love her and realy didnt plan to have family so early i am just 26 years old, dont know what to do please advice me, i am depressed all the time dont know why, then in drink and smoke cigrattes, over eat, still i am in good shape not over weight, i think i need to get job to make my self more busy so i dont get depressed, i am online most of the time, i do seo for few clients and make around 1200/month, dont know what to do, looks like i have everything but still i feel very depressed and unhappy, give me good advice, i will be very very thankful to you, here i need some advice, i dont have intention to make money from anyone who reads this and please dont reply if you have intention to make any money just give advice to ur fellow bhw user and follower, tell me what i do to make my life more good and utilize all my resource, i am born n brought up in india, came to usa at age 20 now i m citizen.
     
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  2. wowhaxor

    wowhaxor Executive VIP Premium Member

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    Suck it up bro. Oh, and you had just as much to do without as the girl who got accidently pregnant ;) so try to just look at the positive a little more and don't think down of her like that she's the mother of your child.

    Sounds like you're just in a rut - find a little hobby.
     
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  3. billu512

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    fuck my head hurts!!! :pat:
     
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  4. thedon23

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    And the award for the longest sentence ever goes to....

    DRUM ROLL



    YOU !
     
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    do you have some belief on religion if yes then give it a try you will find your way soon..
     
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    try playing MW3.
     
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  7. xender

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    she said she cant get pregnant and even showed me report from doctor so i believed her, i m not careless thats why she didnt got pregnant again in last 2years,
     
  8. marusia

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    The only thing I can say is if you aren't in love, don't force a relationship.
     
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  9. captchadreams

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    if something is weighing on your chest it will continue to until you deal with it. doesn't matter how busy you make yourself. when you lay your head on your pillow your mind will start racing.
     
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  10. xender

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    i use to have religion an i was real real good follower but more i knew about religion far i got from it, i lost my faith.
     
  11. reinie

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    don't call your son an "accident" man...shit he is your son...

    I know how you feel brother, I would suggest you chill, take a step back, and find a way to work through it. There are too many positives in the situation that are overlooking. First one, you could be living back in India typing catchas.
     
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  12. beest123

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    Ehm Dump her? Pay alimenation or whatever it is called. Stay in contact with your kid, contact your family more often. Get a hobby, maybe gaming or soccer just saying. Even cycling or small walks may improve your lifestyle.
     
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  13. xender

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    i dont know i how i can move on, its cos of my son, dont know what to do, i use to be rockstar, my friends use to call me rambo and salman, use to have 5 gfs at a time, now i just keep hiding from friends and social gathering, n dont feel motivated some times i feel i m losing my mind, but i fight back, but when i think about future i get real depressed, this is first time i am talking on internet and i hope it will make me feel better, thanks every one for being there for me,
     
  14. thedon23

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    Hey man, but jokes aside, I think you are being hard on yourself for no reason. Do you love her? If you do, stay with her. I am not Indian, but have many friends, and know the mentality among Indians (especially traditional Indians), and how they always want their decisions to be okay'ed by their parents (especially when it comes to marriage). But come on man, let's be realistic here; you're 26 years old, you're a man. You're living life for yourself, not for your parents. If you love her, then stay with her.

    And also, it looks like you need a hobby. From the sounds of it, you haven't been in the US too long (because you said in your thread title "In US), so I'm guessing the move to a new country has been tough on you. This is normal. My family and I made a big move at the age of 16, and it SUCKED. It took a long time for me to deal with it, but now I look back and laugh at myself back then. Like, life goes on; you gotta make the best of things.

    Get out there, get a hobby, make some friends, spend quality time with your girlfriend and child. Just relax. And you know what I always do when I find myself feeling down? Just remember that there are always people out there who have MUCH bigger problems than you. You are healthy, you have a family, and you have money. There are people out there who have none of those things. So don't take it for granted.
     
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    1. Start using your gym gold membership more often.

    2. Stop smoking.

    3. Stop overeating.

    4. Take more time with your friends.

    5. Start doing funny activities with your kid like "snow sliding".

    6. If your parents dont accept the nationality of your girlfriend... It's their problem. (Racism is unacceptable.. so, you dont have to feel wrong about it). Parents can not accept all their kids decisions.. That's becoming an adult.. To take your own decision.

    But cigarettes, overeating and things like that push you to "escape you life" and to feel more and more depressive.

    Put out your head from the sand and start doing good things for you.


    Cheers!
     
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  16. marusia

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    I hung out with a "friend" every day for 2 months. Got a little crazy, we had had sex for the first time and I got pregnant. I got engaged to him and dumped him this year. We weren't meant to be. It was hard at first, but now I only miss my daughter. I'm just saying that if you aren't happy...don't force it, not only is it a waste of time, but you'll regret it later.
     
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    I am sorry but what the hell man, what depression? look at my life a refugee from Afghanistan where war is going on all the time, hard on money, I try my best in university, and I live in a house with rouches, stuff are old, half the things don't work, I only have internet connection, and make enough to sustain myself, and lets just say it blows, and I am 22, hard times? buddy you don't know how good you have it, what is the most trouble you will get angry parents? so what if they dislike you for one mistake you made, you have a loving girl and a little boy and want to leave them? they are not the parents I would want, as the first guy said sucked it up and be a man, Fuck sake sorry for the foul word, :banghead:
     
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  18. kokoloko75

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    Just smile :)

    Beny
     
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    Volunteer your time somewhere to a cause you believe in - homeless, animals, kids, ect . Spending time doing that will remind you how great your life really is.
     
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  20. NothingButAName

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    Sounds like you need to live more for yourself and less for other people man. I mean, listen please...you don't wanna tel yur parents cause yur concerned about what THEY'LL think...you don't want to leave yur girl because you don't want to hurt HER feelings. My advice is this and to everyone in here...you want something TAKE IT, but be fair....you should come first, everyone else is second. Because in the end it's yur life and yur stuff you have to deal with.

    Try spirituality, medication, counseling, women, church, buying lavish things, spending money on a good cause, learn how to make more friends, learn how to be comfortable, learn how to love life go ona freakin' mental vacation, buy yur girl new boobies...there are so many ways to make you happy. Life is abundance it's just that you can't see it right now.
     
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