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Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by noob411, Aug 12, 2009.

  1. noob411

    noob411 Junior Member

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    I had my mother move in with me when her sister my aunt kicked her out. Which was great for me because I could get work done. So we moved to Florida from Oregon and now because my husband doesn't want my daughter to say "thank you jes*s" she wants next month to go back to oregon. So heres where I need advice because what I would like to do is kick her out now. pay for a one way ticket give her 20.00 2 packs of cigarettes and sorry about her luck I own no suitcases so fit what you can in ONE damn bag.
    She gave birth to me, but dumped me when I was 3 months at my grandmas house. and my grandma raised me so its not like she has earned interest in my life....what would you do
     
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    farfetchedmoney Regular Member

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    some people are tougher than others....If It was me she wouldn't even know me at this time. Kick her ass out!!!!!!

    Unfortuantely, I dont know what it is like to be abandoned like that so I am not in your shoes, but, I am pretty sure we would never have even had a conversation at all let alone built a relationship to know where i live to move in.:cool2:
     
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    Why did the aunt kick her out? Could be justified and instead of taking care of her giving her a wake up call is maybe what is needed.
     
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    Yea what suck is she is going either way, is that my daughter loves her to death, my mom has lived with us for 1.5 years and I guess its better to kick her the fuck out now before my daughter can grasp and hold on to memories seeing shes 3. I am just waiting now for my husband to get home to deal with her. I think he will feel the same as me. I am as done as a burnt steak...
    my aunt and her well they are sisters so I can't go by either one. Only experience say I believe and always have believed my aunt in the stupid fight they had. As far as reality checks, she gets SSI $320 and SSD $210 she doesn't work and has no savings her SSI check is ALWAYS LATE. I have told her every month that its late and she always say jeez if I were on my own I don't know what I would do....I guess now its a matter of her finding a place to live with that amount of money, and see how she is going to feed clothe and take care of her. Because My husband will tell me to pack her bags shes the fuck out.....He took her in because thats the kind of person he is.
     
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    Kinda off topic but I recently moved from Oregon to Jacksonville Beach :) Was down in cocoa beach last weekend with my sister when she came to visit.
     
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    oh wait 1.5 years...i didn't realize she been with you that long. Give her the damn month to move back to Oregon. Don't be a switch up artist now.... :dunno:I suspect you and your mom has some sort of relationship (albeit a rocky one) because if you didn't she wouldn't have stayed with you for so long.
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    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    can you elaborate?

    I went to amazon to get a summary...

    Code:
    http://www.amazon.com/Gambler-Fyodor-Dostoevsky/dp/0393316491
    How does it relate to this thread? What's the underlying metaphor? Synopsis?
     
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    Obviously nobody on this forum knows your relationship as well as you do. So it's your call. I can give you this piece of advice. Even if she left you when you were just a baby, she's in your life now, and she IS your mom. With that said, don't be too rough on her. Someday she will be passed away and you will look back at your relationship. If you give her the steel-toed boot out of your house (and out of your life) it's going to emotionally sting you forever.
     
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    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    I was mistaken. It was not this book I wanted to point out. :eek: The real title escapes me at the moment.

    As for the book I intended to link:
    A big con man gets the favor of the semi-stupid lord and manages to do horrible things that the hero (logic) points out but every one else (stupid) seem to disregard because they are enspelled by the con mans ability to play with their minds. In the end the hero compromises (gets tired of the confrontation) and becomes equally stupid. :D
    It has to do with good people being forced to accept the will of not so good people and the dynamics of this crash. But not in such a black and white way that I just described. Much more complex and that is the true beauty of the book.

    If I remember the title, I will post it.

     
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    It is a hard situation for anyone to comment on, and only you can decide what is best, If I could offer one peace of advice it would be this, you have to think about your daughter in all of this, you say she has a good realtionship with your mam, if you kick her out and your mother decides she wants nothing to do with you, it is your daughter who will suffer the most, you no what it is like to live without her, you have done it, but your daughter has never had to miss out on her before, so my advice is this, I would sit down a talk to her and explain that it is difficult her living in your house, so would she be kind enough to find her own place but explain for your sake and her grandaughters sake that you would like not to lose contact with her. I hope this helps a little.

    Best of luck
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    Thank you all so much for the advice! She is still here, had a moment of clairty and seeing how I can never ever let her be homeless. So we went and are looking at HUD/Sec 8 for her. So she can afford her own, live close by and be close but not that close.... U all rock!