I understand you're a noob but NO affiliate links are allowed here.
Also I read many places AshleyMadison stiffs its affiliates, never tried them so I can not verify that but reading in so many places made me hesitant. With adult dating you have to expect some shaving.
As for the question at hand there is snug cash that pays $20 per sign up but accept BH traffic.
Adult Friend Fnder pays I believe $55 per sale but most guys have seen that.
Dating Gold pays $75 per sale & Adult Date Link is another site as well. These both have more targeted niche sites as well.
Plug in the names of these sites here in the search function & gain your own opinion of them but the best way is first hand experience.
Also check out Match & eharmony as they have affiliate commissions as well.
If you have a nice landing/presell page Match, not sure about eharmony but you can get them to sign up for & should advise them to for a few months & they get discount rate but you get higher commissions.