If you are going to marry someone, you should love the shit out of that person.
We agree on that
Expecting a woman to not do something that you've done yourself is sexist in my opinion so I see it as a problem. You don't, thats fine.
First of all, married couples aren't just a man and a woman, could be two men or two women. So, what by your logic, if one male partner expects the other to be a virgin while the second one does not, the first one is sexist towards... whom?
So, you're just confusing a simple matter. On a marriage, it's not two genders that get married. It's two individual persons. Persons have preferences. When those individual preferences align enough, they decide to dedicate their lives to each other. To think that people need to have the same wants is to me slavery. I want X, Y and Z. You want G,H,T. That's perfectly fine. If we agree enough, we can be friends. If not, it's nobody's loss - the world is full of compatible people to be friends with. For me to force you to like X, Y and Z would be oppression, thus slavery. I'm against that by all means.
Since the OP asked to close the thread I will, but if you want to respond to me, send me a PM - I can also post your message publicly if you feel so inclined, don't want you to think I'm avoiding conversation.