You just want help searching the forum as your other thread stated. It is IM, it's every man for them self. You don't want other people to know your methods.
Edit: You get friends by providing value to the forum, help others and earn respect. Your questions are too generic, the same questions get asked at least 10 times per day by others most will not even try to succeed and there for nobody will give you a good answer until you run into a specific problem that you need help with.