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lost my will to do anything

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by h3rmit, May 15, 2015.

  1. h3rmit

    h3rmit Newbie

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    yo, what's up guys?!

    I've encountered some serious troubles recently, been depressed, anxious etc etc.. now I'm trying to get back to life, but I have lost desire to do ANYTHING. I literally can't put my heart & head into sh$t. People keep on telling me "do something, it'll get you out" but nah, I tried to do IM, but somehow when I try to w0rk, I'm so bored and emotionless that it makes me suffer. It's almost like I'm a zombie.

    I'm sure everyone has been there at some point, any useful tips on how I can get back joy in my life? Hell I can't even get motivated to do a simple task.. and NO - I'm not this kind of person.

    Thanks a bunch!
     
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    Look at CL for a volunteer opportunity in your area. Especially something concerning poor people . It might help you to rethink yourself. Maybe you could teach a computer class or something
     
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  3. PassionateWriting

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    Well, I think I've been in a similar situation before. It seems like it will take forever to cope up with such things, but I think it actually doesn't.

    Even though I managed to get to the normal level, I'm not sure how to offer a specific advice on how to do that. Maybe, to put it very simply and precisely, I'd say try to convince your mind. Talk with it in a logical way. Try to do this at least 15-30 minutes a day and maybe it'll help.

    I'd actually like to offer more help if you want, as I've been through such a situation quite recently and know how daunting it can be.
     
  4. h3rmit

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    #PassionateWriting

    It's all psychological, I agree. Thanks for the advice!
     
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  5. WizGizmo

    WizGizmo Super Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    Here's a little secret:

    Doing and Will are the same thing. The Will is IN THE DOING.

    Therefore, just DO, and forget about the Will. Why complicate things? . . .
     
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    This advice is for those who don't suffer from depression... You can't just turn it off...
     
  7. h3rmit

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    #WizGizmo

    Thanks for the reply. I'm talking about desire.. I don't know if you've been in a situation like this before, but I can tell you that it's a whole lot worse than working without motivation. Not just work, doing anything comes with a lot of effort. Even having fun isn't "fun" anymore.

    #Spawnie

    Correct, but I don't want to get on pills, somehow I want to get out of it myself.
     
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    IM is boring and time consuming. You need to get out and 'fly' for a while. Then when you feel strong enough get back to work.

    For ex. get out and buy a launch for a homeless, help a child .... You have no idea what this can do for your soul. Seeing that person look when you do something like that is priceless. You don't have to be rich to do this, $10-$20 (I guess) will be enough.
     
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  10. h3rmit

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    #WPRipper

    Great advice, thanks buddy!
     
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  11. Spawnie

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    I'm having a bipolar disorder - ups and downs - one day a king, the other day a slave - both of my own mind/thoughts.

    I'll read into the NLP Techniques, I've never found a way out or at least leveling those phases on my own. Thanks for that!

    @h3rmit
    I got you - same here, never took any meds.

    Edit:
    For anyone else trying to look up more information on NLP - it stands for "Neuro-linguistic programming" (not mentioned in the linked article)
     
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    Get yourself a pet doggy, these guys know how to keep you happy and busy.

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    yes most of the people have gone throught this, I am still going through this.

    The only thing makes me feel good is MAKING MONEY i.e doing something, I mean I don't like doing but think of it as you don't have any choice left and JUST DO IT...

    when you will see some money coming in you will get pumped up and motivated...
     
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    You need to see money rolling in, after that your WILL will increase exponentially.
     
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    One of my all time favorites

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    Hi

    I was going through the same situation for about two long years. i was depressed and anxious has no control on my mind it was feels like my mind was the biggest enemy for me. my mind was thinking about the situation which hurts me a lot, i was trying to not think about those situation but my mind was thinking about the worst situations more harder.

    I went to doctor he said you have high Blood Pressure problem and its very unusual for your age of person but i knew that the problem is not of BP its psychological. my mind and face muscles were feels like they are carrying a lot of burden and my face was hot like it was burning, i became slave of my mind and was thinking how to get over it but nothing was helping me even that problem i couldn't share with anybody as they will not understand that what's the problem is even i was not understanding what has happened to me.

    My friends and family member were asking me what happened to you why your health is decreasing and you looks sad always.

    When nothing was left i went to spirituality and it changed my life completely, Now i feel much stronger than even before, i know how thought system works and how i can stay out of these thoughts.

    I will advice you to watch some spiritual videos on YouTube. Assuming your username it sounds like you are Indian so you can understand Hindi as well.

    1. Watch Videos of BK Shivani (A. Who am I, B. Karma and Destiny) (Hindi)
    2. Swami Sarvapriyanand (A. Who am I, B. Secret of Concentration, C. Geeta for Student, D. Purposeful Living with Vedanta) (English)
    3. Vipassana Meditation 10 days Course by S N Goenka (Hindi and English)
    4. Videos of Sandeep Maheshwari (Hindi Motivational Speaker)

    Do meditation for 15 Minutes per day and just watch your thoughts don't try for Nirvana or something just watch your thoughts, it will give you unbelievable power to stay out of painful thoughts. (Watch Vipassana Meditation Technique as mentioned above)

    Revert after some time that did this help you or not?
     
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    #WebTG

    Thanks for the reply.

    That's exactly what I'm experiencing right now (except the face, lol) and it's getting unbearable - this mediocrity, pain and numbness is going to make me go mad. I'm neither spiritual, nor Indian, but I got your point, it's all about thoughts I know. The problem is - it's really really hard to take control over them. It would have been easier a year ago, but now it's not.

    I read the article which Wiz shared above. It explains really well what is depression and how to deal with it. But I knew almost everything that is written there. I am extremely self-conscious and right now it is a bad thing, cause it gets me lost in thoughts every single time I'm trying to figure out/solve a problem.

    However, I can't go on living like this, something has to change. It's a do or die for me right now, even if I don't feel like it. I just hope I'll be able to acquire motivation through results at least.
     
  18. WebTG

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    Ok h3rmit

    as per your username i thought it might be Hermit or Harmit lol.

    you can try meditation it will help you in stay out of painful thoughts.

    Don't try to control thoughts it will get worse.
     
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    I have been in this situation many times. What I usually do when I encounter this situation is I take a break in IM. I do whatever I want. I take a vacation for a month. Have fun and drink with friends. Play computer games for a week without thinking any of my work. Then my hunger for work will naturally come back to me.
     
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  20. PassionateWriting

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    I guess trying to be practical might help as well. Bad and unwanted emotions can give anyone a really hard time, so try not to let them enter your mind. Think and slowly convince yourself that you shouldn't think about what doesn't matter at all. Such worthless thoughts and stupid emotions don't matter at all.

    One more thing you can do is, close your mind to all thoughts. It's very, very difficult, but IMO, it's well worth it. Even if you manage t do it for sometime, you might feel refreshed enough. I usually try to do it before going to sleep in order to wake up more refreshed and get a sound sleep. Also, whenever I start feeling depressed, I again try to close my mind to all thoughts and when it does, I start feeling happy instantly and automatically. I know this all might sound stupid and strange, but so does the problem. Simply focus on your mind and don't think about ANYTHING. It'll be difficult at first, but you may slowly start getting used to it and better at it.

    Also, when you try to do this, you'll probably be showered with more and more thoughts at first. It might take you 5-20 minutes (depending on how strong you are mentally atm) initially to get into that relieving 'no-thought-zone'. Keep doing this everytime you start feeling low.

    Honestly speaking, I feel a bit worried when I read your posts! I've been through this only recently and that period was probably one of the worst ones of my life, if not the worst.

    Anyway, hope whatever I've shared will be of some help to you. :)