Is not having kid a good decision?

pehchan said:

But I always seen having kids is a bad investment

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I bet it was the worst investment for your parents... .

se900se said:

I bet it was the worst investment for your parents... .

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Maybe

This is how to look at it, what if your parents had decided never to have kids !!! You gotta give someone else a chance to come into the world man, you never know , the might be the next biggest inventor. And when you get old and need support, only your kids will feel like they have a responsibility towards you, no one else will give a damn about you

Well I don't want kids for the moment, not sure if I will have or not yet, but let's ask yourself why you want or don't want to have kids. I think most people have kids only to have kids or feel this joyful meaningful feeling to give life... yeah it's nice and all but it's too simple to think like that. We are on a forum of alternative people trying to get out of the rat race so I know people have the ability to think further than only "it's normal to have kids".

If you want kids I think you must have this:
-Great professional situation and a business/job you like or that you know you have the capacity to be valuable on the market.
-Have good savings in case a problem arises
-Have a happy life already
-Have a girl or wife that is trustworthy and very good feeling together for a long period of time
-You want to have a family it is the most important for you and you feel you can give your life for them at any cost

YOU MUST NOT HAVE KIDS IF :
-Poor finances or debt, they will have a difficult time and you don't want to risk their future before they are born, solve this shit first.
-Poor relation and trying to have kids to reinvigorate your relation (50% of weddings finish in divorces for a reason, as a man you will pay a lot and be fucked all your life, maybe even blackmailed by your ex wife)
-Feel bored in your life and make kids to feel good, it's absolutely sick to use your child to compensate something that is lacking according to me, but most people have kids for this reason (most choices taken by following the mass end up being bad choices anyway)
-You worry about your future and want children only to take care of you when you are old and poor.
-You are under coke 24/7 or any other drug/extreme habit because your son will most likely have the same habit when he is older if he sees you take this.

In summary, if your life is not what you want it to be, correct this first, A LOT of people make babies in a difficult time, thinking they will be happy because of it. I am very curious to know how many people made babies in the lockdown because they were bored or unhappy in their relation? Horrible decision according to me.

In addition to that I think we should have a licence to make kids because most people are so irresponsible today, if it's to find babies in trashcans.. thank you... and with the OVERPOPULATION we need future generations to be well educated and able to correct the mess that we did already like fucking the earth which will soon be uninhabitable, not more people only to have more people. I am a social eugenics ? yep call me like that if you want, but I also preach that we should teach values like performance and collaboration instead of today's competition and screwing each other for profit so I am not the devil or Hitler and think that future generations should be better than us...

The goal today is not to have children... This is stupid to think like that, why ? Because we made kids to be sure that our genes and species would NOT disappear but we are enough today. The goal now is to have a future generation that will be better than our generation, with more considerations for the others and what is around us, but it's just my opinion I hope to not get banned for a somewhat extremist view...

I AM NOT HITLER OKAY ? I AM A NICE GUY

Just think that it requires more reflections than only "I want children because everyone wants children" if everyone jumps the bridge do you do it too to follow ?

Willyfish said:

Well I don't want kids for the moment, not sure if I will have or not yet, but let's ask yourself why you want or don't want to have kids. I think most people have kids only to have kids or feel this joyful meaningful feeling to give life... yeah it's nice and all but it's too simple to think like that. We are on a forum of alternative people trying to get out of the rat race so I know people have the ability to think further than only "it's normal to have kids".

If you want kids I think you must have this:
-Great professional situation and a business/job you like or that you know you have the capacity to be valuable on the market.
-Have good savings in case a problem arises
-Have a happy life already
-Have a girl or wife that is trustworthy and very good feeling together for a long period of time
-You want to have a family it is the most important for you and you feel you can give your life for them at any cost

YOU MUST NOT HAVE KIDS IF :
-Poor finances or debt, they will have a difficult time and you don't want to risk their future before they are born, solve this shit first.
-Poor relation and trying to have kids to reinvigorate your relation (50% of weddings finish in divorces for a reason, as a man you will pay a lot and be fucked all your life, maybe even blackmailed by your ex wife)
-Feel bored in your life and make kids to feel good, it's absolutely sick to use your child to compensate something that is lacking according to me, but most people have kids for this reason (most choices taken by following the mass end up being bad choices anyway)
-You worry about your future and want children only to take care of you when you are old and poor.
-You are under coke 24/7 or any other drug/extreme habit because your son will most likely have the same habit when he is older if he sees you take this.

In summary, if your life is not what you want it to be, correct this first, A LOT of people make babies in a difficult time, thinking they will be happy because of it. I am very curious to know how many people made babies in the lockdown because they were bored or unhappy in their relation? Horrible decision according to me.

In addition to that I think we should have a licence to make kids because most people are so irresponsible today, if it's to find babies in trashcans.. thank you... and with the OVERPOPULATION we need future generations to be well educated and able to correct the mess that we did already like fucking the earth which will soon be uninhabitable, not more people only to have more people. I am a social eugenics ? yep call me like that if you want, but I also preach that we should teach values like performance and collaboration instead of today's competition and screwing each other for profit so I am not the devil or Hitler and think that future generations should be better than us...

The goal today is not to have children... This is stupid to think like that, why ? Because we made kids to be sure that our genes and species would NOT disappear but we are enough today. The goal now is to have a future generation that will be better than our generation, with more considerations for the others and what is around us, but it's just my opinion I hope to not get banned for a somewhat extremist view...

I AM NOT HITLER OKAY ? I AM A NICE GUY

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Thanks god you're not into politics

se900se said:

Thanks god you're not into politics

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Come on I am a humanist by nature

follow your father

Its only 1 year your marriage time, I think its not enough for take this decisions.

You miss a lot. Having a kid is the best thing in my life. In my opinion,when you have a marriage, it is not starting a new life. But when you have a kid? You will realize, that is the moment you have a new life, and family.

I love both of my kids and they are our life. But it's up to you to decide..

I personally don't think it's something you can fully discover online. It's better you spend a lot of time outside with other parents, maybe even offering to help out from time to time and then get chatting about their experiences. Of course it'll be mostly positive (nobody is going to say they hate their kids right?), but you'll be able to read how they feel and how their life is. It's very extreme to be anti something, or to be too aggressively supportive of something also.

What I'm trying to say is that life happens, things change people and nobody can live your life but you.

No. Kids are the gift from god for us.

There’s advantages - time, freedom, being able to just walk out of the house without having to battle for 3 hours trying to get everyone prepared to go outside, sanity, peace the list goes on.

But also, if you do have kids it’s the biggest journey you’ll ever go on. It’s life changing and literally changes who you are, makes you grow and maybe the point most relevant to this forum; it gives you a drive to be successful more than any other motivator you’ve ever known.

Having said all of that, ultimately you have to follow your own dreams and do what feels right for you.

I always think that If you dont want kids, maybe its because you are not with the correct woman.
When you are with the correct woman, you want to cum inside her and create life with her, bro.