Dragann
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Lmao did you just compare having children with investing?
Is not having kid a good decision?
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Yeah, colic is a common problem. We also used to use a medicine called colicaid (or something like that) whenever he had such issues. Now a days, we rarely need it, since he has shifted to solid food mainly.
LJ Junior
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Smartest answer. But what do you like OP?Your dad took the right decision. I'd encourage you to do the same
Live alone and making no family? Enjoy alone and create nothing? Have no existence of love?
World is one weird place, but yeah I see what is it about down the line. (thread)
But don't be so sure that is opposite, it is just the surface. Analyzing is complex. Devil is most lovely image you will see at this planet.
Amphoric
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I can see where people come from not wanting them. They are a huge impact on financials but I don't think anything comes close to how it enriches your life.
The things they do that you can be proud of really beats anything you can buy with money. (I'm pretty comfortable with money too and nothing I've ever bought has ever come close to beating the enjoyment I get with my kids)
You'll have a family to do things with (camping, hunting, fishing, trips, sporting events, etc.) compared to just being either alone or with a significant other for the rest of your life. Some people are ok with that and that's fine for them. But I think they are missing out on the wonder and joys of living a fulfilling life (in my opinion of course).
There's no right or wrong answer. You do whatever is best for you and what you feel is right.
Don't forget if you raise them right they will also help take care of you in the future when you get older.
The things they do that you can be proud of really beats anything you can buy with money. (I'm pretty comfortable with money too and nothing I've ever bought has ever come close to beating the enjoyment I get with my kids)
You'll have a family to do things with (camping, hunting, fishing, trips, sporting events, etc.) compared to just being either alone or with a significant other for the rest of your life. Some people are ok with that and that's fine for them. But I think they are missing out on the wonder and joys of living a fulfilling life (in my opinion of course).
There's no right or wrong answer. You do whatever is best for you and what you feel is right.
Don't forget if you raise them right they will also help take care of you in the future when you get older.
Paukerin
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I‘m a mother of 2 (yeah not the majority here) but it is absolutely okay not to have children. Really. My kids are the love of my life but I think my life would have been good, too if I chose not to become a mother.
I also believe the OP has to make his own decision.
) but it is absolutely okay not to have children. Really. My kids are the love of my life but I think my life would have been good, too if I chose not to become a mother.I also believe the OP has to make his own decision.
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Just woke up and first thing I see is this...
My daughter and wife went for a walk and somehow everything is empty to me.
I can't imagine life without them!
You will make the biggest mistake of your life by thinking that way, because if you think like this, none of what someone writes to you here will NOT affect or change your opinion.
Is it hard?
Yes, it is, but...
That pain you feel for your child is something abnormal, but that is also why one beautiful thing is something indescribable!
Please, don't waste your time and get in action with your wife
It makes me really sad seeing this, honestly...
Paukerin
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I understand this feeling of love. On the other hand there are so many children who live miserable lives and have parents who never planned to have them. I see too many of them and my heart breaks every time. My only advice would be to listen to your heart, OP.Just woke up and first thing I see is this...
My daughter and wife went for a walk and somehow everything is empty to me.
I can't imagine life without them!
You will make the biggest mistake of your life by thinking that way, because if you think like this, none of what someone writes to you here will NOT affect or change your opinion.
Is it hard?
Yes, it is, but...
That pain you feel for your child is something abnormal, but that is also why one beautiful thing is something indescribable!
Please, don't waste your time and get in action with your wife
It makes me really sad seeing this, honestly...
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Oh yes, I understand you completely on that part of the story, and I know personally and from stories lots of them, children suffer out the most.
deal with it
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its all made up bullshit, everyone has their own explanation.
you need a trigger (kid) to become more responsible, joyful, happy or whatever, why cant you be all that without them. wtf is this.
I would just love and strive to keep my energies, body and mind at certain level that being joyful, alert, aware is so easy and all kids just feel same to me unless they are always crying type.
you need a trigger (kid) to become more responsible, joyful, happy or whatever, why cant you be all that without them. wtf is this.
I would just love and strive to keep my energies, body and mind at certain level that being joyful, alert, aware is so easy and all kids just feel same to me unless they are always crying type.
jeromebaines
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IMO: Your wife is your kid, you are the kid of your wife. this will make you both happy. Instead of cleaning the baby's bottom and waking you up in the middle of the night plus more life expenses and responsibility.
serpmover2014
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Im not having kids till 40 cant no one change my mind about it. They cost alot of money and time. Id rather enjoy mines
Thank god, your parents haven't taken that decision.
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We were told we could never have kids, which was fine as we were both very happy with each other. Built our lives around no kids, aka 2 seater car, extremely non kid friendly house, amazing holidays, partying till we dropped etc. 8 years later, miracles happen and surprised the hell out of us, another daughter 2 years later and I cannot imagine my life without them.
19 years on I can tell you that they will change your life, they have to, your focus is them.
So if you decide to have kids, make sure you are ready so you do not resent them, if you are not ready to change your lifestyle, wait till you are, it is not fair on your kids otherwise.
Kids bring you highs and lows, just as you brought your parents highs and lows, make sure you are mature enough to support them through the lows and celebrate the highs. It is not as easy as it sounds!
Best of luck in whatever you decide.
19 years on I can tell you that they will change your life, they have to, your focus is them.
So if you decide to have kids, make sure you are ready so you do not resent them, if you are not ready to change your lifestyle, wait till you are, it is not fair on your kids otherwise.
Kids bring you highs and lows, just as you brought your parents highs and lows, make sure you are mature enough to support them through the lows and celebrate the highs. It is not as easy as it sounds!
Best of luck in whatever you decide.
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I would recommend having children for people who are able(housing,food and money). These are main safety nets but there are a lot more. I have friends who brought kids in the world to better their relationship together, it actually makes it worse.
I love kids and plan on having two and enjoying them!!! They are really fun and wonderful best friends.
I love kids and plan on having two and enjoying them!!! They are really fun and wonderful best friends.
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OP was looking for comments from other people who are experienced in this. What I said in my post was my personal opinion. Every one is different. Some need kids, while some other may need a line of coke. It's personal "taste". So, your "wtf is this" was not warranted.