First of all, please know that are you not alone! I’ve asked myself those questions as well and 7% of adults get a major depressive episode in a given year! I’ve been very depressed twice in my life, once at 17 and once at 39. If there’s one thing I learned, it’s that these feelings can go away and that life is worth living.
We all have those feelings from time to time and they usually go away. When they are persistent for many days, you have to start wondering why. Depression affects how you feel, think and behave and it’s impossible to determine why you feel like you are and to put a finger on the exact cause but please don’t get the illusion that getting money will make everything better. The 2nd time I felt depressed in my life, at 39 (which was recently), I was running a multimillion dollar business with 300 employees in the tourism industry (which I still am) and the company was doing great and was valued at several millions. And I was still depressed. I have a beautiful wife, 2 wonderful daughters and a lot of friends. And I was still depressed. Sometimes, you just can’t explain it. Now, with the coronavirus, there’s a good chance that I lost everything and that my company might go bankrupt but I’m still feeling great and optimist about the future.
Feeling shitty is not always logic! When our mind is clouded, we don’t see the potential in front of our eyes.
When you feel like you are, it’s obvious that you need to do something about it and not just let it slide.
Short term, you need to feel better about yourself. Everyone’s different, but what REALLY helped me when I wasn’t feeling good was 1) Exercise and 2) Meditation. I know it might sound silly but trust me, it really helps! And you have nothing to lose. Just start today. Go out running for 30 minutes everyday for the next 10 days and do a 10 minute meditation and you should see an improvement. After that, you’ll feel better so you’re not gonna want to stop.
Also, I would really recommend that you speak with your doctor. Depression can often times be caused by your brain chemistry, hormones and genetics. It’s really nothing to be ashamed about.
Long term, focus on a project, get motivated and start working. But keep it simple and FOCUS only on one project until you succeed.
And please remember to FOCUS on you first. I understand that your family situation might make it harder for you at the moment. But you won’t always be with them and you only have one life to live… make sure you’re living your own. Don’t waste your good years living someone else’s dreams.
I know it’s hard right now when you are caught in the middle of it but remember that there’s always sunshine after the rain!
Don’t hesitate to send me a direct message if you need someone to talk to.
Good luck!
