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Is IM making you Anti-social?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by jacobpov, Dec 19, 2014.

  1. jacobpov

    jacobpov Junior Member Premium Member

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    Hey guys, I am wondering what's your input about having online business and being self-employed acquiring work-from-home profession.

    Do you think it disconnects you from this world?

    personally it made me super awkward in many ways, I also never think like anybody else anymore so I feel like I cannot relate with any common person I meet these days...... is it just me or anybody else feels that way?
     
  2. b0red88

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    I was pretty anti-social before which is why I got into IM in the first place. make good money while not dealing with mfers sounds sweet to me
     
  3. ShadeDream

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    Balance is key. If something I think it connects you more than anything because you're always online trying to work the next best thing. Always something to talk about when you go out I guess? That's if we're talking real talk, not who did what last Saturday.

     
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    Stop being so weird!

    I'm kidding. You're just maturing.

    Work has been taking up a LOT of my time lately for a while now, I have barely been on BHW even, haven't been going out as much, yet when I do it's just how I remember it. Fun, refreshing, energizing, a good time, but nothing to get addicted over. I should make time for more leisure...

    What I did notice is I am much more comfortable around people, much more "lively" and likely to talk to random people. Before it was me alone vs me in a crowd and though I've always liked being around people now both behaviors are much more similar. I like people and realized there is nothing wrong with that. Be a good member of your community, and this doesn't mean something like volunteering all the time(though volunteering is amazing fun), it just means to be kind and productive and at peace with yourself and surroundings and others. Go to a grocery store and just walk as if you were in your living room, at ease, but with pants on, and you'll notice how many people seem to be way too nervous and in their heads. You'll get stares and smiles. Life's about living, living is about being and sharing with one another. Sorrow comes from alone-ness(different from loneliness), but you will learn from it.

    It isn't just you or people that have limited contact with others that are feeling out of place from the crowd, there is a general shift either towards a more "gossipy" life or a rejection of it and I would say the rejection is increasing regardless of what media or social media would have people believe. It's interesting.
     
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    Yep, IM can me you seriously disassociated and depressed. It's not a 'natural' way to live, staring at a computer screen for hours on end with little social interaction. Then again, some love it. If you feel you're mentally unraveling, find balance in your life - get outdoors, find people and do something active. You'll feel better for it.
     
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    Get a another job. Might earn less but at least youll be with people.
     
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    Depends on the scale I guess. Lots of IM's (serious ones) are also informed because they spend a lot of time online reading. Its hard to communicate with sheeples when you know so much more about how the world works, starting with the financial system or the influence of the city of London. Try talking to brainwashed ppl over everyday stuff gives me a headache and loosing faith in humanity even more.
    I have my family surrounding me - I don't need much more...
     
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    No, but it is making me fat an unhealthy.

    Take a day off once a week to see a movie or party with friends or something. That's what I do to keep my sanity.
     
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    IM Makes People Mentally illness. I have suffered from days of illness working on IM. Because in this world, the life is alone. We work alone, it brings us mentally disturbed.

    But still IM is the Best Business. Because the more money we make, we get more excited.
     
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    IM has changed me a lot , I don't like talking or having interaction with false and negative peoples , Instead of that i love to sit in front of my Lappy and do work .
     
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    Internet marketing has given me about 10x more the pay with about 20x less hours. More time... More money to do things.. How could this make you anti social?
    What's making you weird is probably pretending to be a girl. I could see quite a few different issues there. Most jobs you work about 40 hours a week. If you are working 40 hours a week doing internet marketing (8 hours a day, 5 days a week) You should be more then surviving and you should have plenty of money to go out.

    I hit the gym 4 - 6 days a week depending on how I am feeling, I also take dancing classes as well as spending time with my son and whatever shenanigans I have time for after family,work,class,im.

    If anything, Like I previously stated.. It gave me a life.
     
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    Yes it makes u anti social because u have to spend a lot of time in order to make it bank. Personally i keep my offline business alive because of this. I dont want to become an IM cave troll:).
     
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    I couldn't DISAGREE more.
     
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    If only BHW had more such replies... Very intriguing and eye opening post that I believe some may not get it for what it is. I've recently started to notice this myself and couldn't agree more.

    One thing I'd like to contest is "alone-ness", I wouldn't say it's a bad thing, and it definitely doesn't cause sorrow, at least not in all of us. I'm actually the type of person that really enjoys being alone because it gives me a peaceful environment for self reflection and personal growth. I get to ponder on life and all sorts of other things, whereas a lot of people are too occupied with the everyday bullshit that you see going on in the media and so on and so forth. I guess to some being alone could also be referred to as leisure time.

    I hope I didn't misunderstand what you meant there.
     
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    Oh I agree, I should have stated it better. I love spending time alone too. I don't feel alone even when I am; my head feels open, not like it's my ceiling.

    What I meant, and poorly described, was that being alone for longer than one consents to and feeling disconnected from the "All" is what I would call hell. When the focus then is inevitably directed entirely on the self with no ability to find reference or a mirror, the mind goes to dark places. This is why solitary confinement is inhumane. We're social creatures in that we recognize the need for family, friends, society, and when those aspects of our life are unhealthy we regress to something a little less than human, become unhealthy, and deteriorate into self-centeredness to cope with it all, which then disallows us to be good family, friends, social counterparts to others. It's a cycleand requires a lot of introspection, self-study, and energy to break.(unconnected but I don't believe that meditation is an activity done separately from living. I think self-study is observing oneself at the moment of living, not at a separate time like going to the gym for your mind. Just what I believe though)



    Ugh, I'm not even sure I explained it well here either lol. Basically what I don't mean is that spending time alone or feeling lonely is bad, what's bad is the removal of innate connection to others, but feeling that terrible feeling and learning from it will bring peace and appreciation if you get past how terrible it is. It's like the fear of death vs really looking at it and understanding it more than just a descent into oblivion.
     
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    I see what you're saying and I agree.

    I also wanted to note that some people apparently like to isolate themselves from people for longer periods of time, from weeks to months, it's got something to do with unleashing the creativity within by removing outside interference and therefore removing the day to day influences that come from societies boxed up thinking.

    I haven't tried anything like it, but from what I've heard and read it does make sense. I might give it a go some day as I'm rather interested in developing my creative side from various aspects. Have quite a few interests where I can see this working.
     
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    Indeed.

    But this 2014 I kinda changed.

    Spend at least 1-3days a week with friends.

    Instead of 24 hours locked in my room.
     
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    You're definitely anti social, I still have nightmares about your pickles video hahahaha
     
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    Having been a habitual loner my entire life, internet marketing comes naturally. Sure, I may not have the best communication skills (unless I'm selling something) but I don't look at that as a flaw in me. I hate most humans, so I don't need to speak to them anyway (again, unless I'm selling something). I've got my girl, my dog, the bhw and a small handful of impeccable friends. I'm happy with that.