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I'm only focussed on succes

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Diviance, Nov 11, 2012.

  1. Diviance

    Diviance Regular Member

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    Hello everybody,

    First I'd like to thank everyone for their great topics and posts here. I learn everyday from you people and this forum is really great.

    I'd like to tell something about myself.
    I'm 21 years old, live with my parents and have a full time job. I'm good in stock exchange and I come from a wealthy family. My parents are divorced. My father had a company but sold it at an all time high.

    I'm learned that I have to succeed by myself and in something I'm good at, and in something I like to do. And that kind of thing is Internet Marketing.
    I spend a lot of time online.

    My problem is that I'm too much focussed on succes. The only thing I want is succes. I want a Ferrari, I want a house in Spain, I want a boat. That, because I want to be as succesfull as my father. I don't want to disappoint them.
    And of course, that's a very nice thing. And I'm working very hard to let my dream come true. But the problem is that I'm just TOO much focussed.

    I remember times when I go out on a saturday night and don't care about money or the person I am. I went with everybody. I was the craziest person on the danceflour. But now... I'm just some boring person only thinking about ways to make money.

    I want to enjoy life. I want to do cool stuff.
    For me, all the money I spent on fun stuff I kind of regret. I want to be home and make money online. I earn a good stable income, and also I'm working a full time job, so I earn enough money.

    But I'm not happy with my life right now, as, not the person I am right now.
    I'm too much focussed on succes and money.
    The only thing I want is succes and money.

    I remember when I was in love with girls. The only thing I could think of was girls. I wanted to be loved and to have a wife, a house and kids.
    But now... I don't want it.
    I just want money.

    Money makes me happy, and not other persons (men or woman).
    Mostly I'm annoyed by people, how stupid they are and how stupid they are on a saturday night. Only dancing, doing stupid and drinking beer.

    But when I remember when I was that kind of person I don't know what I really want.
    Do I want money, do I want succes... and why?

    I have those life-goals and I know I am going to achieve them, but I don't want to think 24/7 about them, and that's my problem. When I'm at a party, I think about ways to make money, I want to check my accounts, I want to know how much money I made today.

    Do you guys know this feeling?
     
  2. Eagle Eye

    Eagle Eye Senior Member

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    welcome to reality.
     
  3. illfounded21

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    You've got it wrong.

    You should never focus on trying to achieve money outright. Focus on the thing that earns you the money.

    If you are good enough, you will earn money as a by-product - however, if you solely focus on the monetary aspect it is likely you will fail.

    I bet when starting out your dad didn't focus on the money, he focussed on being the best he could and his company could be.

    If you are the best at what you do, you will earn money. However, don't let the greed & desire of money cloud your thinking, as it won't help you.
     
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    Yep, the OP is writing a recipe for failure, in fact it almost borders on being OCD. Nobody loves money, they may love the thrill of the hunt for money or the objects it brings but loving money does not make for a successful business person. You got to love what you are doing to be successful.
     
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    I have pretty much the same story as you. But believe me if you have found this forum you are already 10 steps ahead of your dad or anybody else that you know.

    The amount of knowledge and resources here is ridiculous. So if you stick with it and you stay here, I can guarantee you that you WILL be successful.

    Internet marketing is an amazing field to be in, and it is how I plan on making a living for the rest of my life.
     
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  6. Eagle Eye

    Eagle Eye Senior Member

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    Agreed....food for thought.
     
  7. unclemike

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    First you need to do something you enjoy before you become a success at it. Its not always easy
    but you need to get money out of your mind and start thinking about things you enjoy doing and then
    monetize it. Thinking of only success or money will really mess you up and lead to a road of failure.
     
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    Wrong Path... Recipe to Failure!!!

    Cheers :)
     
  9. Diviance

    Diviance Regular Member

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    This is not sarcastic.

    I enjoy what I'm doing, I enjoy IM and I want to be the very best there is. I want to own several very big websites and I have a serious plan for this.

    It makes me more happy to see a 0,30 dollar click on Adsense, then the money I make with my full time job.

    The reason I made this post is because of my social life. I used enjoy going out and party, but only now I want to make money. I hate to spend time with people who are only living for the weekends etc, you know what I mean (I'm Dutch and my English is not that great).

    I don't want to think like that.
    I want to enjoy the time I go out and not only think about succes and work.
     
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    krishnaverma Power Member

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    It happens with all of us. I guess there are different phases in our life and we have to adjust accordingly.
     
  11. Norman Bates

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    When you fall in love again... :)
     
  12. Beingakrant

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    Stupid ... Dumb.... Now I have no doubt whatsoever why your Rep is -20. If your attitude doesn't change, then you may see a further fall in Rep Count....

    Cheers :)
     
  13. moneyengineers

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    hey mate i know exactly what you mean but the idea is not about the money imo its the freedom you can achieve with it ;)
     
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    I know exactly what you mean... Hey, it all boils down to this: you have to have enough drive, persistence and consistence to outwork EVERYONE

    It is as simple as that, hard work is always rewarded and that's just the law of the universe
     
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  15. Diviance

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    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    I work hard, and I earn a lot of money. But it's more personal and emotional where I'm worried about. I think I think to much about work and money.
     
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    Dont think only at money because you risk to do bad things or to loose your mind. I know money takes your mind its normal , but its bad ! And think about this: ppl wants money because ,they are sure that money makes them happy so results that ppl wants to be happy so if would be another method to happiness, then people will want that too so you can also try to find this happiness in other things( if money doesn't make you happy). Also you can have a fuckton of money but have medical problems so money wont give you the joy anymore ,instead all you'll want will be health ;) But its good that you want to succeed ,this is good and keep it up! But remember, dont loose your mind ! Be smart ! Others even comitted crimes only for money !
     
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  17. Diviance

    Diviance Regular Member

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    Just read this again.
    It's true what you say. I'm already 10 steps ahead of everyone who does not know about BHW. I've learned so much here, and got so much free stuff (great stuff), I'm really thankful for this.

    Thanks everyone for the comments.
    I will keep on going and I will never give up.

    Everyday I will become a better man.
     
  18. JimmyWong

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    I think most here can relate to you to some extent. My own belief is that your mindset is closely related to OCD type personality.

    At least you have become aware of your life sliding into unhappiness at the young age of 21. Try get a new hobby or start working out. Find something you enjoy.

    Anyhow, you're only young once. I guarantee that pretty much ever 50 year old with a Ferrari and a house in Spain would trade it all in to be 21 again. Food for thought.
     
  19. Diviance

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    That's really good food for thought indeed. But I find it so important that I'm wealthy, I think it's overruling everything else.

    I'm not unhappy, I'm happy but I'm not at the point where I want to be in my life. I'm afraid that I can't enjoy other things in life and I can only be happy when I have much money.

    I'm working out for almost a year right now, and feeling really great about it. Also I'm going out every weekend, but there's just some emptiness, emotionless feeling inside of me.
     
  20. illfounded21

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    Why do you think it is 'so important that you are wealthy'? You have never been wealthy, your family has.

    Trust me, that emptiness you talk of, won't be filled when you get money. You are missing something else in your life.

    The void you speak of might stem from the fact that think you need this wealth, it might be the cause of the problem, not the solution.