I'm addicted to Porn => [Porn Addiction] [HELP]

Hello, I broke up with my girlfriend a year and a half since then I started masturbating by myself.

Now I masturbate almost all the time and that's have become a BIG problem.
I can't focus on my work because I masturbate so fucking often. I feel like shit, I have no energy to work and I hate myself for that.

And when you just think it couldn't get any worst - wait for it:
When I watch porn I want to have real sex, and what do I usually do?
I would pick up the phone call some bitch, she would come to my place I would fuck her and then I feel even worse because I wasted sooo much money just have some sex and because I can't break my addiction.

I need some advice how to break my addiction and how to handle the urges because when they come that's the moment I'm picking up the phone and call the bitch and then I have no money just because I wasted all of it on sex.

Please, anyone, help

SnoopyDrew said:

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

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Thanks!

Is there anything BHW can't help folks with?

I may think of starting a therapy BST for people over on the Lounge sub forum.

Fap too often ? These may help to reduce your mind and your anaconda....

Sleep with a really gross woman that you'd normally never be with.

You'll feel disgusted with yourself and not want to have a sex for a while, spend that time finding something you're passionate about and spend all your energy on that.

Or maybe you can take pills that make you impotent or lowers your sex drive for a while.

Get out more, work from a public office instead of working from home - that will make it hard for you to fap. Exercise more so you're so tired you can't be bothered with fapping.

Hope that helps.

Wait...
Age?
Cause if he's 15 yo is "quite" normal...
At 35 is not.

i just realized i misread some part of your post. i think its normal at your age to have sexual desires post-puberty i guess, but if you can't seem to find a balance i would recommend seeing a doctor or finding a girlfriend,

DubaiClub said:

Age?

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You're right. If he's a teen, he's probably just bored and doesn't have anything else to do. In which case he should just go outside lol. If he's an adult he should seek help.

If you're that deep in that you cannot make yourself to quit for even a day. Get outside help. Go to a clinic to get treated. You're wasting your time and ruining your life.

belg said:

You're right. If he's a teen, he's probably just bored and doesn't have anything else to do. In which case he should just go outside lol. If he's an adult he should seek help.

If you're that deep in that you cannot make yourself to quit for even a day. Get outside help. Go to a clinic to get treated. You're wasting your time and ruining your life.

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I'm 21

Matthew Howard said:

I'm 21

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Have you tried quitting cold turkey? Just not watching porn and not masturbating for a day? If you can't do that I seriously urge you to get help.

Get yourself neutered, end of problem.

Matthew Howard said:

Hello, I broke up with my girlfriend a year and a half since then I started masturbating by myself.

Now I masturbate almost all the time and that's have become a BIG problem.
I can't focus on my work because I masturbate so fucking often. I feel like shit, I have no energy to work and I hate myself for that.

And when you just think it couldn't get any worst - wait for it:
When I watch porn I want to have real sex, and what do I usually do?
I would pick up the phone call some bitch, she would come to my place I would fuck her and then I feel even worse because I wasted sooo much money just have some sex and because I can't break my addiction.

I need some advice how to break my addiction and how to handle the urges because when they come that's the moment I'm picking up the phone and call the bitch and then I have no money just because I wasted all of it on sex.

Please, anyone, help

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Write down ”I am in control” every night for 30 minutes for 90 Days. Even on days you slip up.

1Enigma said:

Write down ”I am in control” every night for 30 minutes for 90 Days. Even on days you slip up.

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very interesting , be honest did you try your method?

bartosimpsonio said:

Is there anything BHW can't help folks with?

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filtering out bullshit threads like this

cahzer said:

filtering out bullshit threads like this

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its not ballshit , people have problems

buddhiststudent718 said:

very interesting , be honest did you try your method?

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Its oversaturated

Cut

meannn said:

Fap too often ? These may help to reduce your mind and your anaconda....

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OP sounds like the sort of deviant that would get off from these repulsive images

Replace feelings of pleasure you get from this with something else. If you are addicted to coke - every time you feel like drinking it, take water instead. If you are addicted to eating too much, like binge eating, needing to have something in your stomach and mouth, take a gum. You know how much energy you are wasting like that, right? Feeling bad emotionally afterwards, punishing your body and mind with such useless activity? Find a reason to allow yourself to feel good, love yourself more. Nothing is stopping you from getting another girl, but something that you don't like about yourself popped up in your mind and it's imposing restrictions on your dating life. Whatever it is, write it down, then if there is more to it, write that down too, then be patient with yourself and you will solve it. In the meantime find hobbies, especially if there is competition involved, martial arts and such, hit the gym and hang out with friends more often. It will go away, and the more energy you invest in fighting this; the more it grows, it feeds on the attention and it will create more internal conflict. When you find the things you really want to do, BS like this won't hold you down. Don't train yourself (repetitive actions, subconscious loves them) to be the person you don't want to become in the future.

tl;dr you don't need to get rid of this because you are addicted, you just need to find something else you are passionate about and lose yourself in it