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I have no friends in this life :( Im so bored :(

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by mawise86, Jun 11, 2012.

  1. mawise86

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    Yes... We are in the summer now. We are in the june month. The weather is excellent. Many sexy girls are in the beach and seaside. But I am still in my home :( I want to go the swim with my friends. But I have no friends in this life :(I am 18 and very unsocial guy. I called my old friends but these idiots doesnt answer to me.My old friends are very bad guys but I cant find new friends :( Dammit :( MAWISE86 is an always alone guy :(I am a new member on this forum but I've been reading this forum for 5 months. Im earning $100 a day with IM. But I cant do anything in real life. MAWISE86 is just like a virtual man. I feel like a stupid now :( as if I am living in the jail brother :(
     
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    My problem is that I have too many "friends" and I am sick of that...so annoying that I haven't using phone more than 2 years along.
     
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    join some art classes....
     
  4. dynamic1

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    Scale up your $100 days and become a success, alothough I would say that $100 a day at 18 you are already a success, but you should use that to build on. There is plenty of time for socialising when you are older, create firm financial foundations for yourself. When I was your age I had so much potential with a variety of things, but I pissed it all up against the wall and never reached my potential. Take it from me, Hindsight is your best and worst enemy, the amount of times I say to myself if I did ........ when I was 18 it would have been so different.
    Financial freedom wont give you happieness but it sure will help.
     
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    Don't you go to school or anywhere else. How come a 18 years old guy don't have friends. When i was 18, i had almost thousand friends. Go out. Speak to new people. You can't make friends by whining at BHW.
     
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    Sitting in all day on your pc isn't the way to make friends, dude.


    Get out. If your old friends aren't replying to your calls or texts then they aren't the type of people you want to be chasing after anyway!
     
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    Friends is boring dude.
    I love to be "the loner" ... :D
     
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    Go out and do something, join an art class or whatever (also, have you seen the movie Yes Man?), or just go sit in the bar and drink alcohol, maybe you meet someone.
     
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    dude - whatever you do never go back to your loser friends... no matter how lonely you are - This is your chance to be successful and a winner. You may think you a loser cos your at home while everyone else is at the beach, but thats cos you are comparing yourself against what you THINK they are, not what they REALLY are.

    If i were you i would stick at your marketing and keep making money, BUT
    You do need some social life - its important to at least get the hell out of the house 1 or 2 times per week
    That does not mean you have to call idiots to be with, or even make an effort to chat with new people.
    Just go to a GYM, go to a Salsa dance class (top place for meeting women by the way)
    Go to a bar and have a few drinks alone, you may meet someone. Go to Charity events, Networking events, Internetworking events.

    Make sure that one or two times per week are scheduled to do something else.
    As for friends... You don't need fake friends to be happy, you don't need popular friends to be happy
    You just need a sense of achievement each day (making money online) and some creative and social interaction (the above)
    All of this will eventually make you very successful - you are almost there buddy!
     
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  10. FunkyWaltz

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    Let's put it this way... When you think you have a great network of friends and a very social life... You go out and hang out everyday or all the time... You get burnt out on it... Don't worry. You're only 18.

    Your old friends: Probably out trying to be destructive. Earn some sort of reputation being "hard"

    Atleast, at 18 those were my friends. I ran with them too. Then... I grew up and realized friends are overrated.
    Being hard doesn't get you paid.
    All the drugs under the sun won't get anywhere.
     
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  11. CyberknightTully

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    I understand your problem. You are spending so much time in front of your monitor that you are becoming tied to it and as the result, you are working very inefficiently as well as becoming more and more isolated from the "real world". It's easy to do and you have to force yourself out of it. Take a walk, go to the library, go out for coffee, go to the bar, go to a movie, just do almost anything to get yourself a break from work. Don't think about work while you are taking your breaks and I know that is hard to do but do it anyway.

    Once you are able to make the break, you will find that your income will grow because you will then be working SMART instead of working HARD.

    Try it. You'll like it.

    Tully.
     
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    I am not the most social person and have always found talking about the days petty tediums to be pointless so I recently decided to approach this in a different way. Think about the things that you enjoy and find ways to do these whilst interacting with others. The friendships will blossom from this. I used to play 8 ball pool when I was a kid. I thought it would be fun to play this again so I joined a team in a local pub and then struck up some friendships from this. Likewise I used to play poker many years ago so I have joined a poker club and again struck up relationships with people through this.

    I want to learn how to scuba dive and fish as I would like to get a little motorised boat to have fun with. I will approach this in the same way.

    Don't sit back and says things are cr*p and not do anything about them as this will simply compound your mindset in a downward spiral. Go out of your comfort zone and force things to happen and you will feel better for it. Sure sometimes it will not work out but good or bad generally we are all better for new experiences and you won't get any of these whilst sitting at home. Hope that gives you some direction.
     
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  14. dynamic1

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    Your Granpa sounds cool

    I'm 33
     
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    Focus on your family instead! you cannot replace them.
    Friend is just a friend they can be bad they can be good. They are all anywhere! most of all humans can be your friend. "just be yourself"
    I myself putting just 10% of my social life in friends and 90% on my family & relatives.
     
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    this is really the most crappy thing to answer someone like him...
    ...socialising when he is older???

    stop giving him comments like "forget about a social life - make money." "make more money and then..." then what?!?
    his problem is not having people he can rely on. everybody needs them - if you see em often or not.
    all that "money here and money there"-talk won`t help you if you feel lonely and outside of the social world.
    who cares about friends that you just have because they know you got money?
    should he buy some friends then?

    socialising later? pfff...
    ...it`s the relations you build in early life that may hold for a lifetime.
    and if you start socialising "later" - you will really miss the years and the stuff you tend to do when you where young.
    ...and they will be gone then. forever.

    i have my friends - a few but people i would take a bullet for and the other way around...
    ...often time goes by and i do not see them too much because we all are busy. but i got them and they are there when i need them.
    and we enjoy quality-time together regularly because it is really important in my thought.

    dear OP - if you lack friends: go out make yourself some. go to the gym, a course in something you are interested in, a sports-club, whatever gets you out to places were people are (and even better: people that do like something you are interested in too.)
    you will get in touch with people - it is just that YOU have to go and do it.
    they won`t knock on your door - but it ain`t too hard to get that managed when your young.
    have trust - and get your ass up from behind the machine once in a while.

    thinking you can only have "financial-freedom" or a social life is just plain wrong...
    ...now move to get yourself out of this position - so you feel better.

    cheers!
     
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    Its all about 2 side, for example: go and stand to one side of the river you will see other side is so beautiful and when you go to other side you will see 1first side is looking beautiful. Its our human nature so don't be freak out someone told you to spend time with your family, friends are not always good. I am kinda none social person, I like being alone and with my family :) BTW you are doing good at IM most of your loser friends can't even imagine that so good luck dude.
     
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  19. dynamic1

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    I've have just double checked my comments and I can not see where I put "forget about a social life - make money." or "make more money and then..."
    Normally when you use the "" symbols you are quoting what the person had wrote or said so on that you are misquoting me.

    I agree, people do need people that they can rely on, but he was saying that the people that he might consider as friends are all bangers, he says"I called my old friends but these idiots doesnt answer to me.My old friends are very bad guys" are these the people you are saying that he should rely on? People that dont answer or return his calls? No friends are better than these friends.

    Where have I said you will get friends when you have money?

    I disagree here that this is alway the rule. Every person that I consider a friend at 18 I would now not consider them to be friends at all and some of them I was really tight with at that time. I do have a strong network of family and friends that I can rely on that I built in later life 25 onwards.

    Again, checking my comments and I am struggling to see where I gave him a choice??
     
  20. Parlez

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    I always thought marketers where the cool outgoing guys...