How to develop qualities like honesty in children ?

What can be done to develop good qualities like honesty in children ?

Cookies and milk maybe?

When they do something bad, but they told you the truth, don't punish them so hard, and tell them that because you told me the truth, I won't punish you by banning video games for 1 week, but you will have to help me do some work around the house. Or smth that they don't see as a punishment.

If you start with the early podcasts when he didn’t have a kid yet and then compare his relationship with his kid nowadays when he streams playing games with his daughter, I think you’ll agree he is doing a wonderful job as a parent. At least their relationship on camera seems that way. Probably useful content to a new parent such as yourself. Some say it is “too political” but everything about human society and relations is political, especially raising children. If it is too much, you can skip it and go for something more mainstream.

Start at the bottom with the 1st upload:

There is just no way to answer your question in a TL;DR way

By adopting them yourself. Children tend to learn a lot from parents.

I'd say to educate them on the consequences of their bad doings and exaggerating things so they feel for others (empathy).

You also don’t want to shape their character to always tell the truth as well, no matter what. They need to understand when it is better not to say anything as well. Don’t prepare them for a world you wish it was, but for a world that is. Loyalty to one’s family being of the utmost importance. You can build everything else around it as long as every member of the family lives by this rule.

Beat it into them... is what old me would have said. I also would have said teach them selective lying, lie to other people, not you. Lying WELL is a life skill.

But I've grown wiser in my old age. Lying all together is wrong, and even white lies are dark end evil. So you really need to emphasize that. Don't punish them if they tell you the truth, But still, you also need to teach them to take responsibility for their actions even if they did the right thing and told you the truth. Ask them what their punishment should be. You can 100% walk circles around their BS answers until you get an acceptable one.

Never raise your voice, It never works. People just go into their shell and shut down. it pisses you off even more but its not worth it.

Here's some ideas:
1. Place a GPS camera and recording system on them so you can monitor their moves 24/7
2. Genetically modify them so that they tell the truth 24/7.
3. Accept them the way they are and try to improve said qualities

Tudor Marin said:

When they do something bad, but they told you the truth, don't punish them so hard, and tell them that because you told me the truth, I won't punish you by banning video games for 1 week, but you will have to help me do some work around the house. Or smth that they don't see as a punishment.

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Doing chores should neither be a punishment nor something to be rewarded for, but a responsibility as a household member.

i remember a moment of my childhood when i lied to my mother about something simple, but she was deeply hurt for like 3 days and didn’t speak to me in consequence. I think it was a bit exaggerated but seeing her being this hurt from a lie taught me to never lie to her again. since then honesty has been one of the most important values for me personally.

become the role models for them to aspire to be.

Dishonesty as a child won’t mean it continues later in life. Most kids will be a little dishonest.

I probably had many moments but can only remember 2 instances.

1982 World Cup and like most of my friends we had the sticker album. I was 7 and a pack of sticker was 6p U.K money. I was allowed a few packs a week. But I was eager to collect them so used to take 36p from my mums purse in the morning before school.

I must have been 9 or 10 and the school used to take us to a local swimming pool one morning every month maybe.

While there one kid took over my changing spot. I remember I was annoyed but couldn’t punch him because of the teachers. I wanted revenge so I waited until everyone had left and hid his shoes.

After swimming we always sat outside and had some sandwiches for lunch . This kid couldn’t find his shoes and neither could the teachers. They were there most of the afternoon and we missed our lessons. The school was also banned from going to the pool again.

The next day the headmaster had the whole school assembled. He told us if the person who did it came forward they would get detention. If they didn’t the whole school would get lunchtime detention for 2 weeks. I’m sat there thinking there’s no way I’m admitting it.

We all got that detention for 2 weeks.

Those small moments wouldn’t necessarily mean a child will continue the same way as an adult.

It didn’t work out for me though those early moments led to an adult life of shoplifting, burglary, fraud, embezzlement, bribery, money laundering etc

If only my parents had developed me better.

k2h2 said:

What can be done to develop good qualities like honesty in children ?

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reward them when they're honest

With the belt.

DJPaulyD said:

reward them when they're honest

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That is a good strategy. Teachers also do this.