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How important is income when choosing a mate

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  1. starcity83

    starcity83 Regular Member

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    When given a choice would you choose to marry someone who has substantially higher earnings or someone that is more physically attractive?
     
  2. SweTech

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    I would marry the girl I love. Higher earnings? Come on, get your own money.

    Physically attractive? Sure, it is important but it fade away after a couple of years.

    You should find someone you want to wake up next 2 in the morning, not someone you want to go to bed with.
     
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    shadowcat Elite Member

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    I guess I wont go with any of the above option.When I will get married I will tie a very respectable knot with my husband, the man whom I love and not to his bank account or credit cards and as per looks are considered again I will say Looks is temporary it passes away with time and I will love my man with his wrinkled skin as well so physical features again plays very little role in my life as well.....I simply want to get married to a man who will love me for being myself and will stay with me even in my worst situation of my life.....Love matter to me more then anything else...
     
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    GrizzlyAdams Regular Member

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    most important thing to me is a fucking brain, hard to come by
     
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    true lol
     
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    If be given a chance (...and would be lucky enough) I would marry a pretty lady who out earns my income.
     
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    If possible, I would NEVER let my wife/girl work EVER,... makes me look weak then
     
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    I would choose someone who is not in hurry for marriage.
     
  9. david wright

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    The best advice anyone can give you..NEVER MARRY AN AMERICAN WOMAN! (marry only foreign women)

    now that I got that out of the way you should marry cause you love/are attracted to that person. If you marry for money and not attraction you will hate spending time with that person and you are likely to cheat and get divorced.

    There are some considerations though when it comes to marriage and money. If she happens to carry a lot of debt you have to remember that it will become your debt as well. If you live in America you gotta pay attention to this as everyone here is carrying debt.
     
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    dont marry someone for his/her earning and his/her physical attraction, it's too risky in long run...

    sure physical attraction is important for first impression, sex, and all that, but you shouldn't make it first priority, not even fourth or fifth priority when it comes to marriage.

    as for money, are you mad? If you are a man, having a wife to support your entire living cost is just nuts. You would want to be independent, and it's not only about pride, but more about financial security. (How if she leave you for someone else?)

    You must know for certain who your wife is. Her real personality and her brain should be what matter the most. Love ofc is the key in marriage. I mean, for what reason you marry someone you don't love? If sex is what you are after, then why would you want to get married with that woman? I mean you can just stay in relationship and not getting committed... and if money is what you are after in marriage, i must say the woman must be dumb if she agree to marry you lol
     
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    No I'm not mad just observant, it just seems that people are always looking for the best deal. When they find someone that has more money or better looks they just get a divorce and move on. That's why the divorce rate is nearly 65%, because it's just so accepted to find a better deal. Most divorces are caused when the other mate meets someone who is better off financially or is more physically attractive. It just seems that the spiritual mental attraction is gone. This is what makes GrizzlyAdams answer about having a brain so profound.
     
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    It's not so much about the amount of money they make but more about how financially responsible they are with the money they currently bring in. It's probably one of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to someone blowing their cash on anything and everything.
     
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    Well, let me share this.

    I married a girl because of who she was. I married her because I liked her character, and the person she was.

    When we met she had no hope of every being anything. Grad school reject, making measly wages. I was the big time, I started my own business very young, I dropped out of HS but got GED, I then dropped out of college to run business. Guess what.

    Now I am sitting on my machine working 16 hour days trying to make money in IM.

    Now my wonderful wife is a very powerful business woman in the community. And she makes more money than your average married couple.

    Yes she finished her education at my behest after we got married. Now things are better.

    My point is when we met you would have bet all your money that I would be the top dog, but for now she is top dog. But it doesn't matter because I married her for who she is and i'ts paying off in everyway.

    Anybody who is doing financially well now could easily be in the poor house tomorrow. SO don't pick on these merits.

    However, a person who is a good person, and has the qualities you are looking for is not likely to become a different person after marriage.

    YOu can lose money, but it's not likely someone will lose their character if it is good.

    Peace.
     
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    Yes, but you are a Black Hat World member and you will undoubtedly be making much more money than she is very soon!! Just go with the flow and pay attention to and try to apply absolutely everything that you can make time for on here.
     
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    American woman are very beautiful though!
     
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    Dont treat a women like a piece of meat.

    Make them feel valued and you'll have a happy life :D
     
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    You have to find a companion, meaning someone you like talking to about anything and everything good or bad with nothing to hide with a great comfort level at all times. Looks and money don't matter a bit in the long run.
     
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    Actually I don't agree with this statement as I believe that husband and wife are two wheels of the same chariot and if one wheel falls off then the chariot wont be able to move further.....Have believe in yourself as well as in your girl and I am sure if she truly loves you then she wont ever let you "look weak..." even in the worst situation....:)
     
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    when it comes to women there all crazy- just find one that wont stab you in the middle of the night-

    read that on a snapple lid.
     
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    yes but they're like American cars they don't last long :D

    It's ok to date American women but if you want a woman to spend the rest of your life with rather than one that's going to likely end in a divorce and taking half your money then marry a eastern european/filipino/asian/latina.

    Divorce statistics don't do them any favors. American women are bad wives this is undisputable. They're for having fun and that's it nothing serious.

    Don't forget to read
    http://www.nomarriage.com