How do you prevent yourself from getting distracted?

Hi, I've been struggling with these for the last couple of days.

1 - Thing is sometimes I get distracted by these girls (my hormones lol) and I just want to get into a relationship but at the end, it's not worth the time and effort because I am on the way for something big in my life. I know if I have money, then girls will come automatically. I see many couples every day and it kinda makes me jealous that those dudes got those girls and I don't have a girl with me now. How do I not get distracted from these?

2 - I see my friends playing these latest games like red dead redemption 2, the new spiderman, battlefield v and it kinda makes me jealous of the fun because since 2002 I was a huge game addict. I left gaming a couple of months ago to completely focus on my career. So, it's natural that after 16+ years I get jealous by seeing them enjoying something I used to enjoy and now left to make a LIFE. 90% of them just goes to office at morning and comes back at evening and then sits to play the games and then goes out for some beers and dinner and then comes back and sleeps and then the same routine from the next day. So, how do I not get distracted from this and don't let it bother me?

3 - When I feel a bit down, I start looking at those new gameplay trailers or the actual gameplay on youtube and I don't even complete the full video because within 2 or 3 mins I realize that I have to get back to work. Again, how do I resist doing this?

4 - Nowadays people ask me what I do exactly as I dont leave my room and house that often other than going out to buy food and when I tell them I work online ( I just say this and I dont exaggerate ) and then they will ask what kind of work and when I tell them I work with some companies online, they will laugh like they are indirectly mocking me. They will laugh when I tell them that I only work online and I dont have any office to go every day. The same case is with family members. This is too annoying every time. How do I solve this also? Why are people so nosy? Why do they even ask when anyone does for a living? Why are they so concerned? It's not like I m taking their money for living.

So, yes those are things that are creating a problem in my head every day and I need opinions on how to overcome and don't let any of those distract me and make me lose my focus?

I'm sure you guys have gone through the same thing at least some point when you started your life online. What did you do?

Move to other city and live on your own - if you can't afford, then you ain't making enough online. Don't use mobile (huge time waster), block FB, IG and YOUTUBE ( and any other SM), i mean use only for REAL WORK (not to tell you mum that you're "working"). Join a sport club.

HelloBTCMINER said:

Move to other city and live on your own - if you can't afford, then you ain't making enough online. Don't use mobile (huge time waster), block FB, IG and YOUTUBE ( and any other SM), i mean use only for REAL WORK (not to tell you mum that you're "working"). Join a sport club.

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I need youtube for tutorials purpose.

EternalFun said:

I need youtube for tutorials purpose.

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Youtube is too much distracting. Get a account on lynda/udemy/bitdegree/skillshare/treehouse/codecademy.

In my case during university life I went out with my friends practically every weekend. You know, discos, clubs, girls, alcohol... At that time I was only focusing on the university degree (Computer Engineering). I studied what I needed to pass. That's when I started with the world of apps.

At the end of my university I found an internship site. I talked to the human resources lady and asked her to work only half a day, 20 hours a week, which she let me manage as I wanted. The rest of my time was spent programming apps at home. At that time I hardly ever left home unless I went to work.
During this process I have stopped going out with my friends, I barely go out one night a month with my colleagues, and only for dinner.

What I've started doing is going out for sports every morning early, even if it's only 30 minutes. You get home, take showers, have a coffee with your breakfast. Getting to work will be much easier because the really difficult thing is getting up in the morning and doing sports. This is called momentum. Once you start, it is easier for you to continue with another task. The first few days will be hard for you, but then you get used to it.

EternalFun said:

I know if I have money, then girls will come automatically

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1. This is disgusting
2. Take some free time to do things that you like
3. Don't become a weirdo

Good Luck

It's that same mindset we've talked about in your other thread.

It bothers you because you let yourself be bothered by it. Meaning that you might not be too sure of what you are doing or that the path you are following is not what you initially expected or what you really want.

Ask yourself this - why do you care what anybody else is doing or thinking? Do you feel insecure with what you are doing? Do feel insecure talking about it?

Do you have a strong routine or is your day chaotic? Do you feel overwhelmed and tend to procrastinate because of it?

All of these things come from within, not from external factors. You should give yourself sometime to really think about what truly bothers you, because most of the times it's your outlook on the situation that is important, not the situation itself.

Also, girls will not come when you have money. Gold diggers might. And is it really what you want in you life or are you looking to find meaningful relationships?

Overall, my advice would be to define very clearly what you are looking to achieve with what you are doing, set a proper routine which would satisfy you. You know, something like work 45 minutes, give yourself 15min breaks. Reward yourself with 1-2 hours of gaming AFTER you finished everything you should've during the day etc. No need to be a tyrant to yourself. And make sure to spend some time to actually reflect on what is going in your life and why.

If you are making it online, you are on a good path already, but you have to keep yourself and your life in order too. Bring some sort of balance to your life so you wouldn't go mad later on.

That's what I think anyway

Just ignore your the ppl. They will always have something to say. From what I have read it sounds like you are very much on the right path.

You can' t really overcome those things, I m going through the same thing.
I now just have 3 really good friends that I can talk business with and I go out with them on friday and saturday night.
Rest of the time I just focus on my own thing and work

I was also a big gaming guy, I still love games and play maybe a few hours every 2 weeks and that's okay for me, some time to cool off.

PoisonReverse said:

In my case during university life I went out with my friends practically every weekend. You know, discos, clubs, girls, alcohol... At that time I was only focusing on the university degree (Computer Engineering). I studied what I needed to pass. That's when I started with the world of apps.

At the end of my university I found an internship site. I talked to the human resources lady and asked her to work only half a day, 20 hours a week, which she let me manage as I wanted. The rest of my time was spent programming apps at home. At that time I hardly ever left home unless I went to work.
During this process I have stopped going out with my friends, I barely go out one night a month with my colleagues, and only for dinner.

What I've started doing is going out for sports every morning early, even if it's only 30 minutes. You get home, take showers, have a coffee with your breakfast. Getting to work will be much easier because the really difficult thing is getting up in the morning and doing sports. This is called momentum. Once you start, it is easier for you to continue with another task. The first few days will be hard for you, but then you get used to it.

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Yes, correct. Thanks for clearing everything.

Wooten said:

It's that same mindset we've talked about in your other thread.

It bothers you because you let yourself be bothered by it. Meaning that you might not be too sure of what you are doing or that the path you are following is not what you initially expected or what you really want.

Ask yourself this - why do you care what anybody else is doing or thinking? Do you feel insecure with what you are doing? Do feel insecure talking about it?

Do you have a strong routine or is your day chaotic? Do you feel overwhelmed and tend to procrastinate because of it?

All of these things come from within, not from external factors. You should give yourself sometime to really think about what truly bothers you, because most of the times it's your outlook on the situation that is important, not the situation itself.

Also, girls will not come when you have money. Gold diggers might. And is it really what you want in you life or are you looking to find meaningful relationships?

Overall, my advice would be to define very clearly what you are looking to achieve with what you are doing, set a proper routine which would satisfy you. You know, something like work 45 minutes, give yourself 15min breaks. Reward yourself with 1-2 hours of gaming AFTER you finished everything you should've during the day etc. No need to be a tyrant to yourself. And make sure to spend some time to actually reflect on what is going in your life and why.

If you are making it online, you are on a good path already, but you have to keep yourself and your life in order too. Bring some sort of balance to your life so you wouldn't go mad later on.

That's what I think anyway

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Thanks for the clear view of this situation.

Xsesonit said:

Just ignore your the ppl. They will always have something to say. From what I have read it sounds like you are very much on the right path.

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Thank you

You have to keep your life balanced. Ofcourse you are not working 24/7. I am sure if you stay focused and actually do stuff.. You could finish the work in a lot less time then what it takes now.. Then you can do the stuff you like in free time. Gotta cut the procrastination