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How do you deal with hardships?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by brettehl, Oct 11, 2013.

  1. brettehl

    brettehl Regular Member

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    I'm just curious, as I'm going through a shitty point in my young life I feel like I've handled it pretty good, aka not drinking myself to sleep and I can function fine in every day life. But how do you guys handle hardships in life, whether it be a death or a divorce or whatever?
     
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    The way I deal with it is surrounding myself with supportive and extremely funny friends/fam. Keeping yourself busy also helps.
     
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    Being around Good people is the best way to go. If you don't have that then family is the next best.
    What I do is get shit faced drunk for 24 to 48 hours. Nurse a hang over and get back to work a day or two later.

    Some times things are so bad that doesn't work... (happened to me this June- I lost more money in 6 weeks than most people make in a year) I actually got a real job for 2 weeks. I find that when you make your own money it is easy to forget about people/life that go 30 to 50 years always having a boss and always make the same money. I get a job and after 2 weeks I feel so good about myself I get my MoJo back and go. It still doesn't make everything perfect right away. But getting your mind right is the foundation for everything.

    When you learn to build a money machine and it falls apart and takes your money with it... it is easy to focus on negativity. But the truth is: it, the money machine, doesn't take everything with it. It leaves experience and knowledge and these attributes are what separate the sheep from the eagles.

    It is not a surprise that 5% of the population controls 80% of the wealth. It's not easy to make it on your own so, 95% of the people go for the easy road and bitch about the rich people.
    [h=3]Most people don't know that the minority controlling/producing the majority of production is not a Human/Economics thing—it is a LIFE thing. Check out "Pareto's Principle". Like a 100 years ago this guy, Pareto showed evidence of the minority controlling/producing the majority from plants, animals, humans, stars, moons, and the economy. The question is "are we going to have a long pity party or a short pity party?" Lick your wounds and move. Those who stop lose, those who get moving win.[/h][h=3][/h]
     
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    Just busting, just keeps things in perspective, ask yourself if a single phone call or word from another person can turn things around for you? If so then all is not lost. Why? Because you could always get call!

    Beside when you are younger everything is a big deal, later on as you get older you can add some perspective to your life's events.
     
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    I remember this

    9. The Law of Relativity

    This Law states that each person will receive a series of problems (Tests of Initiation) for the purpose of strengthening the Light within. We must consider each of these tests to be a challenge and remain connected to our hearts when proceeding to solve the problems. This law also teaches us to compare our problems to others' problems and put everything into its proper perspective. No matter how bad we perceive our situation to be, there is always someone who is in a worse position. It is all relative.
     
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    Things are only as bad as you think they will be.

    For example, when you're not with your girl anymore and you think you may never find someone like her again (to some this may be a good thing, lol). You thinking about being lonely and possibly not finding a girl with her good traits are the thoughts that make the break up hard to deal with.


    I don't want to get into religion but, I rely on my personal relationship with God.

    Keep your head up bud.
     
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    sasuke120 Regular Member

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    Again when I feel like shit for whatever reason.I just head or to youtube and watch hodgetwins.Get a good laugh and then hit the gym (preferably on 1mr)
     
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    Everyone goes through shitty points in life, but usually it's a way to grow as a person. Look for opportunities in the down times that might make your life better in the future...
     
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    Turn the experience into fuel!
    Hardships and Failure can be as great a motivator and learning tool
    as Joy and Success.
     
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    Just put on some pump up music, grab your favorite non-alcoholic beverage and go for a nice long walk!

    always helps me even if i'm not depressed
     
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    Everyone has their own way of processing negative emotion. Some stuff is harder to deal with, and people handle things differently. That being said, pain is pain, what hurts for one likely won't hurt for another. Hopefully whatever you're going through passes quickly.

    Personally? The best way I handle anything hard is to take solace in the fact that, somewhere in the myriad of bullshit happening at once, is a little wisdom or lesson to be taken from it. Without that, I'd probably feel ungrounded and out of sorts. Meanwhile, I can be found listening to music, vegging out with a video game or doing something to satisfy my OCD tendencies, anything to tune out the world for a little while, haha.
     
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    If you turn to alcohol to escape from a problem, you are developing alcoholism. Now you have the problem to deal with, and the problem of dependency.

    I deal with hardships by remembering I'm alive and can do something to change things for the future, and(hear me out on this) that things could not have possibly turned out differently than how they did.

    It's a balance between power and surrender, between "I can do this and I want to succeed" + "I know I'm not all powerful by myself. I know I do not truly know what is right or wrong without education and experience, but I'll learn who I am and what I am. I will learn what I can do, what I can't do, and what I will do."

    Life's an adventure, not a slumber. We have no purpose that we know of other than to do what we do, so go do. Rise above the mediocrity, the mundane, and the mass.
     
  13. brettehl

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    Thanks forthe support, no I'm not going to turn to alchol or drugs I only included that because I know one too many people that have made that mistake.