How do you deal with failure?

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Over the past few months, I've suffered a number of failures, setbacks, and just plain bad luck in my internet marketing career. It's got me feeling down to the point where the thought of doing work makes me physically ill. I've even got a few good ideas that I'm excited about, but I can't motivate myself to put any serious work into them because I'm anxious and paranoid about fucking up again.

My question is: how do I move past this? How do I get myself motivated again when I'm convinced that any effort I put into it will be for nothing?

Sorry if this post comes off as whiny. I'm having a bad night.
 
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Your only a loser if you give up after defeat.

If it was easy then EVERYBODY would be doing it.

The only way to learn is make mistakes... Mistakes are great as long as you can learn from them.

I recommend you read the book "think and grow rich" its very powerful and would help you alot.

Also if you keep feeling like this you could be suffering from depression... just a thought.
 
Move on to the next step in your life.
Living in the past is bad and sucks you down.
 
The potential of making lots of money exists only because of your ability to overcome lots of serious obstacles. Keep the failures in perspective.
 
What is Failure?

No, just kidding... well, in IM your going to lose money, time & energy trying to find your way but just think of it all as a learning experience and "NEVER PUSSY OUT" and give up like most do.

That's how I dealt with it.

It's more about learning to avoid failure and taking action with constant vigilance.
 
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Learn from the failures and find out, analyze it thoroughly, what could have gone wrong... then try again with corrections done. If there is something else you can try as substitute, then go for it. Your failures and the proper analysis will make you plan and execute better. If you have money to spend, spend it wisely on getting help or on outsourcing. Focus on studying more. Stay focused, keep cool. Think about a bright future -- it doesn't cost a cent to think about success and millions! Smile a lot! :)

At least when you fail yet another time, you'll not feel so devastated! :D

Or you may hit the jackpot, for a change!:cool: If there is just ONE chance in a million that you'll make Million Dollars, then try it a million times (max) if required! You SHALL make your million $$$ one rich day, may be -- much earlier than "anticipated"!


Remember: There is a hidden "DO IT" in all the above, so be prepared to TAKE ACTION/S!!!
 
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I think you need to Dig deep for a bigger set of Balls My friend. if you have been on here 2 years and havent made money. the problem is defintely your mindset. Take a break for a few days.clear your head and come back on here with a better perspective and dont ever take time to whine.negative thinking creates negative energy - which makes negative outcomes. only you are to blame. get on with it
 
Well from the start youve got to have a made up mind.

Let me ask you this, if all your family is gone, if you cannot find a job, if you have no friends to help you, where are you going to sleep in the rainstorm? Under a bridge?

No your not going to sleep under a bridge because your determined, you know that failure is part of success, and you have decided under no circumstances are you going to give up. Your life depends on it. At all costs you will be a successful internet marketer.

Or you have not made up your mind, you are not determined, in which case you are doomed from the start, better to go work for someone else.

Peace.
 
Here is the way to get you back on your feet & motivate you!

get some paper and start writing all your dreams,
the new car you really want, how this car look desribe it feel it like you have it already.
the house... the income etc...

It helps! just try it :)
 
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Thank you all for the encouragement.
 
Reframe it as feedback. Take each thing as a learning experience. It isnt what happens to us that effects our behavior it is our interpreation. Figure out what is going wrong and fix it. Best 3 ways to learn a skill are experience, knoweldge and mentors. Good luck and keep ur head up homie
 
lmaestro said:
Ive been a failure since 1989.Im 22 now
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Self esteem issue. Find 5 things you love about yourself and will nuture. Find 5 things you hate aobut yourself and will destroy. Put together an action plan with goals, milestones and dates.
 
beeHWfan said:
Well from the start youve got to have a made up mind.

Let me ask you this, if all your family is gone, if you cannot find a job, if you have no friends to help you, where are you going to sleep in the rainstorm? Under a bridge?

No your not going to sleep under a bridge because your determined, you know that failure is part of success, and you have decided under no circumstances are you going to give up. Your life depends on it. At all costs you will be a successful internet marketer.
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THIS right here is my exact situation. I lost my entire family within one year. Both parents, aunt, uncle, cousin, hell even my damn dog died. Then my dads daughter from a previous marriage, whom I might add is a total bitch, tried to sue me to take my properties and other things. There were plenty of nights I sat here wanting to take the easy way out, but I didn't. One of my friends got me back into IM and it changed my life, changed my views, and everything started falling in place. Last year I made more than I have in the last 10 years combined.

Now granted just like everything else in life, there are your up's and downs. It's finding the sweet spot, focusing on the good, and learning how to turn the bad into something positive. (learn from previous mistakes). If you even think about failure, it's more than likely going to happen. Stay positive, and tell yourself failure is not an option. You won't settle for anything but the best. Pump yourself up about it, then put the wheels in motion. I have no doubt that if you do that you will succeed.
 
If you're not failing then you aren't moving towards success! You have to fail to get there.

You have to put failure in a proper perspective. Failure just means that that particular avenue or method or path has been tried, now try another one, and another, and another.......you have to fail to succeed, there is no other way.

All the most successful people are pro's at failing.....all of them, you have to be.

One successful method in IM can be built on many failures, and it's the same with life.

Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going.

Just don't ever give in to self pity, reason is because it takes away all the control you truly have in this life. You become convinced that others have better breaks, more talent, then you stop failing because you stop trying.

Don't ever be afraid of failure, if you're failing a lot then I garantee you're on the path to success at some point.
 
fad3r said:
Self esteem issue. Find 5 things you love about yourself and will nuture. Find 5 things you hate aobut yourself and will destroy. Put together an action plan with goals, milestones and dates.
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lol thanks its more self deprecating then low self esteem.
 
lmaestro said:
lol thanks its more self deprecating then low self esteem.
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No such thing. Do the excercise I gave you. Also start working on your beliefs. If u dont want to try and you are attached to being a victim that is another story
 
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