How do you control your anger?

MrBachir said:
Donald Trump stays calms and communicates his point across.
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1/100 times he does this tho. Not a good example of anger management.

Coming to anger management you need to understand this quote if you really want to manage the anger.

"While contemplating on the objects of the senses, one develops an attachment to them. Attachment leads to desire, and from desire arises anger. Hence, knowing it to be the cause of misery, an intelligent person should renounce desire"
 
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they say use your breath and calm.... I forgot to breath when I am furious XD
 
Just imagine the Other person naked, wearing an Orange colour torn underpant, there you go now you are smiling. and why the hell would you fight with a person wearing an ORANGE TORN UNDERPANT.

Disclaimer :- This post means no harm to people actually wearing it :) :) :)
 
Maybe you should not be so emotionally invested.

I used to get frustrated, not angry, when I talked with youths that were doing harmful acts on their own lives. I really wanted to help so it got to me how I couldn't make any difference.

Now I feel debating is the same. You can prepare your arguments and deliver them however you want. If you don't want to get angry, detach yourself from the the reason why you're getting angry.

It also helps you if your arguing partner wants to troll you.

Edit: if it helps, it should be logical arguments that do the talking, not emotions. If the other party or you can't do that, what's the point. Who is most emotional is correct?

I'm bad at explaining myself lol.
 
Sometimes it's easier to control than others. In certain situations it's impossibly not to get angry, lose control and to show that. No amount of positive mindset or meditation will help that. But..

..In most situations the backdrop of your life contributes more than the events taking place.. ie. if you're already mismanaging your life, not doing any kind of physical activity to relieve stress, and under extreme pressure constantly as a result, you'll flip out at someone that you wouldn't even care about if you had your ducks in a row and didn't have a build up of unspent energy.

For guys especially, regular exercise is magic for being more zen in bad situations. Just one more superpower you get from training to add to the long list of benefits.
 
How to control your anger? Don't get angry in the first place, just smile. :)
 
Invent your own anger management techniques... Everyone is unique.
 
My personal technique is that when I feel that I'm about to get angry, I place my right hand on my heart and I think about my best memories. It helps me a lot.
 
zionbar said:
Easy. don't react right away mate, listen, breath and stay calm.
Worked like magic for me. its about self control, only clowns freak out when u accuse them of something.
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Great advice!
 
davids355 said:
Understand that the only thing you can control is yourself. Anger is normal from frustration that you can’t control something external - someone’s actions or opinion for example.

Understand that it is illogical and then you can take a deep breath and just relax about it, instead focusing your valuable energy on something that’s actually within your control - your own body, thoughts and emotions.
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You are right, but it is hard to stay calm and react normally when you are arguing with someone that is being rude or unjust.
 
bartosimpsonio said:
Well. I guess I'll ask the obvious question. Why are you angry? Find the root cause and work from there.

If you get angry to get your point across....then there gotta be something that tells you you HAVE to get the point across. Work on whatever that is.

Personally I don't give a fuck if I don't get a point across. If I'm angry it's for some other reason, like paying bills or shit like that.
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Yes, what I meant was, like arguing with someone that is rude or unjust and staying calm at the same time.
So explaining your point of view to the other person without making the situation bigger than it is. That is the hard part.

That is why I posted the video of Donald Trump, he does it very well.

He reacts and doesn't let it bother him further, without making a scene out there.
 
For me keep saying slowly god save me and after some time i get control.
 
koliman said:
they say use your breath and calm.... I forgot to breath when I am furious XD
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This hahaha, I think they mean like stop reacting and breathe and then react.
 
MrBachir said:
I'm ashamed to say, that I myself struggle to keep calm when arguing with someone and getting my point across.
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Just don't feel ashamed. If you already see the problem that's a good start. One of my best male friends has a huge problem with his anger but at the same time, he is the best guy and best person I know.

If you have a problem with your anger that doesn't mean you are a bad person (of course if you don't harm anyone), just try to work on yourself every day and stay away as much as you can from people who piss you off.
 
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