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here is my problem with women

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by theseodude, Jun 29, 2013.

  1. theseodude

    theseodude Regular Member

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    when I see a hot girl, I tell myself to go talk to her, but then as soon as i get close to the situation, I get too nervous and talk myself out of it. then I start acting kind of creepy because i am just hanging out around her and looking at her for no reason.
    sometimes in stores i even follow girls around the store because i am telling myself "talk to her dammit. talk to her, now now now."

    please dont give me the typical bullshit like "just do it" or "you gotta be confident"
    if anyone knows how i can cure this problem for real, let me know.
     
  2. Roparadise

    Roparadise BANNED BANNED

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    Drink some whiskey and youll start talking to women, just don't drink to much or youll be a druken asshole, and keep a small flask in your pocket when you need more liquid courage.
     
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  3. TheRealRazzy

    TheRealRazzy Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    This is exactly what I was going to say lol.

    But he may turn into a creepy drunk and double backfire haha :D
     
  4. SmileAtmyWins

    SmileAtmyWins BANNED BANNED

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    I have a fantastic solution for this. :D

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  5. hadoken

    hadoken Regular Member

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    The best way to practice imo is to practice on people you have no interest in. Start a random conversation or give a stranger a high five walking down the street, its jokes.
    Also, care less with what people think of you.
     
  6. t0mmy

    t0mmy Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    Are you Bartman reincarnated by any chance?
     
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  8. us0343

    us0343 Newbie

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    First start practice on social networks try to chat and flirt with girls.lol ;)
    join Fb groups and make female friends.
     
  9. IM Addict

    IM Addict Registered Member

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    Also, the whiskey breath wouldn't help either... :lmao:
     
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  10. mdsurf

    mdsurf Senior Member

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    spend less time trolling bhw and more time being social then it will come more naturally
     
  11. theseodude

    theseodude Regular Member

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    Buy my $97 ebook on how to become confident and pickup girls. It's all in it. :roll:
     
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  13. etmcl

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    heres a simple reason why girls dont like you cuz you are ugly:D


















    j/k
     
  14. FunkyWaltz

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    If you catch her looking at you more than once. She wants you to come talk to her. End of story. So when you make that happen you can basically have her if you keep the conversation interesting. Ask questions. Get her involved in the conversation. When she begins asking you questions, then you basically know its on.

    Hadoken made very valid points as well.
     
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    Just like cold calling clients... The more you do it the easier it gets to have confidence and take control of the conversation
     
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  17. mbreezy

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    Don't follow them, that is creepy. The moment you think you are creeping her you automatically put out the "creep" vibe. She can sense it like a wild animal's intuition.

    You've got to be a savage. You're not trying to get to know her for her own sake. Acknowledge the situation and take what you want.

    If you're afraid of being shot down, realize it is a numbers game and inevitable.

    It takes practice too. It is like everything in life. Apply the same type of principals to getting good at talking to girls just like you would at coding a website. Read a book or watch a YouTube video.

    Meditate and visualize yourself being super sauve and funny with the ladies. Go take action and analyze you successes and failures.
     
  18. Moto801

    Moto801 Senior Member

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    Make more money = working out more = more confidence = girls chase you instead

    Don't chase girls man. It's unattractive to them. Focus on building a better "you" and girls will be all over you.
     
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    Think of it this way.

    The girl could be the most amazing person ever, you guys could have so many things in common and you end up getting married.

    Instead you never meet her and never find the perfect girl because you're too scared to look dumb for 30 seconds.


    Think of the trade off, it's really easy to talk to girls.
     
  20. steelballs

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    OP is your real name Master Bates!
     
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