I HATE TO SAY THIS, BUT : I have a horrible problem, I can't concentrate, I can't work, I can't even think about anything but this freaking problem, it's killing me :sad2: I don't know what to call this, if I say simply, I'm trying to figure out what kind of person I want to become. I've got some problems with weight management and I think it's the main reason that lowers my self-esteem, not only this, it completely ruined my life. I lost faith in myself, I don't believe I can achieve something BIG, I have doubts all the time. So, here's what I wanted to talk about : all the time my thoughts are about how to figure out what kind of person I want to become, what kind of attributes I want to have, it's because I don't like them, I don't like myself the way I are. My thoughts : All my actions are wrong, I act wrong all the time, if I have to improve, how do I have to behave in this situation, in that situation, is that right, will it be OK? I'm afraid that if I take action and try to become a new person it won't be enough. I have two goals : lose some weight / make some money. I've already stared taking massive action, I'm training hard twice a day, working 8/hr daily on my projects but without any faith all the hope disappears, sometimes I think I'm done and I can't improve.... Shit, if you knew how I feel. But, I refuse to give up, I'm gonna make my way to success at any cost, I want to be a new person. Here's what I want to ask you : I think that all I do is wrong (it's not true I'm sure), if I work/train hard, improve everything that needs to be improved, will I be able to gain self-confidence ? I think that only action is useless (I think it's wrong), if I don't teach myself how to behave, how to act with friends/girls etc... I won't be able to improve finally. Other part of myself tells me that all this is WRONG and I only need to take action, every attribute I need will be gained thought work and training, tell me which one is right ? I doubt myself, I think I'm a wrong person, all that SHIT about law of attraction and books about success only made me suspecious towards myself. Answer me : Can I gain all the confidence and attributes while working hard ?! or I'll stay the same ?! How can I make all the bad feelings disappear ? Fuck, I'm like a child asking for candies, but I want to get rid of this fuckin feeling, it kills me! HOW DO I BECOME CONFIDENT?! Sorry for wasting your time, if I don't solve it, I'm done! I don't want to give up on myself, what's your advice?