If this mindset is brought on by these random youtubers, you should stop listening to these retards.
I actually like this update now, like it's going to force me to increase my UX for users, which in return makes me more conversions and more money. And that's just without the ranking boosts. Increased traffic also equals more conversions.
Google have literally made a tool, which allows you to quickly test the page experience for users, so you can optimize your site quicker to increase revenue.
They are literally spoon-feeding you good UX based on their hoarding of data that you would never be able to do alone.
Why would you hate that?
It's not that SEO is dying, it's that black hat SEO is dying. White hat sites are becoming better and better.