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Going to Thailand Need Advice

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by teamred, Feb 11, 2012.

  1. teamred

    teamred Newbie

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    Any one from Thailand or knowledgeable about their customs and travel advice.

    My best friend met a girl from Bangkok, Thailand. She was in the US on a work related Visa. They fell in love and now he going to go over there and bring her back to the US to marry her. He has been sending her about $750.00 a month to take of her. Her parents said that he should give them money because he taking their daughter away from them. Can anyone please give some advice about the parents wanting money and any travel advice that you have so that my friend will be ok over there.

    Thanks for your help

    Joe
     
  2. dannym954

    dannym954 Regular Member

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    My ex girlfriends parents hated me with a passion, they tried all sorts to split us up and in the end we did.

    My current girlfriends parents adore me, they ask about me and invite me out and encourage me to have a good relationship with their daughter and this relationship is going great.

    No matter how long your friend has known the girl her parents have known her longer. The love and respect for parents will in most cases be stronger than that of a spouse. My advice for your friend is to stay on their good side.

    I can only assume her parents aren't that well off and could use a bit of money and in my opinion there's nothing wrong with helping out your lasses parents once in a while. That said, your friend needs to make sure they don't start taking the p**s.
     
  3. trafficsource

    trafficsource Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    I was in Thailand 4 months and it's pretty crazy how Thai girls foolish foreigns. It's all about money but only when people are really stupid ones. Sorry but you friend are stupid one. I am not saying anything bad against Thai girls but if they ask money then....
     
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    thedon23 Elite Member

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    Yeah wtf? Sounds like she is using him to get money and to move to the USA..
     
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    trafficsource Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    but some young Bangkok girls are very beautiful and smart ones and makes crazy money through import-export. It really amazes me how good they spoke if there was some international tradings stuff.
     
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    @teamred when are you going to Thai? I think I am going too and for long time but not 100% sure atm.
     
  7. ottomeier

    ottomeier Registered Member

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    hi,
    I live in Thailand for 5 years.
    750 USD each month is extremely too much money for thais, a regular income is about 300 USD in the month, teacher or engineer.
    Your buddy should not think with the di..!!
    read in this very good forum "thaivisa.com"
    and good luck
    from
    bkk
     
  8. andee

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    i spent a while there,

    trust me your friend is nothing but walking $$$ to them.
     
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  9. asi_av

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    tale your friend u worry about him and u need the vacation so u fly with him to help and have some fun...


    DO NOT take anything!!!!
    go with lil backpack with minimum things u need for the first 2 days.

    buy everything over there.. its so cheap u going to get crazy
    they do tailor made 7 peaces Armani suit for $10 in 1 hour!!
    electronics and everything is cheap u can live out for a day with $5

    and go to the islands to the full moon parties get there deposit all your shit in a safe keep on u $200-$300 and go party like crazy... in case u drink 2 much and fall a sleep on the beach, u will get rub that why u need a safe... lol

    ps
    for $500 u can get miss thai. for 2010

    u still reading???? go look for ticket www.expidia.com
    ;-)
     
  10. mark27

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    How did it go when your friend helped out that Nigerian prince?
     
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  11. TripleBeamDreams

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    Don't ever for one second underestimate the power of the p***y. This girl got your friend whipped and chained. Talk him out of this whole thing. Seriously.
     
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    Hey, I am Thai girl. :) I am from Koh Samui (Samui island).
    The customs of Thailand, you will need to give some money, gold or even land and house to the parents in exchange with their daughter but in the end they will give you and their daughter back. This is to make sure that their daughter will have good life with her husband.

    However, there are some parents who will never ever give that back.
    In the case of your friend, since he already take care that girl every month so if the parents still ask for big money then tell your friend to beware.
     
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    Agreed, (i live here 9 months a year) its part of Thai custom that the Thai's practice themselves when they get married. Its called 'sinsot'. This is not the West and different countries have different customs and traditions. However for some foreigners the parents may not give the money back and even ask for excessive amounts knowing they will not give it back. So a sort of scam for some foreigners.

    But this is not always the case as some parents actually do not ask for a sinsot, especially if their daughter as been married before or has a baby from a previous relationship then a sinsot is not required. So really your friend needs to determine if both the girl and her parents her genuinely good people or just both money grabbers.....however unfortunately (as someone else pointed out) the power of the p**** is very strong so your friend might have to learn the hard way.

    Just one last point, tell your friend to go read and learn about Thai customs (Thaivisa.com is a good start) but do not advise him either way what to do unless asked otherwise he will turn on you and even blame you for future problems....
     
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  14. GoldenGlovez

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    I'm vacationing in Koh Somui for 3 weeks right now. Beautiful place, great food, but too many foreigners (I prefer the off-beaten track).

    As for the parents asking for money, this seems to be a common occurrence in Asian culture. I've seen this type of situation multiple times with foreigners in China. Some offer money and others give the bird. Yes it's a money grab, but they'll do it to locals as well not just a foreigner.
     
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    I really need to learn how to act gay and get gay guys to give me money for doing nothing.
     
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    Want to JV? i'll act as your gold digging mom. :p
     
  17. callmybluff

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    watch out for the lady boys bro

    edit: unless thats how you roll :swordfigh
     
  18. muaythaiguy

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    I live in Thailand too.

    My advice is that your buddy shouldn't get married to a girl who is asking him for for 20,000 baht per month. As someone mentioned, that's more than double the average salary here.

    Why can't she work for her own money?

    As for her family wanting money, well, it's a Thai custom that the husband (technically, the husbands family) give a dowry (cash payment) to the family of the female.

    However, they're getting married in the states anyway so whatever. She'll be making more money by living in the States so she should be the one who sends money back to her own parents IMO.

    As for general travel advice, anything specific you want to know?
     
  19. brainstorm1

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    I'm not too sure about Thailand, but be careful about generalizations. While it may seem like mooching/scamming here, sometimes it is just custom.

    In India it is custom to provide dowry etc., so just a fare warning to be careful in both cases... do not through the relationship out the window, but don't throw money at her either.

    Good luck and enjoy Thailand. I'm sure it is a fabulous place.
     
  20. richboi

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    agreed, don't get scammed bro.