Girlfriend Hates Weed and I enjoy pot

Going through a dilemma in life,
curious to see what some ppl here have to say.

I am 25 years old, have a stable engineering job (not some super lazy pothead, just a normally lazy employee ) and I enjoy smoking. My girlfriend cannot stand to be around pot, and hates being around me when I get high.
She says that I am less talkative and just boring. Though I think we have plenty of 'dull' times from time to time when I'm not high, inevitable because we have been practically living together. Sometimes I might wanna smoke when we are having downtime but I can't around her.

In the long run it seems that it might end up being either pot, or her. There are no ultimatums yet, we have settled for a compromise of me just not being allowed to be high around her.

Since I do think that it is often the case that I do in fact smoke too much sometimes and have a habit of not following proper dietary choices usually when doing so, I was willing to try quitting. Though at some point I just couldn't keep saying no to myself.

I've been smoking for about 5 years and do not see myself wanting to truly quit, it has become a part of my life. I do believe that there are cases where I should be more healthy about dietary choices when I do it, which I have gotten better at. Though for smoking itself I do not want to quit, though at the same time I do not want to strain my relationship with her.

I wonder if in the long run, it will get to the point where I have to choose or if maybe I might find some middle ground with this. After all, I know we would never move in together and really be in it for the long haul with each other if I choose not to quit, or if she chooses not to compromise.

I've tried compromising with only doing edibles last night, but then she got really frustrated at that. Was thinking of seeing if vaping would be better, though I am pretty sure it won't. It's just the fact that I do weed for her.

Which do you like more? Pot or pussy?

Man, thats like asking which do I like more, my right leg, or my left leg?
If I had to choose, I'd say pussy. Its hard to find a woman that has the types of affection, wit, nurture and intelligence that I look for, and she has that. My attraction for not just how she looks but who she is, makes our sex fulfilling.

Pot doesn't do that for me, it gives me a sense of calmness & release, its a way to zone out and stop my mind from thinking all the time. A way to help me stay comfortable staying inside when its impractical to go outside etc... I'm just also really habitually used to doing it by now.

Alchemizt said:

Which do you like more? Pot or pussy?

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whiteblackseo said:

#1 before anything else has to be said.

This should be in the lounge.

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I thought we are in the lounge.

elementis0 said:

I thought we are in the lounge.

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Crap. My EYES. Shit sorry.

Then you have to be a man and put your foot down with her. She will respect you for it in the end a hell of a lot more. Tell her like it is. Tell her you love her but that shit is your medicine. Put your foot down. Be a man. And then give her a good fucking. Not trying to be distasteful or disrespect, but it works.

Edit: assumed we were in lounge.

if she doesnt 540 blaze it then id ditch her

elementis0 said:

Man, thats like asking which do I like more, my right leg, or my left leg?
If I had to choose, I'd say pussy. Its hard to find a woman that has the types of affection, wit, nurture and intelligence that I look for, and she has that. My attraction for not just how she looks but who she is, makes our sex fulfilling.

Pot doesn't do that for me, it gives me a sense of calmness & release, its a way to zone out and stop my mind from thinking all the time. A way to help me stay comfortable staying inside when its impractical to go outside etc... I'm just also really habitually used to doing it by now.

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You are addicted to pot, when you break the addiction you wont need it to calm you down.

Alchemizt said:

Then you have to be a man and put your foot down with her. She will respect you for it in the end a hell of a lot more. Tell her like it is. Tell her you love her but that shit is your medicine. Put your foot down. Be a man. And then give her a good fucking. Not trying to be distasteful or disrespect, but it works.

Edit: assumed we were in lounge.

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I know exactly what you mean. I thought it might be able to quit for her but thats not happening. I'll just have to say this is going to have to be a part of my life, that I love her and also that I'm not choosing weed over her. Rather I'm trying to choose both and I hope she can find a way to tolerate this habit. I'll think more about doing that.

Capo Dei Capi said:

You are addicted to pot, when you break the addiction you wont need it to calm you down.

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You're right I am,
I can't seem to break it though and am getting to the point to where I'm thinking that I don't want to. Its more a way of dealing with boredom than to calm me I believe.

Capo Dei Capi said:

You are addicted to pot, when you break the addiction you wont need it to calm you down.

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I think weed is a beautiful wonderful thing, until you feel like you "need" it. At that point it is just another addiction (psychological) and no longer truly serves you. So I have to agree with capo here.

elementis0 said:

I know exactly what you mean. I thought it might be able to quit for her but thats not happening. I'll just have to say this is going to have to be a part of my life, that I love her and also that I'm not choosing weed over her. Rather I'm trying to choose both and I hope she can find a way to tolerate this habit. I'll think more about doing that.

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Rule number one to "being a man" - don't hope, demand that shit.

Alchemizt said:

Rule number one to "being a man" - don't hope, demand that shit.

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True that.

"I'm the man. I'm gonna do what I want. I need this stuff and I love you. Now respect me, get on the bed and spread your legs."

Seriously? This is how you talk to women?

Smh. Just smmfh.

Alchemizt said:

Then you have to be a man and put your foot down with her. She will respect you for it in the end a hell of a lot more. Tell her like it is. Tell her you love her but that shit is your medicine. Put your foot down. Be a man. And then give her a good fucking. Not trying to be distasteful or disrespect, but it works.

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You have the wrong girlfriend. One asks whether you like pussy or pot more. A useless and counter productive question. With the right GF you can have both pot and pussy.

A long time ago, in a far away and distant land, there was an ant that went looking for food for his family. In his travels he crossed the rail tracks. on the other side he found a piece of cake and decided that it would help feed his family. On the way back he struggled mightily to get over the first rail with the cake; he struggled even harder to get over the second rail. As he crossed the second rail, a train came by and cut a piece of his ass off. The ant decided that it was more important to feed his family than it was to retrieve the part of his butt that was cut off. After he got the cake home, the little ant decided to go back for his tail. He struggled up to the top of the rail and found his behind. As he crossed back to where he climbed up, another train came by and cut his head off.

The moral of the story is "Don't lose your head over a piece of ass."

alwaysinvisible said:

"I'm the man. I'm gonna do what I want. I need this stuff and I love you. Now respect me, get on the bed and spread your legs."

Seriously? This is how you talk to women?

Smh. Just smmfh.

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Yes that is correct. Seriously the point is he has two choices. No three.

1. quit doing it
2. Hide it
3. Continue as is in conflict

So I say either quit for her or be a man and stand up for yourself.

As an aside, I run shit in my house and my woman not only enjoys it, she wouldn't accept less. No woman truly wants a weak man. They want a man to pick them up and fuck them hard once in a while without asking nicely first.

JustUs said:

You have the wrong girlfriend. One asks whether you like pussy or pot more. A useless and counter productive question. With the right GF you can have both pot and pussy.

A long time ago, in a far away and distant land, there was an ant that went looking for food for his family. In his travels he crossed the rail tracks. on the other side he found a piece of cake and decided that it would help feed his family. On the way back he struggled mightily to get over the first rail with the cake; he struggled even harder to get over the second rail. As he crossed the second rail, a train came by and cut a piece of his ass off. The ant decided that it was more important to feed his family than it was to retrieve the part of his butt that was cut off. After he got the cake home, the little ant decided to go back for his tail. He struggled up to the top of the rail and found his behind. As he crossed back to where he climbed climbed up, another train came by and cut his head off.

The moral of the story is "Don't lose your head over a piece of ass."

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Funny story but I would also say don't lose your ass (or head) over a little bit of pot. I'd figure it out if I loved her...one way or the other.

alwaysinvisible said:

"I'm the man. I'm gonna do what I want. I need this stuff and I love you. Now respect me, get on the bed and spread your legs."

Seriously? This is how you talk to women?

Smh. Just smmfh.

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As he says though, he is not trying to be distasteful. He knows it sounds disrespectful, though he is right about it working. A male who acts too unsure of himself about important topics seems indecisive and weak. If it is something I want, I have to say it is what I really want. I can still hope she can deal though and see if we can reach compromise or at least come to the realization about whether or not she can really handle it.
I don't want her to feel I'm choosing it over her and do think it would be good to not do it, as I believe there is dependency by now with me and it. Though I am not at a point to where I am ready or willing to quit.

JustUs said:

You have the wrong girlfriend. One asks whether you like pussy or pot more. A useless and counter productive question. With the right GF you can have both pot and pussy.

A long time ago, in a far away and distant land, there was an ant that went looking for food for his family. In his travels he crossed the rail tracks. on the other side he found a piece of cake and decided that it would help feed his family. On the way back he struggled mightily to get over the first rail with the cake; he struggled even harder to get over the second rail. As he crossed the second rail, a train came by and cut a piece of his ass off. The ant decided that it was more important to feed his family than it was to retrieve the part of his butt that was cut off. After he got the cake home, the little ant decided to go back for his tail. He struggled up to the top of the rail and found his behind. As he crossed back to where he climbed climbed up, another train came by and cut his head off.

The moral of the story is "Don't lose your head over a piece of ass."

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Yes you are right, with the right girl I can have both. I disagree with the conclusion of that story though, I'm not losing my ass over it. Its more like I'd just be breaking a limb for a while and it would take a while for it to heal and just be a bit different than what it used to be. I'd consider doing that for a family.

elementis0 said:

Yes you are right, with the right girl I can have both. I disagree with the conclusion of that story though, I'm not losing my ass over it. Its more like I'd just be breaking a limb for a while and it would take a while for it to heal and just be a bit different than what it used to be. I'd consider doing that for a family.

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I quite disagree with you on the matter. You are discussing a private matter on a public forum that is active in several countries. You are so conflicted that you have already lost your head, and it is a piece of ass that has done it.

Alchemizt said:

Funny story but I would also say don't lose your ass (or head) over a little bit of pot. I'd figure it out if I loved her...one way or the other.

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Love is a chemical reaction.