Fear of getting married

I am never getting married. The thought of waking up everyday to the same ol' woman terrifies me.

I'm going to be like Leonardo DiCaprio or Derek Jeter.

Can you imagine this girl lives with a man other than you ?
If it doesn't matter , then do't get married. If you want to be with her, then bring all your love to this wedding .

Hello, Change your thinking, think positive and accept the reality. Respect your partner. Take care of yourself and your partner. May God bless you both.

USA282 said:

Hey guys,

So I am getting married in 2 days and the only time I remember being so stressed was my result day in high school. Maybe this time it's even worse. It's not like i don't love this girl. We've been together for more than 5 years and everything has been great so far.
It's just that I don't feel prepared for such a big responsibility. As if marriage isn't my thing. I love my privacy, my decisions, my work, my time, myself etc. I discussed this with a friend who thought I am being too selfish. But I guess selfishness is something when you are demanding for love, care, help, support but aren't willing to offer the same. My life has always been perfect. My work has always been my real love. Never felt the need of a partner to fill in the emptiness because there is no emptiness. Well, I guess it's too late to realize this. I should have thought of this back in Oct 2016 or 5 years ago when we first started dating.
I don't really understand why am I sharing this here, actually its kind of releasing off some burden in my heart. Hope everything goes well.

Would love to hear your opinions, experiences and suggestions.

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I am married and my wife just gave me a cute little boy who is now 3 months old.

I can never thank my wife enough for the wonderful gift.

And i am waiting for the day my son starts to talk and call me "papa".


Its not all that bad, OP.
Look on the bright side! =)

lol, you are just nerves, this happens with everyone, just toss the coin and ask yourself what do you really want.
this is right step, any girl with more than 6 months around is already a wife,And you are together for a pretty long time, this gonna be fine, just don't let your child spam the BHW

So you are 24, maybe you are too young, but since you have 2 days watch all episodes that you can of "Married with children" that will clear all your doubts above getting married

So sad

USA282 said:

Well, wish I could just cancel it but there's no going back at this point or I will end up breaking so many hearts I honestly think I would end up being a huge disappointment for everyone. Last year I tried so hard to explain her about this, but I couldn't bear those tears. Hope she understand and give me enough space. I've always been extremely timely for everything I do, ex, Wake up at 8:00, gym at 8:45, work at 10:00, talk to my gf from 22:00-23:30 etc. My habit really drives everyone crazy.

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Dude, you got 1 day left. Make or break time.

Stag Night Tonight?

USA282 said:

hehe, her mum's like 65 and Im 25

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Last resort, try her Dad, that will be the easy way out, tell everybody you are Gay.

Asif WILSON Khan said:

Dude, you got 1 day left. Make or break time.

Stag Night Tonight?



Last resort, try her Dad, that will be the easy way out, tell everybody you are Gay.

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Ha ha my best man stood at the front of the church next to me, handed me a hip flask of vodka and said to me " You don't need to do this if you don't want to " I turned around and saw my parents there all proud, family and friends then she arrived and the organ started playing....

After we got divorced her father asked me why I married his daughter in the first place, "tax reasons" wasn't the best answer I guess.

@USA282 Look, dude. You obviously don't look like you want to marry this girl, but you also don't want to break people's hearts blah blah.

I know how it feels, when you make a commitment to someone and now you feel like dissapointing everybody. But you should remember that it's your life. Fuck other people. It's about you.

I know, I know, I'm harsh, but it's not like someone is going to die or something.

Wouldn't you much better fix the problem now than later? These kinds of decisions will backfire later in your marriage, and disputes will start even from pathetic things.

I know one survival show where people starting a verbal fight from a potato. A potato dude.

For once in your life, be a man and face her. Tell her how you feel about it. You've been together for 5 years and she should now these things about you.

On the other hand, OP. How does she feel about the wedding? Is she super excited or is she feeling the same as you? You should know these things.

Asif WILSON Khan said:

Dude, you got 1 day left. Make or break time.

Stag Night Tonight?



Last resort, try her Dad, that will be the easy way out, tell everybody you are Gay.

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Too late for everything at one point i decided to run away but it would be cruel My sis told me that shes super excited and happy. Everyone at her place is partying and I am sitting here depressed and working.

USA282 said:

Too late for everything at one point i decided to run away but it could be cruel My sis told me that shes super excited and happy. Everyone at her place is partying and I am sitting here depressed and working.

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Mate seriously. You should talk to her ASAP. Chanses are, she's already suspicious. Either you're an oscar winning actor or she already knows. Not only you, but she's also going to regret it, because she felt it and didn't act. For the best of both of you, tell her.

This is why I went from the blue pill to the red pill, best decision of my life

ah, you've fallen for the good old marriage meme. Well good luck!

USA282 said:

Too late for everything at one point i decided to run away but it would be cruel My sis told me that shes super excited and happy. Everyone at her place is partying and I am sitting here depressed and working.

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This a bad sign but I hope everything works out for you and you have a good marriage BUT if you really really don't want to go through with it, it isn't too late.
If you think you will be unhappy then better it stop it now than face going through with it and spending your time hating being married and eventually hating your wife.
Although everything may turn out alright, only you know deep down how you really feel.
Good Luck to you anyway.

if you live in the united states DO NOT get married, i'm telling you. just trust me on this your life will be a lot better

USA282 said:

Too late for everything at one point i decided to run away but it would be cruel My sis told me that shes super excited and happy. Everyone at her place is partying and I am sitting here depressed and working.

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IF you are being serious here, ask yourself this. Is is not better to end things before the wedding than after?

This young lady loves you so if you break it off now, you lose a bunch of money, a few friends ( who weren't true friends really) and her family will hate you. BUT you are both young enough to walk away and make a fresh start.

OR you go ahead, get married and end up in a loveless marriage. At some point one of you may want kids, it's then when things take a turn for the worst if you're still unhappy. Why wait till there are kids, a home and mortgage and other considerations then announce you want a divorce.

Nobody is holding a gun to your head, if you really are unsure - DON'T DO IT, be a man and admit this is not going to work/ this is not what you want.

You're only on this earth once, don't screw it up when there's a chance to avoid doing so.

As for me & marriage, I Have then thousands of reasons not to do it hhhh.
My advice is to Never do something that you don't fell OK with, just to make other's happy, even if it's your family, I did that before & ended up losing 3 yeas of my life, they will be happy for you one or two days, they'll eat food, get drinks, and dance & partying all the night, but then it's just you and your decision against the life.
We only live once, just do what you want, either if it's getting married or Completing your life Standing alone .
Good luck in your life.

Kurdo said:

This is why I went from the blue pill to the red pill, best decision of my life

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I am freaking wondering if the OP never heard of both pills

OP, It's no use reiterating what everyone have said already. It's obvious your head isn't in this union. It's also obvious you still wanna "live life" a bit. In my country, they say "A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage".

You can bail now by explaining things to her and everybody fully vested in this union, or just end up being miserable later.

Love isn't enough reason to wanna get married IMHO. People fall in and out of love every time.

I'd advice you get married when you're truly ready mentally and emotionally. Heck, you are only 25! Why the fucking rush, buddy?

As for me, I'm headed the Leonardo DiCaprio route. I'm shopping around for 2 surrogate moms within Colombia to bore me the 2 kids I've always hoped for.

Until then, I'm going on to living my dream of spending 6 days in every country I visit. The idea is to visit 200 countries before I am 40 and I got a long way before I hit those milestones.

In closing, dude, don't do shit to please folks and end up being unhappy. Do shit because it feels good to you and makes you happy first; every other person comes right after. I know that came off as being selfish, but even your bible already told ya to please yourself first

I'm out!

P.S. If you do go through with the wedding, please do man up to the wedding vows.