Emotional dependence

As I said in my last post (https://www.blackhatworld.com/seo/i...ne-girl-i-think-im-like-a-male-whore.1672602/), in the last few years, I used to use dating apps to be more social and meet girls. I'm a shy guy, I don't have any friends in real life.

However, right now I have a girlfriend and I feel even more isolated from society. Like many of you guys, I also work alone from home. I can't use apps to date anymore for obvious reasons. My family lives in another country, I'm basically isolated.

Today I read this thread; https://www.blackhatworld.com/seo/h...work-at-home-introvert-members.1673894/unread

I feel identified because I'm shy and I struggle a lot trying to make new friends, that's why I used dating apps to find new people and leave my comfort zone. I'm afraid that I might be developing a troublesome emotional dependence on my girlfriend, because she is the only person that I have contact with, besides my parents by phone.

I don't go to the gym or any other place that could work to find friends. And I just leave my house to go to the supermarket, buy stuff, restaurants, cinema, sometimes visit a place, but always take some photos and go back home, I don't feel comfortable at all starting a conversation with a stranger without any context, that's why I used dating apps, because with them, you at least knows a bit about the person before knowing her in person.

What do you guys suggest? Should I break up and go back to a life leaving more, meeting several girls and with less emotional dependence? Or there is no problem about it and I should stay with my girlfriend and don't have contact with anybody else? I know that a third option should be included (where I make more friendships and maintain my relationship), but it's not easy for me having serious social and anxiety issues, I don't know what to do...in 2019-2020 with my ex-girlfriend the same happened, I kept years just talking to her with any friends or social conversation with other people, it can be hard and I guess it would develop dependence.

Going to a fighting gym 2x or 3x a week will solve most of your issues you describe here. Even after a month you will see serious difference.

Boxing, kick-boxing, muay thai, BJJ or wrestling.

deppo said:

Going to a fighting gym 2x or 3x a week will solve most of your issues you describe here. Even after a month you will see serious difference.

Boxing, kick-boxing, muay thai, BJJ or wrestling.

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Are you doing this?

MR.Spuf said:

Are you doing this?

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Boxing.

MR.Spuf said:

Are you doing this?

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Im doing it!!! lol

Ask your inner child & obey his voice for better Good.

I f eel you deeply bro. I can prefer to you something
u can share your feeling chat gpt and ask him to how to do
if you like to listen techno music you can join some rave maybe u can find easily reel friends

thewhitehorse said:

I f eel you deeply bro. I can prefer to you something
u can share your feeling chat gpt and ask him to how to do
if you like to listen techno music you can join some rave maybe u can find easily reel friends

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Nope, to be honest I don't feel good in this kind of environment, too noisy and tons of people, I prefer more quiet places

Xvinus said:

Im doing it!!! lol

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HIIIIiiiiiii <3

How are you sleeping with so many women whilst being so shy lmao.

Anyway, I would focus on making more friendships. Maybe with people who you can find some similar interest with. I think going outside your comfort zone may give you an adventure that you never thought was possible.

It's not normal behaviour and you yourself are aware of that. First of all - are you introverted or have social anxiety? These are NOT the same. Easy way to tell: introvert is alone because he/she wants to, not because of psychological problems or emotional blockages. It's just natural to introvert to be alone and it doesn't feel lonely. To me you sound like someone that's afraid of emotional closeness, that's why you whore yourself out but freak out when you have a serious relationship. Go get a real therapist, we're not qualified to help you.

PinkZebra said:

Nope, to be honest I don't feel good in this kind of environment, too noisy and tons of people, I prefer more quiet places

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are you like to read books or thinking nature?
where are you from
If u came turkey i can hangin out with you mate

SilverClouds said:

It's not normal behaviour and you yourself are aware of that. First of all - are you introverted or have social anxiety? These are NOT the same. Easy way to tell: introvert is alone because he/she wants to, not because of psychological problems or emotional blockages. It's just natural to introvert to be alone and it doesn't feel lonely. To me you sound like someone that's afraid of emotional closeness, that's why you whore yourself out but freak out when you have a serious relationship. Go get a real therapist, we're not qualified to help you.

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Both. I like to spend most of the time alone, but I don't like to be isolated and spend 99% of the time alone, I hope you understand, even introvert people like to have someone sometimes. On the other hand, I also suffer from severe social anxiety, even going to the supermarket alone is hard for me, but that's it, I try to leave my comfort zone as much as I can. Thanks for answering

thewhitehorse said:

are you like to read books or thinking nature?
where are you from
If u came turkey i can hangin out with you mate

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thanks bud, turkey is far from my country but i appreciate your intentions