Dealing with failure and depression

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Hey guys

Like many others here I started IM because I was depressed, I had just dropped out of school, and I wanted to do something with my time when I wasn't at work but....
I keep on failing at everything I do and it's really depressing, especially when everyone I know is going places while I'm stuck in the same place and by the looks of it, will probably be stuck in my deadbeat job for the rest of my life.


How do you deal with failure and depression?
 
Fuck it and Move On!!..........Keep Moving Still
 
OP,
How old are you and which country are you in ?
 
I have found that Depression for me was brought on by a lack of purpose, find your purpose or create one and look at IM as a means to an end which funds that purpose. Let nothing stop you, make that purpose your obsession, next thing you know its been 3 years and your smashing your goals and on pace to seize your purpose, or maybe IM has become your purpose at some point, ahh who knows. This is my experience though.

Tune all bullshit out w/ the tasks at hand.
 
I keep on failing at everything I do and it's really depressing,

Would you please be kind enough to elaborate on everything?
Cause I feel like that you multi-task a lot, to the point you can't focus on one thing at a time to succeed.

It's not you, it's lack of aiming at one thing at a time I believe.
 
I have found that Depression for me was brought on by a lack of purpose, find your purpose or create one and look at IM as a means to an end which funds that purpose. Let nothing stop you, make that purpose your obsession, next thing you know its been 3 years and your smashing your goals and on pace to seize your purpose, or maybe IM has become your purpose at some point, ahh who knows. This is my experience though.

Tune all bullshit out w/ the tasks at hand.
Nothing can stop man but for no reasons Facebook keeps banning for doing White Hat also.

That is most depressing.
 
FFS not another of these threads.

OP if you have real depression then go see a Doctor. If you are just feeling like a loser then get off your arse and work.
 
Hey guys

Like many others here I started IM because I was depressed, I had just dropped out of school, and I wanted to do something with my time when I wasn't at work but....
I keep on failing at everything I do and it's really depressing, especially when everyone I know is going places while I'm stuck in the same place and by the looks of it, will probably be stuck in my deadbeat job for the rest of my life.


How do you deal with failure and depression?
That's your first mistake thinking everyone is going places. Maybe you only NOTICE the people who go places, and you ignore all the others in your situation.
If you wanna strive to be better just look back, see what you did wrong, and do better.
 
Nothing can stop man but for no reasons Facebook keeps banning for doing White Hat also.

That is most depressing.
You're doing it wrong then, Facebook isnt the problem, your processes are. Do better, figure it out and exploit the holes.
 
Because You're doing it for all the wrong reasons. IM is a lot of work and failure but you need to have fun doing it. It has to be a passion if you plan on getting anywhere with it. It's like working on cars, it's going to take a lot of time failing and making mistakes but after time you start learning from there and become a master mechanic. you're using IM to solve you problems and when it does't work you beat yourself up. Do it because it's fun and exciting and it won't even matter if you fail (not make money) because you still have a blast doing it. Its like the saying "a bad day fishing is better than any day in the office". Make IM your fishing. Because looking back it's when it's new and uncharted when you have the most fun.

When companies start out of some garage was the best time, not after they make the millions. It's your first kiss or when you drank you first beer, not after going to the bar ever weekend. That's why rich people always start more companies, its because the beginning is the more exciting part of it, don't rob yourself from it. Become passionate about being passionate and you will succeed you just need to enjoy the whole process.
 
When companies start out of some garage was the best time, not after they make the millions.

agree. no 90% fail with Vcapital after 2 years. blog or publish books about their failures and make a killing that way
wow.. impressive. sure not my people to learn from.
 
Well, my post is going to be a bit of a self-help mumbo jumbo that many people will label as crap, but it's completely true. There's even a sticky post about this exact thing somewhere on this forum (why most people fail, or something like that), phrased in a different way, can't remember where exactly.

When you're in the "Failure and Depression" "Loop", you have to get out of it. It's a loop because negative feedback (failing campaigns, etc.) creates more bad results. You fail at something minor and that further reinforces your belief that you are not good at IM, etc. As a result, you expect the next thing you do to fail(because that's the norm for you now), therefore you do a crappy and half-assed job at it, fully assuring it will fail.

If you made a million bucks(or even $1k, the actual numbers are irrelevant) on your last marketing campaign, you know you're good and you know if you put in the work you will get results, therefore when you're making a landing page you really put all your energy into it and completely engage in the process, perfecting everything. As a result, you're in the upper spiral of success(where you expect things to work, therefore you put your time into them), and not the downward spiral of failure(where you rush things, trying to get by and cope, half-assing everything and focusing on crappy BS methods, like spamming comments, etc). The spiral of failure happens when you doubt what you're doing will work(because it didn't work last time), therefore you do only the minimum required to "get by". If you follow a method posted on BHW, you don't do all the steps fully, you skip some of them and you rush things, further digging yourself into failure.

There are a few ways to get out of this dangerous failure loop. The one that's 100% effective is getting that first sale. Once you do, your brain sees something is working and it's easy to keep going. That's why people often say persistence is key. If you persist for long enough in the face of failure, even if you're a dummy, you eventually get a sale and from there it's easy to keep going. Once your brain "buys in" something, mental resistance dissolves and you start seeing the upside, instead of coping, getting by and focusing on BS methods. The other is changing your emotional state, which is where books like "The Miracle Morning" or "Parallel Universes of self" come in.

So, your "block" is mental, it's not that a certain method or traffic source doesn't work. Any method out there, there are people making serious money with it. Even methods considered redundant, like article marketing, micro niche sites, etc, there are people making a killing with them still. So, it's not the actual method, is how you execute it and having the right knowledge about it.
 
Lespecially when everyone I know is going places

First lesson: Ignore it.
Think of it that way: They are going places, for now.
When you focus and find your purpose or passion, example IM, and you make it,
you will pass them and go even higher places.
Just because everyone has more than you now, doesn't mean they will have more than you in the future,
you must think of it like a marathon.
 
Ignore it and believe in yourself. The best and only way forward. Grow confidence.
 
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