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Body language is shit

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by shanna_doll, Jan 11, 2015.

  1. shanna_doll

    shanna_doll Power Member

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    So there is this girl, she was staring at me for the past 1 and a half years or so.. she wasn't like literally staring but I caught her several times turning around to see me, she was looking at me in a club in a cute way for like 2 hours, she passed me in a club once and when she was soo close to me she raised her head and looked in my eyes for a second.., when she used to pass a shop where I used to lounge with my friends, she was playing with her hair looking at me and I was 99% sure that she is into me. No matter where I stumbled upon her, every time we met each other she was doing some weird stuff like watching me directly in the eyes for long and acting like she is shy even she is actually not.. And much more stuff happened..

    I have had a gf before and I met some girls so I'm not a kid, but even my female friend said that this is soo obvious and that I'm just wasting my time because someone else could grab her. She kinda looks like a very serious girl, because she never smiles (guys know what I'm talking about) but still I thought I should approach finally.. However, I don't see her very often, so I couldn't stand the pressure and I just sent her a message on Facebook..

    Result: SEEN


    Needles to say, I'm feeling like shit, I don't believe any of body language 'signs' anymore. How do you guys deal with this shit ?

    tl;dr - met this girl, saw her watching me and doing some stuff I thought she is into me like I have never met a girl that was soo much into me.. result: SEEN on stupid FB
     
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  3. rabbitking

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    Move on to another one. From your OP it seems as if you lack confidence and
    power talking skills. Work on those. Don't chase women, instead let them chase
    you after you have worked on improving your own situation.
     
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  4. lancis

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    Are you sure she is not cross-eyed? And was actually staring past you all this time?
     
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  5. wizard04

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    OP WTF bro! Why would you send her a facebook message, why?
    Its obvious you wimped out, you needed to act then when she was feeling it, you miss your chance.

    My advice if you know a girl in person(situation like this) don't make the first move via facebook, it make you look bad like you don't have the b*** to go talk to her.
     
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  6. LostConnection

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    Act when being acted upon. It's not like James Bond waits for the girl to wink at her, then goes home and sends her a Facebook message.
     
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  7. shanna_doll

    shanna_doll Power Member

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    LOL I can't get myself some because I'm more into emotional stuff than mere sex. Well to be honest I had huge problems before because I was kind of degraded and fucked up by my so called friends in elementary school and I had hard time getting confidence even in high school but after reading some pick up forums (simple pick up forum) I gained confidence and I approached like 5-6 women and it was kinda easy. Now I have confidence and I consider myself pretty (even if that sounds stupid) but this girl.. this girl is kinda scary to me.. and I wanted to approach her but I see her every 2 months or so.. and that happens randomly.. but every time I see her, I noticed some stuff going on so I couldn't stand the pressure and just asked her on FB literally when she is planning to go out so I can approach her.. that has been my message on FB.. and yeah I probably wimped out, but if she likes me, then why she didn't respond at least something that could give me a hint.. -.-
     
  8. Ricky Roma

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    you should write: "pls respond"
     
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  9. Trepanated

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    I think by not responding she was giving you a hint

    If you'd just bothered to speak to her in person you would have known either way.
     
  10. Asif WILSON Khan

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    I think you should send her another FB message OP, then see if she has a Twitter or IG account.
    I am sure that if you approach her on all her social media accounts she will be impressed.
     
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    If I were you I would not really message her on social networks but probably would invite her or sth and yeah SEEN hurts
    I know right , I am in my early twenties and this thing has happened several times to me too but as long as I met these ho's on real life I kinda managed to do sth about it , I mean they once ignored me on fb but not in the real life though
     
  12. splishsplash

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    Holy shit. A girl stares at you in person multiple times. You're too timid to talk to her on all those occasions and eventually you MESSAGE HER ON FB? Are you FOR REAL?

    That's the lamest thing you could have possibly done. It was lame enough that you didn't talk to her the first time she looked at you, but you could have maybe gotten away with it had you approached her irl, but to make a first approach on facebook after real life eye contact. Words can't describe just how bad of a move that is. That's why you've got a "SEEN". She'll think you're a creepy weirdo with something to hide.

    Because girls don't "like" guys the way guys like girls. She doesn't like you for your looks. She thinks you look potentially interesting and wants to find out if she's attracted to you. When you approach her with confidence that's when she'll like you. You sent her a message on fb. She'll be turned off by you now.
     
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  13. seeplusplus

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    What the hell does "SEEN" mean?!

    And yeah you blew it bro, you acted like a pussy by making your move through FB and she lost all attraction for you.

    Ya lives and learns pal ;)
     
  14. Capo Dei Capi

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    Send her pics of yourself naked, it works for all the men on CL looking for dates.
     
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    Don't think you should've went through FB besides Screenshot is a powerful tool and people like to use it to there advantage hahahaha take my advice before you send another FB message.
     
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    all that time i was thinking you were a girl :S thats some fucked up username OP :D
     
  17. aussiejack

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    you are writing she stares at you for ours, thinking about you all the time etc. The truth is you probably did the same. You seem to overthinking this case because you are in scarcity. Whenever a man does not have enough girls at a time he begins to think about this one girl all the time, attaches far too much meaning to harmless interactions etc.

    this is just pure neediness. Get yourself options with girls and generally in life. When you have options nothing is a big deal anymore. This girl would just have been one options amongst others, you would have thought less about her and probably would not have done some stupid action out of mental mindfuck

    go and approach girls regularly and situations like this wont happen anymore. Or if they happen you wont care and wont open a thread on bhw.
     
  18. evilman11

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    OP never said anything about being a man or woman. Nothing wrong with some girl on girl action.
     
  19. mancar487

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    lol was the message you sent her creepy by any chance?
     
  20. muscleteen

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    You... You are trolling right?