Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Nick1, Aug 3, 2012.
Which is the lesser of two evils and why?
No friends is far better than bad friends in my opinion.
It all depends on how secure you are in your own company. Myself, I don't fear loneliness in the slightest. I actually like my own time. A lot of us connected to the IM world are probably similiar in that respect.
It is inevitable that bad friends will cause you pain.
Friends can easily be found if you have the confidence to do things alone. Gym, bars, whatever.
A bad friend isn't really a friend.
Depends on how you define bad. Someone that will take extreme advantage of you? Or just someone that's more of an acquaintance than a friend?
This^^^. So True!
Man I have had tons of bad friends. We attract certain types of people and i think I have just attracted pieces of shits. In the end I got rid of all those who weren't really a good friend and now I am left with my dog.
It is a lonely world yes. Very lonely. My advice. Get a dog. He would never do shady shit and he's always there for you.
I never got any best friend in life. So any person who thinks good about me, I keep him or her in category "good" and those who are always in fight or argument with me, I keep them in "bad".
I personally found that pets or say any animal than human are better to be around you. If you're above 25 and finding it hard to get friend, don't try harder. Just be smart, keep smiling and avoid conflicts.
Oh and don't forget, read robert greene's book - 48 laws of power. It is good book that sets your worldview.
How to you determine bad friends? Everyone has some bad qualities, and noone is perfect either. I would go for bad friends then no friends. Just make sure you see the good side of your friends more. Also, I wouldnt want to become a recluse!
What do you consider as a "bad" friend? There's a large variety of what people would think a "bad" friend is. Is it someone who takes advantage of you are do you mean it as in the "wrong crowd" of people?
i would much rather have no friends.
that's pretty much where i am now in life anyways.
i only have one friend.
why? because i would much rather be alone than be around bad friends. simple.
just my opinion.
wtf is a friend?
Having no friends is better than having "fake" friends, AKA friends who just use you, or contact you whenever they need something.
You were brought into this world alone, and you will die alone. Its sad, but its a fact of life.
YOU are your only true friend in this age. Sure, you might encounter people who become friends over time. And that is a good thing. Humans NEED socialization by nature.
But don't let anybody take advantage of you, just for the sake of "not being lonely"
Its not worth it.
I try to be a good friend with someone, but she's bitchy. No social skills. Moody. Abrasive. Very attractive, physically and always has a bunch of guys circling. But she's always lonely. Calls me all the time, wants to hang on the phone, wants me to come over, etc... so I do, being friendly and all but jeez what a bitch. Like, seriously she might have some kind of disorder, IDK but we hang out for a while, she waits around for me to try and get "romantic" and I don't (older and wiser, lol) and at some point I decide it's time to leave and I go.
She's surrounded by horny guys and has never learned to earn a real friendship, IMO. They treat her well because they want to get laid, and ignore the fact that she's an abrasive bitch. Then she runs into me, wants me to fall into the same pattern, I know better and keep it at "friends" level and she doesn't know how to act. Complete retard. No social skills at all. Put her into a room with a guy that doesn't want to f(ck her and the relationship goes exactly nowhere.
Not sure how this all fits into the OP, but it's been on my mind for a while so I'm writing about it. The hot chick that has spent so much time surrounded by horny guys that she can't have a normal relationship with a guy that doesn't want to f(ck her because she's an abrasive bitch with no social skills, and she's lonely. I try to be a good friend, but other than falling into the same old pattern, there's not much I can do. Maybe part of what I'm getting at is maybe there's a reason why some people are surrounded by "bad friends". I feel the pressure to fall into a pattern that she is used to with other men in this context; it follows there are probably more and well, bad "friend" dynamics probably attract each other. Maybe the way to avoid bad friends is not to have NO friends, but instead break whatever destructive pattern that may have been unknowingly developed.
When you are young, everything is "1st time ever" and "one-off", but if a person has a repeated history with no other common denominator than themselves, then it's pretty certain that the problem is that person. Women that constantly have abusive boyfriends is one good example. I mean, they don't all get together and have a meeting on Friday nights and discuss way in which they can be abusive assholes to her, DUH. At some point, she herself is the common denominator. Patterns don't occur by pure chance, and if one does not want to repeat those patterns, it would be a good idea to figure out why they keep happening as a 1st step toward making changes. Having 0 friends isn't making necessary changes, it's just a temporary arrest until something else happens.
A friend is someone that adds something positive to your life, that has picked you up from the gutter. If not he is someone you are friendly with.
Most people think they have friends till they fall.
If given the choice, it depends on how bad those friends are. A human being is a social creature but it needs to be positive interaction to be of any value. Based on that knowledge, you should be able to make your choice between no friends or bad friends.
Also, a bad friend doesn't need to be criminal or anything, you can just decide to not be surrounded by potheads any more and find out where the Menza people gather in your area.
People are influenced by who they hang out with, tend to develop the same train of thought. Don't expect rocket science from a cleaner unless he is from Russia so be concious about who you hang out with.
Definitely no friends over bad friends. For example: I've been hanging out in Bangkok the last week and don't know too many people. Even though I don't know too many people I'm still enjoying every day working on my projects and walking around the city meeting NICE people as I go, I meet and interact with amazing people but I wouldn't consider them my friends because of our limited interaction. (temporary) Good people, interactions, and experiences are much more important than someone who is there all of the time yet is a bad friend in some way
Bad or fake? Almost everyone is, but there are people that will surprise you. Some friends don't want to see you succeed or accomplish things. Others are right there with you trying to do everything they can to help you out. I had more random people that were willing to like my fan page after asking nicely, than I did from asking friends. Kind of puts it all into perspective.
No friends ; i only have my family really. I know i can always count on them. And i have like 1 good friend.
My wife is my best friend. We work beside each other (literally) all day, every day. If you think you and your mate are compatible trying working side by side all day, everyday. I will confess there are days the earbuds go in so I don't have to hear her anymore. She's probably just as relived.
You've got to have at least one partner or true friend to share life's losses and wins.
Check out the makeuseof.com's recent article on social success. they have some nice sites listed which you can use for the better understanding of how to manage yourself socially.
Exactly, Really agree with this.
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